| PUA Forum https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/ |
|
| Funny guy tries to game my girlfriend https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=128&t=157917 |
Page 1 of 1 |
| Author: | HopSlam [ Tue Mar 05, 2013 10:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Funny guy tries to game my girlfriend |
We've been together for a year. At a comedy club the other day and she and her friend went to the bathroom. Her friend's boyfriend, who has trust issues followed, he said "the girls were sitting down with a comedian" whom obviously had tried to game them when we entered the club, in front of us. Her friend and the boyfriend got pissed at each other.. I drove her home asking what was up with them and then said "I heard you two were sitting next to a guy." She denied sitting down, said her friend just asked him why they didn't go on stage. I don't get why he would make this up. She went to bathroom twice during the show, not necessary. I made sure I got the point across that I wasn't mad. But shes been pissed at me, saying I was mean. Idk for sure what happened. She hasn't shown any signs of distrust before. How do I show her that I don't want to even hear something like that ever again. Maybe " Idk what happened, but don't let me hear about something like this again." Should a freeze out be in order or some sort of punishment? |
|
| Author: | User13247 [ Tue Mar 05, 2013 10:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Funny guy tries to game my girlfriend |
You should apologize for not trusting her and trying to control her, or 'being mean' as she described it. Why would you choose to believe some random dude with obvious issues over your girlfriend? And even if she did 'sit down with some comedian', so what? Does being your girlfriend imply that she cannot talk to people, or go to the bathroom however often she wants? She's not your dog, so don't treat her like one. |
|
| Author: | DoubleCoffee [ Tue Mar 05, 2013 11:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Funny guy tries to game my girlfriend |
Don't apologize, act as if it never happened. If she brings it up, pass it of as if it was nothing, that you were defending your friend and perhaps didn't think clearly. Apologizing will make you look needy. Use apologies only as a last resort and don't make the same mistake twice. In this case stop controlling her and trust her. If she wants to fuck around she will. In case she does your job then, is to not give a shit and move on. |
|
| Author: | HopSlam [ Wed Mar 06, 2013 12:17 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Funny guy tries to game my girlfriend |
It wasn't some random dude, It's her best friend's bf, who I've known for almost a year too. I get that I was probably a bit controlling/reacting. It really is petty shit. She wont bring it up. Girls just love attention. Another thing, As we left the club I heard her say something about this comedian's charisma.. If a girl talks positively about another guy in front of you, in such a way, what do you do? I ignored it. Later that night i asked her and she said she didn't remember saying anything about him. |
|
| Author: | DoubleCoffee [ Wed Mar 06, 2013 3:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Funny guy tries to game my girlfriend |
You need to let go of your jealousy. If she starts talking about guys she wishes to fuck, it's a complete different story. My response to that would be don't mention that stuff I don't like it, but then again I only do open relationships. But talking about a guy being charismatic... get some alone time, learn to trust her, figure out why you love her. But seriously this problem recites in you and not in her. Read secrets of the alpha male. Good luck, |
|
| Author: | vhou812 [ Wed Mar 06, 2013 9:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Funny guy tries to game my girlfriend |
With regards to the charismatic remark, there are a few ways to deal with it. Depending on the girl, and what the nature of your relationship is, you can react a few different ways. I would recommend going with the one that best represents you or who you want to be. One way to react is to ignore it. This one tends to be something that festers over time if it does bug you because it will piss you off and you're just pretending that it doesn't. If it really bugs you, and you're a serious guy in a serious relationship, then I'd come right out and say it makes you feel uncomfortable or less confident when she talks about positive qualities other guys have in front of you. Just make sure if you do this that when you do it it's not in a demanding way, just you exposing yourself to her in a non-confrontational way. Now I'm not a serious guy most of the time, so the way I usually would handle this, in a relationship, is to make a joke out of it. Maybe something like "well if he's so damn charismatic don't be hogging him all up for yourself girl. Let me in on the action too......." This typically isn't received well by the wrong type of woman, and that isn't a problem for me, because I have no interest in a relationship with a woman who doesn't receive it well. |
|
| Author: | Joshua27 [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 4:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Funny guy tries to game my girlfriend |
Trust on each other is the main thing between both person to make a long term relationship.So i think you apologize for your fault.And always listen your girl friend because i think she don't lie with you.And don't trust on any other person because mostly want to play with you. |
|
| Page 1 of 1 | All times are UTC |
| Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group http://www.phpbb.com/ |
|