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Author:  JaceRiot [ Fri Apr 19, 2013 12:38 pm ]
Post subject:  How often do you see your gf?
How often do you see your gf?

I've been seeing mine everyday for a few weeks. And Im starting to notice: lack of mystery, getting a little bored, things get stale. I mean things just get stale when you see someone everyday.

What do you personally say or do to space out the days you see her? I dont want to see her everyday, for the health of the relationship. Everytime I give her an excuse she keeps asking more until she corners me into hanging or thinks its another girl.


Its a great time but I cant do this everyday!
Author:  -..-.-.-.- [ Fri Apr 19, 2013 4:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How often do you see your gf?
If I were you, I'd only plan on seeing each other on the weekend. However, you could (or even should) be spontaneous enough to call or text her during the week to hang out on short notice, just for a drink, lunch, something casual. Don't make this a regularity, otherwise it won't keep her on her toes anymore.
Author:  JaceRiot [ Fri Apr 19, 2013 8:42 pm ]
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Yeah but after seeing her everyday, whats an excuse to not see her that often?

I understand you for sure. Once a week is perfect, thats what I want. But how do I transition from hanging out everyday to once a week. I'l have to work around her objections "Oh you have to work really hard this week? Wait you said that and we still hung out" That kinda deal

Basically, what excuses do you give not to see her that often?
Author:  pcorrigan [ Fri Apr 19, 2013 11:19 pm ]
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maybe you should do a steady transition from everyday to once a week. could be while transitioning you find a better balance say twice a week.
Author:  -..-.-.-.- [ Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:22 am ]
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Slowly reducing the amount of times you meet per week may cause trouble. They will start thinking that you don't love them that much anymore, or you're seeing another girl.
In my opinion, the best option would be to just tell her that you don't want to see her that often, and tell her the reasons you told us here, because they are valid. Point out to her that you're doing this to strengthen the relationship rather than taking a step out of it! If she's sensible, she will understand.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun Apr 21, 2013 1:21 am ]
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Slowly reducing the amount of times you meet per week may cause trouble. They will start thinking that you don't love them that much anymore, or you're seeing another girl.
In my opinion, the best option would be to just tell her that you don't want to see her that often, and tell her the reasons you told us here, because they are valid. Point out to her that you're doing this to strengthen the relationship rather than taking a step out of it! If she's sensible, she will understand.

What the hell...do not tell her what you are doing. Do you think she will logically understand that. She may just call bullshit and start heckling you and use this for future arguments.

Instead, you should see her when you can or see her when you want to. If you feel like doing something else that doesn't involve her. Then do so. No big deal, you still have to maintain your independence from her. You don't want to become dependent on her and shut out your other social circle.

Mr. A
Author:  JaceRiot [ Sun Apr 21, 2013 3:03 am ]
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Well Im glad that I explained it well enough to say what my problem is.

I really appreciate the advice guys. Its pretty confusing because it feels there are a few options and I dont want to pick the wrong one.

Like I noticed today it was as fiery and electric as it was before. We over text and hang. So its Definitely! a problem. Telling her something like, "Cmon we dont have to see each other like everyday. Lets not get bored of each other" really made sense. But then doesnt that communicate that I might be getting bored of her or that Im a boring guy?
Author:  rezrez0 [ Sun Apr 21, 2013 3:08 am ]
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i've been dating a girl for about 3 months ago , we go to the same school and are together EVERYDAY . i'll give you some tips of mine to keep things a little more interesting .

Dont act like you always have time for her , make time for yourself too and tell her you have certain things to do, but when you ARE with her, make her feel like you really appreciate that time together .
Also, tease tease tease.. just because she's your GF does not mean you let her get away with everything she wants . call her out on stuff in a light-hearted way and try keeping it funny .
just play with her, it doesnt hurt to act like little kids every once in a while , just dont over-do it . Like my GF, we're dental students and wear scrubs to classes so when we're alone sometimes I untie the strings to her bottom part then she scrambles to try to keep her pants on .. just little stupid things like that can keep it fun .
Author:  -..-.-.-.- [ Sun Apr 21, 2013 8:23 am ]
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What the hell...do not tell her what you are doing. Do you think she will logically understand that. She may just call bullshit and start heckling you and use this for future arguments.

Instead, you should see her when you can or see her when you want to. If you feel like doing something else that doesn't involve her. Then do so. No big deal, you still have to maintain your independence from her. You don't want to become dependent on her and shut out your other social circle.

Mr. A
So you'd suggest just backing out of the relationship quietly? Not a good idea. This would let her imagination run wild, since all of a sudden, you're not available anymore like you used to be... Not a good idea. Of course one should maintain one's independence, but be transparent in doing so.
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Telling her something like, "Cmon we dont have to see each other like everyday. Lets not get bored of each other" really made sense. But then doesnt that communicate that I might be getting bored of her or that Im a boring guy?
Just like in magic, it's all about delivery. Tell her that you don't want to kill the excitement and spark by seeing her everyday. Then bring up an example where you didn't see each other for a couple of days/weeks and how great it felt to see her again. By doing this, she doesn't process your idea logically, but connects it with the positive feeling of seeing you after some time. I'm 99% sure she'll respond positively to this.

Keep us posted ;)
Author:  JaceRiot [ Sun Apr 21, 2013 9:45 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How often do you see your gf?
Thanks for all that advice. Does feel nice to find a forum for this.


Lately I have been talking to her less. She has been acting a little cold or maybe she's realizing Im not the fairytale bf like she thought I was (from me not talking/texting as much.)

Most girls hate neediness. Like most HB8s or HB9s would get so bored. But in relationships, do you think HB7's dont mind that extra affection? She just got off a relationship a month ago, so Im wondering if trying to space myself from her was a bad thing.

I remember saying to her, oh I met this bi chick that you'd love (she's bi.) And she got REALLY interested. So Im thinking in my head, wow she doesnt react like that about me anymore.

Hmm I love the line about "not killing the excitement and spark." I have to choose a direction soon.
Author:  Demitri [ Fri Apr 26, 2013 1:43 am ]
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How often do you see your gf?

I've been seeing mine everyday for a few weeks. And Im starting to notice: lack of mystery, getting a little bored, things get stale. I mean things just get stale when you see someone everyday.

What do you personally say or do to space out the days you see her? I dont want to see her everyday, for the health of the relationship. Everytime I give her an excuse she keeps asking more until she corners me into hanging or thinks its another girl.


Its a great time but I cant do this everyday!
Damn bro you're not married yet!

If you see her every day then you are not taking care of your own business.
I see my chick one time mid week then I'll hang with her Friday night/ Saturday OR Saturday night/Sunday that way I have a whole weekend day off for myself to chill, sarge, or hang with my bros.

Good luck
Author:  Neiljohnson [ Sun Apr 28, 2013 5:13 pm ]
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You should not be bored.Because seeing everyday can create a certain place for you in her heart.But you must act correctly.A true hearted girl like this type of meeting pretty much.
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