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how can i work with my self, so i wound't doubt her love for me, is it just because i am insecure with my self??

It is because you want all your happiness to come from her.

Don't forget you have a hell of a lot of different aspects in your life. Pending dreams , hobbies you never took up , passions remain unhindered...

The girlfriend / lover is there to celebrate life with you , not to provide it to you. Obviously ,as an extra bonus , they do actually provide quite of bit of it as well. The idea,however ,is to not be dependent on it. You have to be happy on your own before you can be happy with someone else. Otherwise , you'll make her the center of your entire galaxy.She will be your food , your air and water.And when she's gone , you'll die. Don't get me wrong , you'll still be alive. But inside , there will be nothing left of you.

Realizing what I said to you is the most effective way of working with yourself. And that doesn't just apply to a girlfriend. Once the entire income of your personal happiness is based solely on one aspect of your life , if / when that aspect ceases to exist for you , your entire world will crumble.

Author:	Valdemar1 [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 1:21 pm ]
Post subject:	Gets sad when girlfriend gets drunk
quick info, every highschool from my country is basically in prague to drink this week, including me and my girlfriends. Although we both stay with our friends and live some distance from eeachother. Apparently she wants us to be able to have fun with our friends without the other one gets sad, which i didn't like since i kinda hoped to go out with her and stuff.. anyway, the first night i got kinda upset with her, but then went to see her and her friends at a bar with my friends, when i got there she was really drunk, which was fine at first, but then she really crossed my limits. first of all she pulled up her shirt so my friend could see her tattoo at her rips, in front of the whole bar which i did not like.. i sat and talked to her, at this point she was having trouble standing on her legs so i told her, can we pls just go home, you are really drunk and i am afraid of what can happen to you.. but she did not want to.. i could feel she got upset with me trying to force to go home, when she came to prague to party and the clock was only like 1 at night. anyway i was standing right outside when she came out and looked up set, she wanted to pee and i told her i did not want her to do it in public, but she really needed to go, so she sad betwen some cars and pee'd, a boy came by and he might have seen her pussy, at least her g-streng, which still hunts my mind... we went inside and she had to get pass some guys sitting down to get to her chair, when she felt down on their laps (there were really not much room) and they laughed like she was some hore.. the day after i talked to her about the hole peeing situation, she did not quite understand why it bothered me since the guy would never see her again, but she agreed to not pee in front of anyone again. but i am still upset and afraid of her getting to drunk, and i feel like i have to look out for her, which she dosent like... so please share ANY thoughts on this, i am a mess and really i just want some input!

Author:	Wolfwoodd [ Tue Feb 12, 2013 7:58 pm ]
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Yeah, all that stuff she did? Not a big deal. It's a big party.. these things happen. In fact, it sounds like you were the one that was out of line. You need to relax. Trying to ruin her fun isn't going to earn you any points in the relationship. It's just makes you look insecure and controlling, which is bad. -Wolf

Author:	Valdemar1 [ Wed Feb 13, 2013 2:40 pm ]
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Quote: Yeah, all that stuff she did? Not a big deal. It's a big party.. these things happen. In fact, it sounds like you were the one that was out of line. You need to relax. Trying to ruin her fun isn't going to earn you any points in the relationship. It's just makes you look insecure and controlling, which is bad. -Wolf True!! sometimes i just get insecure about wether or not she actually loves me as much as i love her.. which i try as hard as i can, not to turn into her problem, cause i no that, that just would push her away from me, and there by give me backfire... the question is therefore, how can i work with my self, so i wound't doubt her love for me, is it just because i am insecure with my self?? thank you for your answer

Author:	R.C [ Wed Feb 13, 2013 5:55 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Gets sad when girlfriend gets drunk
Quote: how can i work with my self, so i wound't doubt her love for me, is it just because i am insecure with my self?? It is because you want all your happiness to come from her. Don't forget you have a hell of a lot of different aspects in your life. Pending dreams , hobbies you never took up , passions remain unhindered... The girlfriend / lover is there to celebrate life with you , not to provide it to you. Obviously ,as an extra bonus , they do actually provide quite of bit of it as well. The idea,however ,is to not be dependent on it. You have to be happy on your own before you can be happy with someone else. Otherwise , you'll make her the center of your entire galaxy.She will be your food , your air and water.And when she's gone , you'll die. Don't get me wrong , you'll still be alive. But inside , there will be nothing left of you. Realizing what I said to you is the most effective way of working with yourself. And that doesn't just apply to a girlfriend. Once the entire income of your personal happiness is based solely on one aspect of your life , if / when that aspect ceases to exist for you , your entire world will crumble.

Author:	Valdemar1 [ Thu Feb 14, 2013 11:15 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Gets sad when girlfriend gets drunk
Quote: Quote: how can i work with my self, so i wound't doubt her love for me, is it just because i am insecure with my self?? It is because you want all your happiness to come from her. Don't forget you have a hell of a lot of different aspects in your life. Pending dreams , hobbies you never took up , passions remain unhindered... The girlfriend / lover is there to celebrate life with you , not to provide it to you. Obviously ,as an extra bonus , they do actually provide quite of bit of it as well. The idea,however ,is to not be dependent on it. You have to be happy on your own before you can be happy with someone else. Otherwise , you'll make her the center of your entire galaxy.She will be your food , your air and water.And when she's gone , you'll die. Don't get me wrong , you'll still be alive. But inside , there will be nothing left of you. Realizing what I said to you is the most effective way of working with yourself. And that doesn't just apply to a girlfriend. Once the entire income of your personal happiness is based solely on one aspect of your life , if / when that aspect ceases to exist for you , your entire world will crumble. Okay that sounds really good, i have realized this before actually! So to summ up what you just said, i just need to use more time in my other hobbies, and try to do other things that i love to do??

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Author:	R.C [ Thu Feb 14, 2013 11:35 am ]
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Yes. Invest some time and emotion in other things too. Once your life is balanced out you'll have a much clearer and healthier perspective on things that now might seem a huge deal.

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