I ran into my ex at the grocery store at the end of February. Hadn't seen her since the breakup 5 months earlier. We had dated for about 10 months before that, which I ended early October.

I just happened to be with a platonic female friend when I ran into her and introduced them to each other.

Sure enough my ex emails me a few days later and we email back and forth a few times...fast forward and we are now seeing each other again and have been for about a month and a half or so.

However, the same issues that caused me to break up with her are still there:

1. She works two jobs and only has time to hang out once a week on average. The sex is great and I want to see her ideally 2-3 times a week.

2. She is perfectly content with having a friends with benefits type situation (though she would never call it this). She never invites me out with her friends or has any overlap between her social circles or family and me. Even after 10 months of dating I never met either of her sisters once (and she is close with them) and only hung out with her friends as a group maybe 3-4 times.

3. She is very guarded and unemotional. She is divorced plus she called off an engagement to another guy a while back.

Yesterday we texted briefly in the morning and I invited her out to the bar that I play pool at (I play in a league and we had playoffs last night). She knows this is important to me but has never once came with to support, have fun, etc. So yesterday did she not only not go, but didn't even bother to respond at all to my invite. She texted me late last night and just asked "how'd it go?". I didn't expect her to agree to go but to not respond at all I found to be pretty rude.

I am trying to come up with ways to get her invest in me but not having much success. Open to ideas.

I would like to have our relationship grow and become something but having doubts on if it is worth the time and effort. She is who she is and I don't see that changing.

Oh, one thing I forgot to mention. A couple weeks ago we went out and stayed the night at a casino that we have stayed at before. The next morning during pillow talk I told her that I was falling for her again and wanted her to be my girl. I'm assuming this was a mistake but it was from the heart. After I told her this she didn't say anything. I had to break the silence by saying "you're scaring me by not saying anything". Did I royally fuck this up? Normally I wouldn't show my hand this early but her and I have a lot of history and I don't really feel like wasting more time if it isn't going to go somewhere.

Any advice much appreciated...let me know if you guys need any other info.

Thanks!

Ok mate here is the thing. You don't wanna hear this but my advice:
Run. NOW. She uses you completely. After 10 months and you haven't met her friends ? WTF. You are trying to make this work, but you are the only one trying. She doesn't give a shit. According to what you wrote.
Next her get a new girl. I would say keep her as a fuck buddy, but I don't suggest it in your case because you'll get attached and she won't.
Telling her about your feelings in this situation probably wasn't that bad. It was a test to see where she is at. Which she failed horribly. This is not how a girl that wants something serious would respond. Trust me I had a very similar girl before.
Find a girl who is proper girlfriend material. Not like this.

Ok mate here is the thing. You don't wanna hear this but my advice:
Run. NOW. She uses you completely. After 10 months and you haven't met her friends ? WTF. You are trying to make this work, but you are the only one trying. She doesn't give a shit. According to what you wrote.
Next her get a new girl. I would say keep her as a fuck buddy, but I don't suggest it in your case because you'll get attached and she won't.
Telling her about your feelings in this situation probably wasn't that bad. It was a test to see where she is at. Which she failed horribly. This is not how a girl that wants something serious would respond. Trust me I had a very similar girl before.
Find a girl who is proper girlfriend material. Not like this.