Work on yourself. I don't know if this will bring this girl back(as you describe it, for the time being most probably not), other more advanced and competent people here can guide you better on that- but whatever happens, you need to build a strong inside when you meet this or any other girl again. Meaning know what you do and why you do it, get answers to the fundamental questions of life, know yourself as a human being, how thoughts and feelings work and what is their connection and how you work them together. What is a woman for you and why you want one and how you want to be with her. Don't let yourself mess it up again. Learning PUA tricks and techniques and make all kinds of mistakes and poor behavior after you get her will only make it worse.


Best of luck, I hope you make it.

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Anyway, you screwed up big time. You need to find other chicks for the moment. You must know that you have options because otherwise you will behave needy.

I'm not against staying friends with exes eventhough most people here are. But if you want her back, that's very bad tactic. She needs to miss you. After some time and after you've banged some other chicks, if you still want her back you can reinitiate contact.

Start very casual, then shift to very high energy level very quickly (in a day or two). Then be casual again. Repeat this until necessary. Maker her wonder what are you up to. If she's not curious she will flake on your each and every attempt.

If you manage to meet her, forget any romantic BS like bringing her to the place where you met and anything like that because it's fucking WEAK. A best date would be where you could do something active to avoid awkward silence but you could also escalate and you should be able to manage logistics if things get hot.

DO NOT START PLANNING THIS NOW!!!

Right now focus on your primary objective(banging other women).

If you manage to win her back, or find another girl: Drop the jealous BS. It's of no use. It's weak, it shows you're insecure, you don't trust her, and it gets annoying very quickly. Cheaters will cheat regardless of what you do, there's no point in giving women even more reasons to do it.

Peace.

how should I act when I inevitably see her?

She was very ill yesterday and I brought some lozenges and food to her place after work... is that weak too? If she comes to look for me to talk about stuff in general, how should I respond? If she comes to me for support, how should I respond?

After some time is pretty relative for anyone. I don't know you. I don't know how long it takes for you to get over a girl. It also depends on how successful you are with bringing home other women. I think I wasn't clear enough. You can only get her back when you are over her. Ironic, but it works like this. That's why I also told you to right now stop planning ahead.
Just don't talk too much. Saying hi is fine. Besides, avoid communication if you can.
Yes, it is weak. If you had brought some meds because she felt ill that would have been just a kind act, but bringing food and candies? wtf? She just knows that you still want her. She has all the power. Be less available!

Make yourself busy so you don't have much time to talk about stuff in general. And I think you're not the one to support her. You're not her friend. Get that shit out of your mind and get busy with gaming other women.