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| Author: | misterq [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 8:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | GF shit tests / insecurities |
Basically my GF ( of 3 months) knows I've slept with quite a few women and has from time to time got a little pissed off about it and called me out on it, now I rightly or wrongly I told the truth and explained to her how I just couldn't find the right relationship and a decent girl. She obviously is teasing most of the time and I joke back and laugh about it myself. So today I talk about moving areas and she txts saying something along the lines of "you ran out of girls to sleep with so your moving on to fresh ground (wink)", I joke back saying "yeah they weren't my type around here" and she replies "Im sure you can find some sexy girls in your new area". It's all joking but I can't work out if the undertones are she's jealous/insecure or that she's happy for me to sniff around and push me away. In a way it pisses me off as she still thinks i'll stray, though I've reassured her before. I understand as she was cheated on previously BUT its annoying feeling like its a big joke and I can't work out if she's serious or not. What kind of responses should I be using if this shit comes up in conversation or text again? thanks. |
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| Author: | User13247 [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 9:23 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF shit tests / insecurities |
Just ignore it. |
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| Author: | vhou812 [ Sun Mar 10, 2013 6:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF shit tests / insecurities |
Yeah, this one is very, very easy to solve. If the joke has run it's course for you and is not fun, then initiate a soft next EVERY SINGLE TIME SHE BRINGS it up. |
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| Author: | neo87 [ Sun Mar 10, 2013 3:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF shit tests / insecurities |
Just be honest. In this case, you can look extra dominant if you just cut it directly. Next time she brings it up, just tell her calmly that those jokes aren't condusive to a successful relationship and to stop. My past is my past and I'm with you so don't talk about other women. Not only can't she not argue with that, you're being alpha and dominant and get the point across that you're with her and it's sweet. You're welcome when she feels all mushy and jumps you. |
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| Author: | Fly_Swatter [ Sun Mar 10, 2013 4:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF shit tests / insecurities |
Quote: Basically my GF ( of 3 months) knows I've slept with quite a few women and has from time to time got a little pissed off about it and called me out on it, now I rightly or wrongly I told the truth and explained to her how I just couldn't find the right relationship and a decent girl. She obviously is teasing most of the time and I joke back and laugh about it myself.
First off, who's in control? You are, obviously. Secondly, she won't leave you because of her insecurities. Thirdly, no matter what you say, she'll never be reassured.So today I talk about moving areas and she txts saying something along the lines of "you ran out of girls to sleep with so your moving on to fresh ground (wink)", I joke back saying "yeah they weren't my type around here" and she replies "Im sure you can find some sexy girls in your new area". It's all joking but I can't work out if the undertones are she's jealous/insecure or that she's happy for me to sniff around and push me away. In a way it pisses me off as she still thinks i'll stray, though I've reassured her before. I understand as she was cheated on previously BUT its annoying feeling like its a big joke and I can't work out if she's serious or not. What kind of responses should I be using if this shit comes up in conversation or text again? thanks. So, solution: don't bother trying to reassure her -- that shit won't work. The only real reassurance you can give her is a relationship that lasts longer than your previous longest, or something similar. If her stupid jokes annoy you, you can continue humouring her in return. If you're just bringing up this question because they actually don't annoy you, and you want to reassure her, just ignore her jokes and change topics as Timo suggested. |
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| Author: | Joshua27 [ Mon Mar 11, 2013 10:33 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF shit tests / insecurities |
She don't believe on you.Because you already tell her that you are had a night with other girls.I think this is a great mistake that you do by telling her.Girls think in the same way because she think that you do sex with her and than go with next girl that's why she asking you again and again.So i think its better to leave her or tell her if she doing this more you left her. |
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