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| Author: | TrippAdvice [ Mon Dec 17, 2012 4:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Short Guide to Getting Over Your Ex |
It’s hard to get over your ex and sometimes it takes longer than you’d like. It’s a painful process that many men have to go through. I’ve been there myself and I can say it’s not pretty. I would never wish that pain upon ANYONE. That’s why I have created three easy steps to get over your ex. These are steps that my students and I have taken previously and have worked extremely well. End all contact This is one of the most controversial steps, but such an important one. Once it’s over, it’s over. Any lingering or lasting conversation does nothing but prolong your pain. You must let her know that both of you cannot have any communication for awhile. Yes, you must let her know, so she gives you that space. If she continues to contact you, then it will bait you into keeping up contact, which can lure you back in. The reason you need to drop contact is because you want to start putting those memories as far into the past as you can. Out of sight, out of mind. The fact of the matter is, time truly does heal all wounds. If you want to get over your ex, it’s going to take time and time won’t start until you end all contact with her. • No phone calls • No texting • De-friend her on Facebook • Try and disband from her social group • Avoid any physical contact at all costs I can’t stress enough how important this step is in getting over your ex. The sooner you start, the sooner you will move on. Start talking to other girls A lot of men wait to date other women after a break-up. I understand that starting to see other women might be tough and remind you of your ex. But my advice here isn’t to necessarily start dating again. If you are ready to date, then I urge you to start immediately! If not, then at least start talking to other girls. Even some light flirting or nice conversation can really help you get over your ex. As much as you may hate the female species at right after a break-up, you have to be reminded that they are all not like your ex. In fact, a lot of men find solace in talking to other women that are the exact opposite of their ex, because it gives them a taste of something new. Start talking to other girls and give your new singlehood the old college try. Don't let yourself be alone If you want to get over your ex, be in the presence of your friends or others as much as possible. The second you are alone, not only will you start thinking about her, but you will feel lonelier than ever. That’s what happens when you go through a break-up. Loneliness creeps in harder during this time than almost any other. The way to combat that is to spend time with your friends and family. Forget that you ever dated your ex (at least for these few months that you’re trying to get over her). Here are some other ideas: • Go out to the bars and clubs • Volunteer • Join some meet-up groups • Run errands even if you don’t need to • Call some friends you haven’t talked to in awhile It’s not easy to get over your ex, but if you take these small steps, then you will surely be on your way faster than you think. If you have any more solid suggestions, post a comment! |
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| Author: | Heartnet [ Tue Dec 18, 2012 12:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Short Guide to Getting Over Your Ex |
Good post!! |
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| Author: | Dogz [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 5:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Short Guide to Getting Over Your Ex |
Not sure if this is your own work or not but I agree with it all 100%. Getting over an ex was one of the main reasons I decided to get into the game. From my experience, I can tell you that step number 1 is the most important - it takes time to stop thinking about them but it definitely works! Good luck to everyone - I'm now certain my case of oneitis is gone 
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 3:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Short Guide to Getting Over Your Ex |
I also think that trying to suppress your emotions through willpower is futile. Have you ever found yourself thinking about your ex and going "urgh! Stop thinking about her!" Your emotional mind is way stronger than your logical mind, so you need to just let it out sometimes. Face the emotion, lie in bed crying for a bit and you will feel a little better afterwards. Learning to exercise your emotional mind is very valuable. Don't fight it with willpower. Just express your emotions in private or with a close friend and let the waves of grief run their course and then your emotional mind will get "tired out" and then your logical mind can take the reins again. Read "The Chimp Paradox" by Dr Steve Peters. Some valuable ideas in there. |
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