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| Author: | el_rubia [ Sun Dec 09, 2012 4:09 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Is this Salvageable? Or move on? |
Sup guys, this ones an annoyance really, wonder if i could get your opinions... Im 22 years old and at uni, been seeing this girl for a few months. she's my age. Not much of a party girl, which is cool coz i've kinda grown out of that vibe while im working as hard as i am. i was taking it real slow, just laying down a strong frame, strong attraction. didnt try to fuck her too fast (partly as she didnt seem like that kind of girl, partly because we never went out clubbing etc and she doesn't drink alot, lowering inhibitions etc etc) this was all correct of me and paid off when she was the one who initiated sex. everything was good. starting to like each other quite alot I don't like texting so didnt bother much, only to organise meetings. however she was away last weekend and when i text her to meet up this week i could tell something was off. I organised to meet her anyway and as i suspected she ended things. now, im confused by this. She seemed extremely interested in me, i didn't change my behaviour in any way, maintained my (so far) effective mind set etc. We chatted a bit and i was fine with it, didnt give anything away, told her i was fine with the decision etc. She seemed a bit confused by this. Just as we went our separate ways i asked what had changed so much in like 3 days. She said nothing, still thinks im a great guy, never met anyone like me etc etc. I was fine with this and just left it. except the next day i was like fuck this, what if she's testing me? So i text her, asking her to meet up before she goes home for xmas (shes foreign) she said she couldnt and "needed some time" and is "just not doing great at the moment" so what did i do wrong? and where do i go from here? i cant think of what changed her mind, barring some sort of personal life thing which she wouldnt tell me about. i thought perhaps not enough comfort but i dont know really. in terms of moving forward i left it just saying dont worry about things and that id see her again sometime. was this a good move? i was considering ignoring her text but nevermind. so far im planning on ignoring her til sometime in january when we're back and then trying to re-initiate things.... we seemed to have a strong basis, she was making a big effort, alot of attraction and then... anyway sorry for the long read, thanks for any advice guys. |
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| Author: | User13247 [ Sun Dec 09, 2012 10:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is this Salvageable? Or move on? |
If she ended it there must be a reason for that, and this reason determines whether it is salvageable. Since you don't know the reason, you can't tell me, so I can't tell you what I think about it. You're just gonna have to ask her reasons if you're curious, or move on if you think asking it is a waste of time and energy. I would do it, because things might have changed come January, for the better or the worse, and the only way to know is to ask. Perhaps you can arrange a more indirect meeting, i.e. run into her 'accidentally' and ask her in person, or call her with some relevant excuse. |
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