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Author:  Roosvicee [ Tue May 28, 2013 10:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Weird relationship if you ask me..
Thanks for reading this thread hopefully you can help me! Sorry for my poor English, I'm not a native speaker.

So I have this girlfriend for 7 months now, in the beginning everything was fine, like every relationship I think, two months ago I started to feel insecure and didn't know what I wanted, we had a few problems in that period, we both thought about breaking up or taking a break but we didn't do it. Because of that I worked on my inner game for a month and I feel a lot better now, much more confidence, no more jealousy. So last month I felt great!

But there is something weird in this relationship, in the beginning everything was great, we told eachother many times things like: I love you, miss you etc, you know what I mean. But lately, she never says things like that, I don't do it either, if I tell my friends about this they think, huh?? She is much lesser sticky than the first months. I dont care much about it, never asked her about it, I'm just wondering, why is this? Is this normal, is it because the honeymoon phase is over or something?

And another thing, it looks like she is hiding her cellphone always in another place than where we are, if we are in the bedroom, the cellphone is in the living, I find this strange too.

I would appreciate any suggestions or explanations about this, thanks :)
Author:  Chameleon00 [ Tue May 28, 2013 11:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird relationship if you ask me..
Did she used to hide her mobile phone in the past too ?
The highest peak in a relationship is this quote :
"If you exchanged mobile phones for a day,would you be in a relationship tomorrow?"
Does she seem like she is bored?Her behaviour causing you to dump her?Then do so fast,but before that have a sensible talk with her,tell her how you feel and let her speak to you too ...
Author:  n2thevoid [ Wed May 29, 2013 10:19 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird relationship if you ask me..
Could be her withholding from you if she perceives you're pulling away by no longer reacting jealousy toward her. If you no longer feel 'safe' with your partner, which may mean valued then why would you disclose intimate feelings to them allowing them to know you're vulnerable?
Author:  Roosvicee [ Wed May 29, 2013 7:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird relationship if you ask me..
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Could be her withholding from you if she perceives you're pulling away by no longer reacting jealousy toward her. If you no longer feel 'safe' with your partner, which may mean valued then why would you disclose intimate feelings to them allowing them to know you're vulnerable?
So what should I do? Should I show her more of my emotions or not? I'm glad I'm rid of my jealousy..

If I'm going to talk about it doesn't that show neediness?
Author:  n2thevoid [ Thu May 30, 2013 3:29 am ]
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Could be her withholding from you if she perceives you're pulling away by no longer reacting jealousy toward her. If you no longer feel 'safe' with your partner, which may mean valued then why would you disclose intimate feelings to them allowing them to know you're vulnerable?
So what should I do? Should I show her more of my emotions or not? I'm glad I'm rid of my jealousy..

If I'm going to talk about it doesn't that show neediness?

Have a frank conversation with her. Can't ever go wrong with being authe tic, even if it doesn't work out at least you were honest about things and not playing games. You can be lroud
Author:  Betamax [ Thu May 30, 2013 3:39 am ]
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Have a frank conversation with her. Can't ever go wrong with being authe tic, even if it doesn't work out at least you were honest about things and not playing games. You can be lroud
Wtf @ those typos. Are you on your mobile phone???

Anyway, good advice for the most part. I would say there are three explanations. I've ordered them from most likely to least likely.

1-Different relationship phase. Surveys show that around the seven month mark, girls stop wearing makeup around you, start burping aloud, use your deodorant, etc. No more cutie love stuff. Normal if you've ever been in another relationship.
2-She's growing distant because you seem to have grown distant as n2thevoid suggested. My only doubt about this is that if she really loves you, and you've grown distant as you've said, then she should be showing signs of insecurity. For instance, "why don't you kiss me anymore?" or "why don't you say you miss me anymore?" etc.
3-Cheating. Really doubt it though. So what if she keeps her phone in another room? You need more solid evidence to even raise the alarm.
Author:  Roosvicee [ Thu May 30, 2013 9:49 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird relationship if you ask me..
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Have a frank conversation with her. Can't ever go wrong with being authe tic, even if it doesn't work out at least you were honest about things and not playing games. You can be lroud
Wtf @ those typos. Are you on your mobile phone???

Anyway, good advice for the most part. I would say there are three explanations. I've ordered them from most likely to least likely.

1-Different relationship phase. Surveys show that around the seven month mark, girls stop wearing makeup around you, start burping aloud, use your deodorant, etc. No more cutie love stuff. Normal if you've ever been in another relationship.
2-She's growing distant because you seem to have grown distant as n2thevoid suggested. My only doubt about this is that if she really loves you, and you've grown distant as you've said, then she should be showing signs of insecurity. For instance, "why don't you kiss me anymore?" or "why don't you say you miss me anymore?" etc.
3-Cheating. Really doubt it though. So what if she keeps her phone in another room? You need more solid evidence to even raise the alarm.
Thanks! I just looks like the first explanation, especially burping aloud, this is my second relationship, the first one stranded after 5 months so this new relationship phase is not normal for me.

What is the best way for it? Just let it go, don't say anything about it and give her space?
Author:  Betamax [ Thu May 30, 2013 1:02 pm ]
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Do you think that she still loves you? If so, accept the new relationship phase and find comfort knowing she still loves you.

If you have doubts as to whether she still loves you, then this warrants a good test or two.
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