Hello,
New to this forum, but i've been lurking and trying to learn a lot!
I've been with a girl for 6 months, which is now a temporary long distance relationship (GF studying abroad in UK) which has been mostly very good. I have managed to remain pretty alpha, and she said "I love you" first, over SPAM a couple weeks ago. Normally we text every day and SPAM almost every day. She initiated most of the time. Recently however, I have found that for some reason she will just pick a day where she will not initiate anything. I would honestly pick up her slack and initiate something myself, but I have been doing it regularly and so it's not like she's doing it because things have been one sided.
She went on a little 3 day trip where she had very little internet access and so we didn't get to talk. Which is fine. She texted me when she got back last night, and I replied an hour later that we should SPAM! And she said that she was just out the door to go out with her friends, and that we would SPAM later that night or tomorrow. She texts me at the end of the night saying she was tired and gonna go right to sleep. Totally fine, I said a cheerful goodnight.
Well today is one of those days where it seems she has chosen to not contact me. I'm a little miffed because usually after we go a few days without SPAM she is excited to do it. But this seems like a shit test to me. I am unsure of whether she is trying to guage my neediness or my interest level. So option A is continue to wait until she contacts me, demonstrating that I am not needy, and option B is to initiate and risk looking needy but showing I care, or something. My gut is Option A, essentially a freeze out. Option B would to say something like "I forget, are we mad at each other?
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" and something funny and she immediately responded and we SPAM. She threw a couple shit tests about how she was partying it up so much and I passed easily. After a while I told her I loved her and she said "you better" kinda jokingly/kinda not. I think I was gaming her a bit too much, maybe, when she needed comfort.