So stupid me, I sent her a text saying I thought she might be a little too young for me and that she wasn't being very trustworthy (a simple shit-test). And it was all downhill from there.

Wow, you shit tested a girl you met online because you were insecure that she might have been meeting her guys off the site. Instead of just being Alpha and winning her over.

This one is gone dude. Live and learn.

She still texts me when she could completely ignore me or say to delete her number.

This girl is a keeper, not a play date kind of girl. Thanks.

The thing is she knew I would probably still be working at that time, and also before we even met, she had gone out with someone else from match.com when I asked her if she was available that night she said she was busy.

So stupid me, I sent her a text saying I thought she might be a little too young for me and that she wasn't being very trustworthy (a simple shit-test). And it was all downhill from there.

So I went on a match.com date and she was the first girl I could picture having a relationship with in a long time.

We had a great night out, dinner, drinks, and getting to know each other. By the end of the night she said she definitely wanted to see me again and I said ok, hopefully next weekend. She said that it was so far away and wanted to see me sooner, so we made plans to go out one night in the week.

Well between our first night out and our next plans, she told me her job had an event and asked me to come, or we would have to reschedule.

The thing is she knew I would probably still be working at that time, and also before we even met, she had gone out with someone else from match.com when I asked her if she was available that night she said she was busy.

So even though she offered to invite me to the event and also said she could see me the night before the event, I felt like maybe she wanted to reschedule so she could make plans with someone else that night.

I told her no to the event and that I wasn't free anymore for the night before (I didn't want her thinking she can "make up excuses" for why she can't talk or see me).

So stupid me, I sent her a text saying I thought she might be a little too young for me and that she wasn't being very trustworthy (a simple shit-test). And it was all downhill from there.

Everything else has been perfect, the date, the anticipation and conversations before the date, as far as first dates and compatibility it really was a great match. So after that text she was really upset and said it was ridiculous of me to say something like that and it was really a turn off because she says she didn't do anything to deserve it, which is true.

She ignored me at first, but I finally got through to her and we talked it out. BUT she won't make plans with me now, and says shes going to the event with her best friend.

I think all she needs is a little bit of space, but this is a girl I unfortunately made the mistake and don't want to lose any opportunity.

Any suggestions? This girl is a keeper, not a play date kind of girl. Thanks.

But let me get this straight. in order to keep a chick, be a douchebag, play games, and kiss her ass basically. is this the correct formula to be a winner?