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Author:  Apocalyptica [ Fri Jan 25, 2013 5:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Didn't want to commit to girl, now she is gone and miss her
hello guys

in brief:
me in belgium, met erasmus girl from hungary, we dated for 4 months, in the end she practically moved into my house. very lovely girl, but i'm 26 and she's 20 so the connection wasn't always 100% (bit childish sometimes)
From the first moment i was reluctant to see anything more in this than a fuck buddy. Nevertheless, she got madly in love with me, while i wasn't on the same level i felt (and told her at the end). I stated clearly from the beginning that we couldn't be a couple due to the unsecure future (and because i didn't want to commit) however she always refered to me as "her boyfriend"

In the last week before she was going home she found a flirty text message i wrote to another girl, so she was hurt and more or less broke up. Still, she said she loves me, etc.

She cut all contact with me from the moment she went back home cause she wanted to heal and forget about me (fall "out" of love), which i understand and respect.

Now that she is gone, i really start to miss her and feel for her. More than i could have imagined. I feel that now, i believe in a future together, also because she told me she can come back for an internship to my country in some months and after that stay in Belgium. Seems like i did not realize what i had untill it is gone... And now there is regret of course

What should i do?
Respect her cutting ties with me but fear losing her to another guy soon?
Not respect her silence and try to "proof" my love for her?
Or Maybe i'm just missing her company, instead of her as a person?

thanks!
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Jan 25, 2013 5:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Didn't want to commit to girl, now she is gone and miss
Reverse freeze out...gotta love it! See how effective it is?

Better move on Pal, get your mind off it, there are plenty more to go around!
Author:  R.C [ Fri Jan 25, 2013 6:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Didn't want to commit to girl, now she is gone and miss
Life offers you shit sometimes.If you're smart enough you'll turn that shit into knowledge.

Next time learn to appreciate what you have before it's gone.Learn from your mistakes.


LDR's and overly complicated relationships tend to never work out.


Unless you're some kind of forever alone you can't possible miss someone's company instead of someone as a person. The only reason you came to enjoy her company in the first place is because you enjoyed her as a person,correct ?


Let go man. Don't complicate your life more than necessary.
Author:  Apocalyptica [ Fri Jan 25, 2013 6:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Didn't want to commit to girl, now she is gone and miss
Quote:
Life offers you shit sometimes.If you're smart enough you'll turn that shit into knowledge.

Next time learn to appreciate what you have before it's gone.Learn from your mistakes.


LDR's and overly complicated relationships tend to never work out.


Unless you're some kind of forever alone you can't possible miss someone's company instead of someone as a person. The only reason you came to enjoy her company in the first place is because you enjoyed her as a person,correct ?


Let go man. Don't complicate your life more than necessary.
Well, i had sex.
Usually, after sex i wasn't that much 'in to' her.
I felt there was a slight lack of emotional connection. Not a 100% 'she is the one' feeling.
Now that she is gone, i ironically feel that she could be the one.

That's why i wrote: maybe i just miss somebody to hold me company, to have sex with. Instead of really missing HER.
Author:  R.C [ Fri Jan 25, 2013 6:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Didn't want to commit to girl, now she is gone and miss
If she were the one you would've felt it while being with her.
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