carefree and fun boyfriend attitude and does not have any insecuritie

The will get you far in a relationship , but also know when to stomp your foot on the ground. Be fun and carefree but don't let yourself be disses or taken for granted.

So here's the story, my girl and I have been seeing each other for around 4 months. She's 19 and I'm 20 and we're both in college. this is basically what's bothering me the whole night.

She's still in good terms and communicates almost regularly with this one particular ex. He's definitely an Alpha and I respect that. But what's bothering me is that during thanksgiving break (during our dating phase), the prick laid her. They also still maintain constant contact because they're "good friends". She told me this guy was "disappointed" when he found out we started dating. I spoke with her about the seeing our exes subject and she was very pro seeing our exes. Mainly because she is in good terms with almost all hers, even suggesting I should maintain contact with my exes. I remember just telling her I think its best to let our exes have their own lives, as it usually puts stress on new relationships.

Last night I asked her what she's doing for the rest of the day and was very vague in her description(usually tells me who she is hanging with). (off-topic: should i always ask who she's hanging out with? I'm not sure if that transfers as needy).

Back to the topic, next time she calls me is now at 5 in the morning telling me she hanged out with the ex-boyfriend and his group of friends and that she drank a lot of wine with them. I'm not stupid that he wants to get in my girls pants. I run this relationship with a carefree and fun boyfriend attitude and does not have any insecurities. I want to know if I should take action or if I'm just over-thinking things.

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Learn the rules, so you know how to break them properly

I doubt there is any woman out there that bears the idea of her man possibly having sex with one of his exes. Call her bluff. Meet with your exes every now and then and see how she takes it. 100$ says she'll become jealous and ask you to stop doing it.

Usually women have a naturally inherited hatred for any of her mans' exes,so yeah.

Don't want to sound negative but if your gf messed with him before and keeps in regular contact with him and hid from you what she was going to do that night, its over a 50% chance she did something with him especially if shes using the drunk card (drank a lot of wine)

so an update on the story,

I just got off the phone with her and apparently because of "ambiguity" of our relationship. I broke it off with her a week ago because we were going to college in good terms and mutually and blah blah blah. She also indicated bunch of red flags so I did what I had to do(being aloof). But the next following days leading to now, we spoke as if we were still together. She told me that they kissed last night. I am now happier and more relieved as this actually shows me that I dodged a bullet. She's telling me that she fucked up kept apologizing and still wants to see me tomorrow as we planned before. I'm now in control of this. I want to know if any of you have experienced a girl doing this and if she changed or did she keep her unfaithful ways.