It's bloody difficult, because when they're on a "high" its incredible. They're the most electric, powerfully attractive and vibrant people to be around and their company is pure charismatic joy.

But when they're "down" they can be cold, rude, withdrawn and generally unpleasant. My girl once got pissed off because I was being affectionate, whereas when she was up, she would sometimes cry at the thought of us being apart. I got the feeling I was just a nuisance when she was down, so I stopped talking to her. If I did she'd constantly pick apart what I said and vet it for anything negative she could use to get pissed off at me.

Crazy chicks, not really relationship material in my opinion.

shit, this is like my thread all over again... Experiencing a very similar situation. 2 words. Move On. When you move on, she will come back to you, then you have the power. And use that power to not take her back. She is unstable, and as hard as it may be to leave. LEAVE.

I love her, but I know it won't work out because she is unstable...

Hey guys,

Been a member here helping others out with they relationships but now I do need help from you...

After 2 years with my girlfriend, she dumped me 2 days ago after ignoring me for 8 days. The 9th day before she ignored me, she told me she loved me, she wanted to live with me, get kids in a near future, marry me, etc...

Unfortunately, i've discovered with time that my GF/ex has a mental disorder that "f*cks up" with her feelings. She always have doubts and "downs". After 2 years, she dumped me ON THE PHONE! Telling me she doesn't know if she loved me anymore...

There are phases to a relationship:
Phase 1. Passionate love
Phase 2. Real love

Phase 1. Passionate love is loving for sex, for good looking, for intelligence, for what the other has and how he/she gives you attention & affection. This is an automated process in your brain! (stays 1 year to 3 years MAX)

Phase 2. Reduction of feelings, reduction of libido, acceptation of the "wrongs" and "goods" of the loved one, less attention, less affection, unconditional love basically. (If you happen to reach this phase, you can succeed to stay with that person for a dozen years easily)

To pass from phase 1 to 2, you have to accept everything. You will have doubts that you don't love the other one anymore. But if you quit that person, it's at that time that you'll see that you really loved him/her! So you must ask yourself some questions like: "would i cry for him/her", "do i still want to take care of him/her", "are you 100% honest with him/her", "is complicity always there", etc.

The problem with my gf/ex was that she wasn't able to make the transition from phase 1 to phase 2. And with her mental disorder called "bipolarity", it's even harder!

I know what I want. I want a girl that knows what she wants, that knows that will be able to make the transition from 1 to 2, that will be mature, intelligent and great in bed (so hard these days!).

I still love my gf/ex, but I know i'll be more happy without her. Because with all her doubts and her "bipolarity", it will just keep going and she would dump me every 3-4 months. I am pissed of that, it breaks my heart every single time...

Basically, I just want some tips to forget her after all the fakeness and bad things she's done to me. Should I drink? Should I f*ck with an other women? Should I... etc

Thank you guys,
From a broken hearted MPUA "Relationships" member :/
-Jean-Michel Mailhot </3 :'(

P.S. i still love her, but i dont want to even try to get back with her, because she would break my heart dozen of times...

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Well, been there (actually still I am, so i know exactly what you are going through...

Long story short: 2,5 years serious relationship. Started ignoring me out of a blue, and couple of day later dump via text without explanation (also 7 days earlier she loved me, wanted to get apartment together, blah,blah)... We went complete NC for 4 months. Then she wanted to meet me, so we met. She was crying, begging, making lot of promises, and tried to convince me she changed. First we became FWB but she was insisting on getting back together as relationship... I love her, and after awhile i agreed... It was great month and half, like when we started... And now she is gone again... No explanation, nothing... She just doesnt know what she wants...(fun part is that this time she didnt even dump me at all ) Well, it hurts, but far less then first time...

I m quite sure that she will be back again, but no matter how much i love her, she can go to hell

So yes, your friends are right... And she will try to get you back as soon as you move on, but as soon as she catch you, you ll get dumped again... As rough operator said, when they are "high" they are amazing, but when they are low they are pandora box of pain...

Good luck m8

JM, let me point out a few things to you:

1. Don't use your real name on here. You don't want people to be able to Google you and find you are associated with this forum. Conversely, if you make enemies on here, you don't want them to be able to find you. I was able to find your FB, bro. Not cool.
2. Your FB is quite sad. You are posting heartbreak stories for the world to see. As an alpha male, you should be bouncing back on your feet and appear unaffected. Even if you're not, you shouldn't be giving the world impression that's what you're going through. But it's okay to talk about your heartbreak to people close to you.
3. Why are you still contacting her? She is ignoring you. So ignore her -- plain and simple. Move on. Go out and explore other venues. Your girlfriend was cute but you can do better.

Cheers.