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| Author: | rolor [ Thu Jan 03, 2013 11:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | get her back or get 10 more? |
Hey. Here's the situation. HB8.5 I was with for around 2 years broke up with me about 2 weeks ago just before christmas - over text. I didn't respond to the initial text as I was out with the lads and sensed she was just craving attention and that I couldn't go running off to her all the time. So left it about 4 days until contacting. Throughout this time I think she went through her grieving and started to get over it. Whereas I just went out drinking. When I realised I wanted her back she had already started to freeze me out - 'I want space etc'. I resisted contacting her for around 4 days after that, contacting her yesterday and had a 1.5 hour phone call trying to understand how she can appear to be over it so quickly. I've contacted her a little too much yesterday through texts/ca;;s and she's getting annoyed, but has agreed to a lunch on the weekend so will have to go for that. Im basically seeing if anything is salvageable whilst there are still feelings from both sides before I have to just drop it and move on. My question is I tried the no contact game and it worked to a degree where she showed more interest on the first contact a couple of days ago, but I feel I need to create more of an impact early on when there are feelings? Or am I being a pussy about all of this and completely handing over control? If she was a hb5-6 or something It would be so much easier to walk away... |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jan 03, 2013 5:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: get her back or get 10 more? |
So your driving along with this girl, you hit a bump in the road, and SHE bails! And you think WTF? just happened?? You did nothing at 1st, you thought "fuck her! I didn't put the bump in the road! SHE did!" and low and behold she seemed like she wanted to jump up and give chase? So being the nice guy that you are and were raised to be, you thought "We'll have none of that for her, she is to wonderful beautiful to have to case me down! I'll turn around, kiss her ass and take all the blame, and beg her to get back in with me." Soon as you did THAT...she fucking bailed again? WTF? Now your at the crossroad of Fucked if I do (Kissing her ASS and sucking up again) and Fucked if I don't! (When she seemed like she want to chase you down.) The odds are better down what road? You need to make the choice, but if it was me? I would go no contact til about an hour before your doomed lunch date. Then cancel because you suddenly have a super fantastic fun crazy other option that you cannot pass up, (like a couple girls from work and a hot tub pool party) tell SHE can contact you when she can re-schedule. Then back to no contact. |
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| Author: | detox75 [ Thu Jan 03, 2013 7:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: get her back or get 10 more? |
I would flake on that date with some excuse that your too busy having fun and doing important things, you are way too needy to get her back at this time. Her interest level is very low at this time, you arnt going to raise it by continuing to press her with negative feelings, and trying to get her to discuss shit she clearly doesn't want to.. |
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| Author: | league [ Thu Jan 03, 2013 7:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: get her back or get 10 more? |
Spot on advice above but i'd cancel on her the night before, firstly she will think you are at some party and have met another girl which will drive her crazy and secondly it stops her cancelling on you Just because she is an 8.5 so what? I hate to read about men being messed about just because a girl is hot, we wouldn't take that shit from a 3 so why should a hottie be any different |
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| Author: | heat2 [ Thu Jan 03, 2013 7:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: get her back or get 10 more? |
Quote: Spot on advice above but i'd cancel on her the night before, firstly she will think you are at some party and have met another girl which will drive her crazy and secondly it stops her cancelling on you
I totally agree !
Just because she is an 8.5 so what? I hate to read about men being messed about just because a girl is hot, we wouldn't take that shit from a 3 so why should a hottie be any different |
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| Author: | Langlo [ Thu Jan 03, 2013 10:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: get her back or get 10 more? |
Why did you break up? What's the short answer? needy/mean/boredness or what? |
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| Author: | rolor [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 12:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: get her back or get 10 more? |
short answer is that we argued too much. Especially over the final few months. I have a fairly high pressured job and she has a laid back barmaid's job. Think there was a lot of conflict about me not giving her the 100% devotion she craved. Through so many arguments she just started not to care about it anymore. Another reason for these conflicts could be the age gap. I'm 26, and she's an, albeit, very mature 19/20 year old. So she flaked on the meetup I mentioned previously. I then went NC for about 2 weeks then caved and spoke to her yesterday for about an hour. She says although she still feels lonely and misses various aspects of us she still wants to move on and thinks I should do the same. She wont meet up because she is scared of opening feelings again - she has gone into a hardened shell which is hard to get her to open up again. I know the advice here is more than likely to be next her and move on myself. But I guess if a lot of time is spent gaming to try and get a hot, catch, why let it die at the first sign of failure? I'm toying with the idea of giving it one last gesture, going to her house and giving her a bracelet/letter or something similar to see if actually seeing me face to face will rectify anything. I'm off on a job contract tomorrow and so wont have another chance for a few weeks and she's skiing next week(on the family trip we were meant to be going on together) Any thoughts/advice? Current situation is that I didn't really know what I had until it was gone, and the split up has shocked me into realising how strong my feelings were for her and should have appreciated her a whole lot more. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 3:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: get her back or get 10 more? |
Here is some advice....slap yourself in the sack! FUCK NO! DON'T BE NEEDY! All that is going to do IS express neediness! Signs of Neediness: 1. Buying gifts. 2. Romantic gestures. 3. Expressing your desire. 4. Doing “favors” without reciprocation. 5. Chasing. Again, and again, women want a strong man who is confident and independent. I know, I know, your thinking; "But she is different, I don’t have to play games with this chick. I like her. Why can’t I just let her know how I FEEL.” SHE IS NOT DIFFERENT! STOP being up her ass and clingy. Yes saying "Move On" is the easy advice here, and you should! Because, every time she doesn't hear from you she should be wondering if she will ever see you again. She should be wondering how much you like her. She should be wondering if you’re seeing other girls. Let her wonder. That is the art of the chase. The more time she sits around wondering what you’re doing… the more she begins to convince herself she is still in love with you. In the meantime, You need to get a life of your own and not depend on her for emotional stability, once you can validate your own life you won’t need her validation. Therefore you will naturally act as an attractive male as you should be. Game and fuck other girls! Touch base on occasion ...out of the blue! Express your sexual intent and attraction all you want. That is perfectly fine. But, don’t let her know you want more than that. If she doesn't respond...SO FUCKING WHAT, you have 10 more hot bitches at your finger tips! Try this, do every thing as above still, WAIT at least 5 fucking days until your head is screwed on a little tighter. Then text her "Hey where are my sexy pictures you owe me?" DON'T BREAK FRAME! Of course after you've fucked a few other girls, maybe you won't want too. |
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