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| Author: | Adapting Love [ Sun Feb 17, 2013 5:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I have a problem.. |
So whenever I feel rejected or ignored by my girlfriend, I get irritated and it shows. I can tell that she gets just as insecure as I get, which is a bad thing. I think she's scared of losing or hurting me when I behave that way, but the problem is that I get so overwhelmed with negative emotions whenever i feel rejected or ignored that I can't control my mood and therefore lose a lot of my personality and get depressive. What to do in these situations? For instance, three days ago me and my girlfriend and a friend of mine shared a hotel room - my friend laying on the couch. I began stroking her legs, and she rejected my hand when I got too far down, telling me she didn't want to do it when he was there. I kinda understod that, though I felt rejected and therefore got pissed. I hate losing control. I turned around, laughed it away when she asked me if i was angry; "no, relax, i'm not," and went to sleep. The next day we went to her home, I kissed her goodbye and didn't even think about having sex with her because I was so fucking pissed by that small little rejection that very night. How to somewhat maintain, or fix this? Or how to keep my cool? I'm scared of losing her because of this problem of mine, because I feel so weak and un-manly when this shit happens. |
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| Author: | MrGiggles [ Sun Feb 17, 2013 5:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I have a problem.. |
You're too dependent on her approval. Whether or not she lets you do something with her at a particular time shouldn't have that much of an effect on you. Your mood and frustration are dependent on her actions, and that probably makes her feel uneasy. You don't lose control of anything when she rejects you. You're just as much in control of yourself after the rejection as you were before it, and you have the power to be either happy and secure or whiny and pouty like a little tot who didn't get his way. Focus less on trying to control other people, and focus more on keeping control over yourself. |
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| Author: | pcorrigan [ Mon Feb 18, 2013 3:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I have a problem.. |
atleast you know its a problem so you can focus on dealing with it. maybe try some breathing exercises next time. try not to take it personal when she rejects you, try to understand her reasoning. |
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| Author: | DoubleCoffee [ Wed Feb 20, 2013 8:09 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I have a problem.. |
These books might be useful: No more mr. nice guy. Secret of the alpha male. Power of now. Good luck, |
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