PUA Forum :: How do I deal with men chatting my gf up?

It's easy to get a woman , it's hard to keep her. And it only gets harder the more attractive she is.

I think the best advice I read is, never buy drinks and NEVER buy a woman a meal who you haven't slept with!!! Spot on!!! x

I would wait till the next time you are having sex then bring that guy up. Like when your banging away at her doggy style say something like, "So..*pant pant*...has nature boy from kenya called you recently? *pant pant*" And you say this as you are vigorously railing her and she's moaning so hard she can't barely respond. But make her respond. Be like "You wanna' go play with some giraffes do you?!? *pant pant*"

No offense to anyone, but you guys who put up with this have women who don't respect you or your relationship. Talking to a guy on SPAM all night? Gone. You like attention from other men while with me? That's cool, we're not compatible. Adios.
The orbiters are not the problem and you can't blame a guy for taking an opening when your gf is giving them one. If you even need to tell a woman that she shouldnt be keeping orbiters with you, she doesn't respect you.
When I'm in a relationship, I give up the nights of meeting and sleeping with hot amazing girls out of respect for the person I'm with. If they can't give up some lame dudes then they're not relationship material.

Author:	Codders1 [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 1:56 pm ]
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Hello friends! Once again I call on your help and advice!! My girlfriend works on an airport and there are about 20 clients and her office going out for some bullshit "business meeting" at a restaurant tonight and tomorrow. She was just telling me how one of the guys has been "skyping her all morning" from the hotel and asking her about what music she likes and what wine and blah blah blah. And how his brother has a nature reserve in Kenya and she should come out blah blah blah. My rage is off the scale. I'm 34 and so is she, we're not kids. I have heard this shit from girls all my life (always followed up with "oh don't be silly, he's married"). Why, WHY!!!! Do they do this to us???? They can't be that stupid not to realise when someone is chatting them up??? How exactly do they want us to react????? "Oh brilliant, tell me more! He sounds wonderful, I hope you see him soon, he doesn't know about me? Never mind, you have a good time!" So guys, how do I deal with this bullshit, and how should I react? Why do they do it? I'm too old for this crap!!! I just get angry now!!!! Help!!! Thanks guys xx

Author:	R.C [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 2:29 pm ]
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They do it because they can. Just like you enjoy the attention of a woman , a woman enjoys the attention of a man. Your average woman will be hit on at least once or twice a day. That's what men do. They are hunters so they hunt.Good thing is that 99% of them are crappy hunters at best. Women don't do it like that. They don't hunt the man they want, they instead send subtle messages that they want to be hunted by him. So the fact that they always have 20 guys waiting in line for them gives them the impression that they hold some sort of power over you,the current boyfriend.They tend to take you for granted because there's always someone who can replace you. They have it easy like that. Now,your only advantage is that those 20 are more than likely huge AFCs , idiots , all in all your average stupid guy. So basically all you can do to win is everytime she's getting chatted up , you step up your game. It's good that she tells you about it because you now know whatever makes her be interested in that guy and you can simply outplay him,just do it better. Like I said , if a woman brakes up with her man , there's always another guy trying to take your place. But what you can do is set the bar so high that maybe no other man in her life will/has ever reached it.If you do this,she will feel compelled to do the same. You offer greatness so you will not settle for anything less yourself , right ? That's just how competition works. Whenever a competitor enters you have to crush him and remain well sited on your throne. And she should do the same for you. And if she never does...fuck her,there's another woman out there that will be smart enough to do so. I understand the age-related frustration , but life doesn't get easy. It never does.The only way you can win is if when you're knocked down , you get up and hit twice as hard. It's easy to get a woman , it's hard to keep her. And it only gets harder the more attractive she is.

Author:	Sh4rp [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 2:40 pm ]
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Quote: It's easy to get a woman , it's hard to keep her. And it only gets harder the more attractive she is. Word. Honestly, I don't think you need to worry. Simply by the fact that she is telling you about it means that he's not a threat. You can Alpha him, and call BS on his stories, etc. But honestly girls that cheat want to keep it secret. She is either 1. Randomly telling you about her day and what's up or 2. Bringing up her desirability to try to gain additional attention/affection from you. Think about it, if you really want to bang this chick, are you going to be "Babe, I met this amazing chick, blah blah blah." Fuck no! You're going to text her and do it on the side without your girl even suspecting.

Author:	gtdave [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 3:51 pm ]
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When I was dating my wife she tended to do this a lot! Though not quite as blatant as your girl. I used to not let it affect me at all but recently it's been annoying me. I'm thinking to myself..."Jesus I thought this shit was meant to stop after marriage". Then I start over thinking and getting annoyed. I start thinking..."we'll if he knows she's married and he's still flirting then what a disrespectful prick! Hold on, maybe she keeps the fact that she's married conveniently hidden". It's hard to get out of your own head. However I think the key is to not get jealous. She's trying to make you jealous to make her value higher than yours. You must be doing something right if she's trying to reduce your value. My wife has many orbiters who do the sweet cuddly text shit and they are friend zoned big time but there's this one dude who is just so fucking persistent! Like a turd that won't flush! He is such an afc and is very emotional. He is a singer songwriter and is about to be signed professionally. I'm worried that his value will rise significantly if he's very successful. The twat even wrote a song called "missing you" that he wrote about my wife...and it's going to be in his album. Ohh and then theirs the ex bf who's been pushing for a meeting to declare his undying love that will last for eternity in the stars of heaven itself! This shit never ends!!! Anyone got any other advice apart from ignoring? I feel it's only a matter of time before I crack and give her the, "why are you still talking to these twats that obviously still fancy you. It's disrespectful".

Author:	P1nkstar [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 5:08 pm ]
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Some girls really think the guys just want to be friends. We guys know, if we are chatting a girl up, we want to fuck her, but, most girls don't think like that. And think they just want to be friends. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA

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Author:	Codders1 [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 5:48 pm ]
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Lots of replies very quickly guys, thankyou! I see it's a common problem. I've been thinking this afternoon that I know what the problem is. It's basically, you can't trust women!!! They're attention hungry bastards!! That singer songwriter really needs to man up and get a life. All orbiters need to just try for women who aren't attached. I HATE ORBITERS!!!!!!! Sometimes I'm ashamed to be a part of the male species. When I see and hear how they pathetically try and chat up women by buying them drinks etc!!! I think the best advice I read is, never buy drinks and NEVER buy a woman a meal who you haven't slept with!!! Spot on!!! x

Author:	dinomosin [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 7:09 pm ]
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I have this issue too as my GF is one of those girls that is just seems all men want to fuck. When we first got together she had many orbiters but the closer we get the less she seems to have. I don't know if she is putting off a different vibe or just the fact that most of her time away from work is spent with me. Still, she will constantlly DHV herself to me about different men from her past (or present) but the second I mention the fact that my path crossed with any female whose name I know she has several questions about these women and get's quite jealous. When she mentions the guys I usually just stay silent or give a "That's cool: or "I see." I, too, want to know why the hell she does this. I like what the OP wrote with the "Oh brilliant, tell me more! He sounds wonderful, I hope you see him soon, he doesn't know about me? Never mind, you have a good time!" I will try this next time (in a sarcastic tone) and see how it goes over...

Author:	Sh4rp [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 8:06 pm ]
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Quote: I think the best advice I read is, never buy drinks and NEVER buy a woman a meal who you haven't slept with!!! Spot on!!! x Negative. You can setup dates where you guys reciprocate. I've done dates where I'll buy the dinner and you then we hop to a bar and she will buy me drinks. This worked with a few girls in the past. I mixed feelings about this, if they are the more traditional type, this behavior is expected. If they are a new age girl they might just be playing you. DON'T buy drinks for random girls you just met. This is overplayed and mad DLV. You can buy them a drink if you bum a cigarette, this is a trade not a "gift." Anyways, back to the thread. Just chat up other women and tell them about it. I wrote this poem for this chick, blah blah blah. This will bring mad jealousy to the table and will cause they to reevaluate all of their orbiters. For your wife, you could just straight up tell her, "Why are you still talking to this guy? He's obviously really into you and that makes me feel uncomfortable." Yeah it might be a non-AMOG thing to say but you're married not some random guy.

Author:	puaninja [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 8:18 pm ]
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I would wait till the next time you are having sex then bring that guy up. Like when your banging away at her doggy style say something like, "So..pant pant...has nature boy from kenya called you recently? pant pant" And you say this as you are vigorously railing her and she's moaning so hard she can't barely respond. But make her respond. Be like "You wanna' go play with some giraffes do you?!? pant pant" Just totally trivialize and belittle that guy as you are putting it to your girl from behind. She'll catch on to why you are doing that, trust me. Then every time she thinks of that guy in the future, she'll think about you fucking her hard and all the comments you said about him to tool him out. That's pretty much the worst combination of how a guy wants to be perceived in the eyes of a girl he's trying to get with--having her think about another guy fucking her as he trashes your life.

Author:	Sh4rp [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 8:49 pm ]
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Quote: I would wait till the next time you are having sex then bring that guy up. Like when your banging away at her doggy style say something like, "So..pant pant...has nature boy from kenya called you recently? pant pant" And you say this as you are vigorously railing her and she's moaning so hard she can't barely respond. But make her respond. Be like "You wanna' go play with some giraffes do you?!? pant pant" Or if his game is strong enough, she will just visualize having sex with him. Be careful with this one.

Author:	ben489 [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 10:35 pm ]
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Plant the seed that this guy is creepy. Girls hate creeps and if done properly it will kill anything there and then. Like the invitation thing is a perfect opportunity, if she mentions it again, "he sounds a bit creepy, trying to invite people over to remote places". You don't even need a strong case, the idea can be enough.

Author:	neo87 [ Wed Jan 23, 2013 5:24 am ]
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No offense to anyone, but you guys who put up with this have women who don't respect you or your relationship. Talking to a guy on SPAM all night? Gone. You like attention from other men while with me? That's cool, we're not compatible. Adios. The orbiters are not the problem and you can't blame a guy for taking an opening when your gf is giving them one. If you even need to tell a woman that she shouldnt be keeping orbiters with you, she doesn't respect you. When I'm in a relationship, I give up the nights of meeting and sleeping with hot amazing girls out of respect for the person I'm with. If they can't give up some lame dudes then they're not relationship material.

Author:	league [ Wed Jan 23, 2013 7:56 am ]
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Quote: No offense to anyone, but you guys who put up with this have women who don't respect you or your relationship. Talking to a guy on SPAM all night? Gone. You like attention from other men while with me? That's cool, we're not compatible. Adios. The orbiters are not the problem and you can't blame a guy for taking an opening when your gf is giving them one. If you even need to tell a woman that she shouldnt be keeping orbiters with you, she doesn't respect you. When I'm in a relationship, I give up the nights of meeting and sleeping with hot amazing girls out of respect for the person I'm with. If they can't give up some lame dudes then they're not relationship material. Absolutely nailed it!!

Author:	Cloaked [ Wed Jan 23, 2013 9:30 am ]
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Absolutely agree neo87. Some women like the attention and some hold onto the memories of their ex's, both can have detrimental affect on your relationship. Either way you should take all her attention and you should be the only one planting memories in her head. There's two options here if you know of either and it affects you: 1. You up your game to a point where she can't think of anyone else but you 2. You drop her for making you feel like the way you are - but there is no guarantee this might not happen again in a another relationship.

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Author:	mephislee [ Fri Feb 01, 2013 1:32 am ]
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Why are the guys SPAM with her from their hotels? Is this a business SPAM account or does she give out her SPAM to these men? If she gave out her SPAM some random business man passing through,in my books, this is unacceptable. I understand women wanting attention, and I see nothing wrong with it, however,SPAM with guys you just met falls under the category of "going out of your way to get attention". Be secure in yourself, but also be aware that she could be shopping around.