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| Author: | misterq [ Mon Feb 18, 2013 2:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Worried I might balls my relationship up... |
Hi, my first post here and looking for some advice/take on the situation. Being seeing a girl 2 months she's 20 I'm 25, knew her from a year before and pretty much had her pull me as I didn't have the balls (not that she thought that was the reason) and we got together pretty quickly after that and have seen each pretty 2-3 times a week since then staying over every wkend too. We both have had our last relationships hurt us (her it really affected her badly) and have got on really well and have been very happy in each others company, she was the one all over me initially and my ego was majorly boosted as I had always liked her and she is stunning and it's not an exaggeration and I felt confident about it. She then told me she had fallen for me after a few weeks and then that she loved after another week or so, I never responded and said I would like to really mean it before I say it again. Fast forward the weekend just gone.. Had a really nice v-day and everything was great, next day or so she seemed a little off, could sense it in her manner and started getting a little feeling like I've had before in previous relationships. It escalated the night before when we went out, could feel her being distant and not as affectionate as usual (no kiss when I met just a little hug) then while were out I plucked up the courage to tell her how i feel and said "I loved her" after I thought this was a reason she has started feeling unloved, she was being affectionate again but things weren't right and I went off on my own for a bit, I confronted and told her we'll talk about it when we got home. Got home and I said what's with the distant manner. She explained that she is really scared of gettin hurt again and realised she how feels about me has put her in a position to get hurt, I said I understood and told her I didn't like her reaction the rest of the night after I told her how I felt, but I'm also in the position she's in. She apologised for making me upset about it too. Anyway in the morning things were a little better, she was a affectionate, told me she loved me a few times (maybe to see my response) but seemed genuine and sorta made up had amazing sex a few times today. Thing is she's been talking about things we can do in the near future and I felt better. But i still have nagging doubts as she never text back before she went to bed tonight, though she is known to fall asleep often. Personally I feel I've gotten into a routine and become too ready to see her after reading around, I've told myself I'll hold off seeing her a few days a give her a chance to miss me (like she always has before), I'm just not 100% on buying her reasons for the recent distant manner. I know it's only happened recently so would like to nip it in the bud before I do something silly (acting like AFC like previous relationships). But I'm one of them that believes something must got to her for this behaviour. She's wants to see me again tomorrow night and has asked if we can do something in the week, so its not like she is avoiding me. I don't doubt she doesn't love me, I just am a little confused. Can women actually be genuine in their reasoning? Or am I right to be sceptical? Sorry for the long draw out post but wantd to clear. Cheers for any advice shared! |
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| Author: | misterq [ Mon Feb 18, 2013 6:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Worried I might balls my relationship up... |
Any advice? I realise it might be a pain to read it all but need to figure out in the next day or so what I'm going to do, as it's starting to play on my mind and it does my head when I let these things affect me mentally. Thanks. |
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| Author: | misterq [ Mon Feb 18, 2013 6:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Worried I might balls my relationship up... |
Update: Now starting to think something's up or she's testing me. Haven't heard from her today, this is pretty much the first time this has happened ever. Will wait for contact anyway. |
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| Author: | misterq [ Fri Feb 22, 2013 10:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Worried I might balls my relationship up... |
Well seems was a misunderstanding and things were great the next few days, tells me she loves me first and was affectionate again, the usual. Thing is some days she can seem that little bit off, less affectionate all of sudden and less responsive to me, feels like she sometimes is purposely doing it to test me to see if I do like/love her? Its weird but she misses me when Im not there for a few days but after the 1st day being back with her she gets comfortable again and it feels harder to keep her interested. I've been strong as I can and tried really had at times to not be an AFC ( which can be so easily to fall into ) and can feel a bit of one-itis creeping in, which kinda ruined my last relationship for me, so I've learnt a lesson there. How can I stop myself getting the negative feelings all the time as its ruining my time spent with her as I'm constantly worrying "is everything ok" and I get 100 different scenarios of what she's up to or thinking about in my head. Hard staying strong and in check of your emotions sometimes! Even if no one responds it's quite cathartic to get it all down, I know I think about it way too much though and need chill the fuck out. |
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Fri Feb 22, 2013 2:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Worried I might balls my relationship up... |
You're overanalysing and overthinking everything. |
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