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Author:  Emdaet5 [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 12:29 am ]
Post subject:  Very fucking complicated
So my ex girlfriend (3 weeks today) saw me holding hands with a different girl today. I do still want to be with her, and I've tried making that point to her.

My ex's mom will text me once and while and ask what's up, yesterday i told her to try and find out if she still wants to work things out. Well she saw the texts after she saw me holdings hands with another girl and pretty much asked me what was up with that. And said she cried after seeing that. After the phone call which was pretty much us arguing about old shit. She sent me this
"Sorry, I shouldn't have called. This will be my last text to you so I'm sorry I was such a shitty girlfriend and I hope you find the right girl. Good luck in life."
Now, I still want to try and work things out, even tho I know it would be a long process. But she does mean a lot and I do have options if not.
Any suggestions on a reply?
Author:  Rough Operator [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 2:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Very fucking complicated
Who dumped who? What were the circumstances? What was said at the time?
Author:  Emdaet5 [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 2:29 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Very fucking complicated
I dumped her first, then we got back together, then we both agreed we shouldn't be together at this time. So we went on a 'break' found out she was talking to other guys. Told her I was done, and wanted my stuff back. We broke up because we fought too much. And we both had other shit going on.
Author:  Emdaet5 [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 2:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Very fucking complicated
Quote:
I dumped her first, then we got back together, then we both agreed we shouldn't be together at this time. So we went on a 'break' found out she was talking to other guys. Told her I was done, and wanted my stuff back. We broke up because we fought too much. And we both had other shit going on.
I wouldn't have cared if she was talking and hanging out with other guys. But she told me she wasn't going to, and it would be fucked if I was. So I was done with it at that point.

But I keep hearing that she has kissed so and so, and every time we talk she says she doesn't have feelings for him blah blah and it never happened. I do have other options, but in a way, i feel bad for this chick.
Author:  mikemight [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 3:50 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Very fucking complicated
The dumpee is always the one that asks to be taken back, cause the dumper has the power. But since you guys couldn't make it work twice, no point in making up again. The bond between both of you was still strong and the feelings was just that. Both of you were trying to rationalize these feelings, but as the feelings subside, there's nothing else to cement your bond.

The dumpee is like someone who lined up outside of Target or Best Buy on Black Friday hoping to score the door specials, but then got in and didn't get it. Rather coming out empty handed feeling defeated, the dumpee buys something else in the store to justify the time he or she spent lining up. It's a classic human psychology of settling for second place. Of course come next few days, you'll see them line up again returning the stuff back to the store.

Your girlfriend is no different. Just trying to exact revenge on you by you dumping her with her time invested. The other guy was the victim. He got returned back to the "RETURNS" department of Best Buy. I wouldn't worry about anything.. Move along..
Author:  User13247 [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 9:59 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Very fucking complicated
As a rule, don't get back with the ex. There are exceptions, but none of them involve the phrase 'trying to work it out'. Why spend time on working 'it' out? The damage is already done, the loss is already felt, they are sunk costs, irrelevant for the future.
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