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Author:  heat2 [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 5:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Virgin shit test
My 8 month gf is a virgin, in the last few weeks, we're coming closer to sex and she shit tested me.. Here's how:

Her: "If we date for a year or more and we don't have sex, will you cheat on me?"
(note: she is well aware that i have plenty of girls around me all the time and can easily cheat on her)
Me: I don't know, if i'm happy with you and our relationship i don't have a reason to cheat.

Her:"umm, okay, didn't quite understand you but..okay"

Then we made out and had lots of fun..

So what do you guys think about this shit test ?
Author:  R.C [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 5:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Virgin shit test
Oh god...where to begin.

First off,a shit test is:
Quote:
SHIT TEST—noun: a question, demand, or seemingly hostile comment made by a woman intended to gauge whether a man is strong enough to be a worthy boyfriend or sexual partner. If he takes the question, demand, or comment at face value, he fails and generally loses the opportunity to move forward in his interaction with her. Examples include telling him he is too young or old for her, or asking him to perform an unnecessary favor
She is a virgin. She is seeking comfort and validation as for every virgin out there (man or woman) sexuality is a new scary experience.Naturally , everyone prefers going through these intimidating experiences with someone they trust.

So you see,being a virgin she's not testing to see if you're a needy idiot that would say just about anything to get in her pants. Rather , she's afraid that her incapability of offering you sexual pleasures will push you towards finding them with someone else. But in order for her to be able to offer you these things , she must know that she can trust you. She wants you to be with her because you genuinely like her , not because you'll eventually have sex with her. She has no clue how important / fun / pleasuring sex is for a relationship. All she sees for the moment are a stream of emotions.

Translation to what she said: "If I can't yet offer you what you want , do you love me enough to wait and not betray me ?"
Translation to what she heard you say:"Yeah well, I might but then again ,who knows ?You're pretty much on the clock."

Also,I view cheating as lack of both integrity and character when in a LTR.

Do you understand what I'm saying ?

Your ambiguous answer didn't help your cause.
Author:  heat2 [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 5:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Virgin shit test
Thank you very much for your reply, i tottaly understand everything you said and it has been a big eye opener for me. I'm not very experienced in this virgin thing.. so what's you advice on how to fix it now.. what should I do ?
Author:  R.C [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 6:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Virgin shit test
Depends. Do you love her ?


The first real relationship in everyone's life usually leads to sex and loss of virginity.Real implying love on at least one party. Simply because it takes that certain amount of trust to get there. As a backfire to this, the heartbreak usually is a lot more intense the first time as well.

If you love her you'll find it easy to form that connection with her.

Being a newbie she probably has high dreams of heart melting romances. She wants and is eager to live the scenes in every disgustingly romantic love movie . Obviously ,overdoing it will have the same consequences as with every woman , virgin or not , but the tolerance level is a little higher.

Unless you're the sleazy nice guy who showers her with endless attention , you don't really have anything to worry about.

If you don't love her and wanna fuck her and brake-up after that is entirely the choice of your morality.Personally ,if I had a little virgin sister and some guy would brake her heart by manipulating her into sex and after that run off ,I'd probably murder him in a very painful way.

What I'm saying is that it's ok to have fun and all but when there's emotions involved , specially with virgins who are totally new to this and everything they feel is 10x as intense (that's why people never forget their first love) I just consider that playing on those emotions is completely wrong. If your endgame is sex and that's all it comes down to , go find someone who you won't brake in the process.
Author:  heat2 [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 7:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Virgin shit test
I totaly understand what you said..

And my answer is yes, i do love her.
She is a very special girl to me, and believe me i've never had a girl like her.
I've had lots of girlfriends and fwb but none of that girls had the effect that this girl has on me. I don't know why, but she's the only girl that can touch me emotionaly and the only girl I care about even though I have an abundance of girls around me every day.
Aaand ofcourse that i want to continue our relationship after we have sex, i'm not going to leave a quality girl like this just becouse i banged her.
Author:  R.C [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 8:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Virgin shit test
Great. You too have fun then :D.
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