I really wanna know the ugly details behind all this. I have had a gut feeling for some time and this is another story that proves your gut is the one you´ll always listen to!

This other guy is a handsome athlete and no doubt has more sexual value than I have. I give her orgasms, but I am more of a provider compared to this younger guy even though she has never been after my money and she has been the one chasing me. But I won´t waste my time in a game I can´t eventually win.

But I gotta ask? Why the fuck do you need to know "all the ugly details"?

I would agree that your gut is usually right on these thing but damn read what you wrote:

You sound like a major AFC and hold no value for youself what so ever.

Because I wanna know if she really fucked him or just gave him hope. He is in army now and she´s been with me almost all the possible cheating days. I still care about her and it would make my feelings die much faster if she actually fucked him when she was with me. Anyway, it doesn´t change the fact we are done.

I had the talk with her. She swore she hasn´t cheated on me. She only politely replied to his messages. Unfortunately she had deleted all of them so I can´t be sure. She seems to be very desperate and she wants to continue with me and she has no other options. She is with me for long-term. She actually might be telling the truth.

I told her I want to break-up and she became ultra mad. She screamed and shouted "this is so stupid reason to break-up, you are just giving up!" I actually felt that I might be doing a big mistake. I couldn´t keep my frame as I showed some emotion and admitted how much she means to me. I let her know my feelings are not the reason for breaking up. Lack of trust is. Am I being too judgemental and paranoid? Should I give her another chance, because I dont´have any hard evidence of cheating? She only texted and girls always have orbiters.

I finally told her I listened to what she had to say and now I don´t feel 100% sure about the break-up. She asked me to contact her when I have made a decision. She doesn´t want to suffer and wait for very long. I think it was necessary to show her I am able to walk away. She should not take me for granted after this. I should now see how much she wants me back, but the problem is that I am now supposed to be the one who initiates the next contact. I even slipped I might call tomorrow. So she expects some answer soon. Should I give her chance of building trust or should I just run? And should I call her tomorrow already if I have made up my mind by then? Will she respect me if I cancel the break-up being indecisive? How can I make her chase me if I am the one who calls next?

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