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Author:  shadzzz [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 4:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Punishing attached GF with break-up to fix her behaviour
Here's the deal, I'm in a relationship with a keeper, a devoted, jealous and hot girl but I haven't exactly been satisfied with the way she chooses to spend her time lately and it's currently doing damage to our relationship without her realising it.
Her schedule has been a bit full because of exams. The period of this was 1 week and there are 2 days left so no problem by my side, I completely understand that. We still see eachother but there's close to none communication inbetween and we're starting to lose it. Thing is she's doing this to herself because of the way she spends her time- goes to school, sleeps after school up to around 5pm and either prepares for when we meet at around 8 or plays LoL (League of Legends) if we are not going to. Time of going out varies, this is just and example. Gets back and plays again till late. While playing that game, I rather not talk to her on the phone because she's getting distracted from the game and loses focus over the call. Therefore I get annoyed and end the call as soon as I can. She knows that. We lately even rarely message eachother(like 1-2 messages a day) on facebook or texts due to her lifestyle again. There's no actual communication in these texts/messages- just kisses, random cute/porn gifs and pics. It's annoying to get messages after hours from your gf. I delay the answer to those, too, following pua rules. Other than that, we've been hitting off pretty well and there's effort from both sides when we are together.
I'm moving to another town to work and we will see eachother up to 3 times a week from now on. I believe communication is key and this cannot go on. She hasn't typed a single meaningful sentence apart from sending kisses, saying "I miss you so much", "hug me" and sending some pic/gif for a while.

Would breaking up with her be a wise choice as not to come off as needy and AFC for bringing that conversation up? She will hundred percent crawl back to me and cry her ass off because she's pretty attached, fears losing me. Hopefully that will make her fix her sh1t.

How do I approach this? Telling her we don't talk/text might create awkwardness in future and make me look weaker and needy.
I need advice.


What would be the best way to handle this? I'm open to suggestions. Which of these would give the right message?
1- break up over the phone and keep her in the dark and not give reasons until we meet
2- break up (over the phone) telling her I'm not happy with her behaviour lately and tell her we might meet sometime during the weekend when she asks for explanation (i'm sure she will)
3- break up (over a text), telling we're losing communication, reply to 1-2 texts and freeze her out.
4- just talk it out when I get back
5- freeze her out completely (phone, texts, fb), get back in town and not call again. talk to her on Friday or Saturday, meet up and break up.
6- point out this has been going for a while and break up.
Author:  Wizzay [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 5:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Punishing attached GF with break-up to fix her behaviour
Breaking up is not the way to make a point with someone. Thats way to insecure move I think. Just tell her its bothering you, see how she reacts, don't throw an ultimatum. Nothing wrong with telling her behavior doesn't please you. Also you should look at yourself and not ask for so much affection, and if you really do want it, and she cant give it, time to think if this is a healthy relationship. Good luck
Author:  krular [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 5:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Punishing attached GF with break-up to fix her behaviour
Quote:
Breaking up is not the way to make a point with someone. Thats way to insecure move I think. Just tell her its bothering you, see how she reacts, don't throw an ultimatum. Nothing wrong with telling her behavior doesn't please you. Also you should look at yourself and not ask for so much affection, and if you really do want it, and she cant give it, time to think if this is a healthy relationship. Good luck
Agreed.


From reading your post, it does sound like she is attached to you. Also sounds like she is very comfortable with the relationship and how it is going. I agreed with Wizzay, is not the way to make a point with someone. And telling her if this doesnt happen we are going to breakup, is an ultimatum. Just sounds like you need to have a nice evening out and talk bout all the good things in the relationship along with the couple things that you would like to see more of.
Author:  shadzzz [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 5:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Punishing attached GF with break-up to fix her behaviour
I'm not trying to make a point. It's either she changes it or it's pretty much over. It's not even an ultimatum, break up, point the reason, go on, won't ask her to change it. She comes back, if not- I'm moving. I'm coming here for advice on what should I do.
She won't let go the relationship like this. I think you're missing the whole point of this.
The point is that she is currently playing this game way too much which leads to not communicating properly. I'm losing interest. I feel cannot freely call because she's playing or sleeping, and when she does call - I'm no longer interested.
Author:  Wizzay [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 6:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Punishing attached GF with break-up to fix her behaviour
Im trying to give you advice bro.
You're saying that she is perfect, just that one thing that she does which annoys you, and you want to break up over that, isn't that a little to much ? If you find not, then youre choice ofcourse, however I advice you talk about it calmly first, without even mentioning breaking up. If at that point she does not comply or does not agree she is playing to much and ignores your trouble, then you can say then I wan't to break up and you gotta do it then, because if you say it it will hurt her, because she is so attached.
Author:  krular [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 6:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Punishing attached GF with break-up to fix her behaviour
Quote:
Im trying to give you advice bro.
You're saying that she is perfect, just that one thing that she does which annoys you, and you want to break up over that, isn't that a little to much ? If you find not, then youre choice ofcourse, however I advice you talk about it calmly first, without even mentioning breaking up. If at that point she does not comply or does not agree she is playing to much and ignores your trouble, then you can say then I wan't to break up and you gotta do it then, because if you say it it will hurt her, because she is so attached.
Agreed
Quote:
The point is that she is currently playing this game way too much which leads to not communicating properly.
Kinda funny, this sounds like a statement a woman would make about a man. Play the game with her.
Author:  shadzzz [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 6:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Punishing attached GF with break-up to fix her behaviour
Quote:
Im trying to give you advice bro.
You're saying that she is perfect, just that one thing that she does which annoys you, and you want to break up over that, isn't that a little to much ? If you find not, then youre choice ofcourse, however I advice you talk about it calmly first, without even mentioning breaking up. If at that point she does not comply or does not agree she is playing to much and ignores your trouble, then you can say then I wan't to break up and you gotta do it then, because if you say it it will hurt her, because she is so attached.
Alright, thanks. I got your point now.

@krular - That is not going to happen. I understand, I play PC games from time to time but obsessing over that and doing it all the time is rather wrong. I have been in the same situation she is now, playing too much and letting my social life die out...
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Thu Jun 20, 2013 3:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Punishing attached GF with break-up to fix her behaviour
As Wizzay and Krular pointed out in the first few posts, breaking up is not the way to fix-up her behavior. You wanted more of her time and attention in this relationship while the girl is addicted to an online battle game-- a masculine game.

What does this mean? The girl is getting her testosterone high from vicarious blood and gore while you want to solve this with feminine mature communication (the talk) and the classic girlie freeze out. These are actions that hardly pump up her testosterone at all.

When a girl's testosterone level is high that means she's horny. Are you making her horny enough when she's around with you? Maybe you need to fuck her brains out instead of giving her some girlie talk or freeze out. Another option is to sarge more girls. Girls get hornier when they realize they have competition.

Remember: The way through a woman's heart is through her pussy.

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