Hi guys, been lurking on here for ages and have found this to be a great source, thanks. Here's my question.

I've been dating a girl for a few months, we got really close really fast and it was really good for both of us. A few months into it though her life changed a bit and she started to go through a more difficult period and she didn't have as much time for the relationship. I didn't handle it so well and wasn't as understanding as I should have been, this pushed her away a quite a bit and our communication broke down, and after a few weeks of that I couldn't handle it and left. After a few days of thinking things through I was able to get a clearer picture of what happened, realised leaving was a mistake, and went back and tried to make amends. I left her at a really bad time when she was really depending on me, but she accepted it although things still weren't too good.

She started testing a lot, and I failed most of them, and went totally AFC (jealousy, neediness, anger), this went on for a month. A week ago we met up and it felt like the first real re-connect and conversation, but she did say she thinks we should have a break. She said lets see how things are in a couple months, and that she wouldn't date other people but that she thinks I should go and do so. At some point in the conversation I felt the AFC in me retreat and I went along with the idea of a break, while escalating things sexually at the same time to let her know I'm not going to be just her friend (the sex was always great).

We drink at the same bars and have bumped into each other since then, and are likely to do so on a near weekly basis. When we met at the bar she was curious as to who the girls I was with were, and I was getting a good vibe from her. I left the bar/club with my friends before she did, it ended on a bad note I suppose though, I told her it's cool if sees other people and I'm not going to get jealous even if she is making out with someone else in the club, she said that's not a nice thing to say and went back to her friends. I've texted and called once since and she took my call and answered my text right away.

My plan is to just continue meeting as many other women as possible and extend my social circle, keep a lid on the inner AFC, don't try to pull her back, and just let things happen casually. Maybe extend an occasional coffee/lunch invite. I've been going out a lot and have slept with 2 women since, and her friends have spotted me out at bars/clubs a couple times as well. I figure eventually we'll bump into each other when she's in the right mood and things will work out, but who knows. It was definitely a case of oneitis, but that's passed now and I still think I want something long term and permanent with her.

What do you guys think?