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| Author: | no2unenolife [ Sun Dec 09, 2012 7:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | GF always thinks I'm against her. |
Girlfriend: She is an HB8-9 and knows it. Great body, and personality is very out there (wants to do daring things, events, trending, or mainstream). Seems shy at first, very friendly, great in bed (no problem giving/try new things). always joking and knows she can use her looks. aka my milk shakes bring the boys to the yard etc lol Shes also aggressive with me, not afraid to scream, I think she has issues with her father as he cheated on her mother so I hear them bitch at each other (red flaggish?). Shes 20, I'm 28, she brings out the youthfulness in me and brings back the things I missed during those years. Situation: Been dating over 1 year, met last summer clicked and been together since. We are LDR since she goes off to college. I met her when I was visiting my old hometown. We see each other every 3 months, and during the summer we spent it together. There was issues on my end in the beginning being AFC (didn't want her to hang out with guys she fucked/had relationships with or go to parties where they might show up). My friends know all her friends so the circle is small and it can't be helped that she sees those guys. Problem: Lately I feel her lashing out at me, like resentment. She always talks about how I never let her do this or do that and that was all in the beginning of the relationship, until I became comfortable that she wasn't out to hurt me. My past relationships always (LTR) headed to the gf cheating or finding another person or back to their ex. She feels like anything I say is against her. ex: I call and she hangs up straight to VM... she calls later and I'm like "I called you, how come it went straight to VM?) her:: I was eating dinner so I hit ignore? me:: why couldn't you just pick up and tell me? You just called me today, I was with my boys watching the boxing match and I easily told you ill call you after? her:: why do you always think you are right? why do you have to tell me what i should be saying or doing? why are you with me then? me:: those aren't my intentions, i just wanted you to put yourself in my shoes - i'm not judging you or saying you are wrong. theres no reason to ask why i'm with you, it just sounds like giving up and thats a reason for me to want to walk. id like to know why you're angry - i can't read your mind, and it always comes down to you feeling this way. call me when you are ready to talk. her:: bye. Usually she'll call me and everything will be okay, and we go on about our day. She cant process a resolution in the moment its like she needs to just calm down or else the fire won't stop. Before I would just keep going back and forth trying to figure out why she keeps saying those things but now i'm like, just cut it before we over react. My Efforts:: So, every time shes been snapping like this. I try to talk it out calmly and neutrally and she just says I keep complaining about her and nagging. She also always talks about my EX gf who i was with for 5 + years, and about a month ago they ran into each other at a restaurant. She feels that she was treated better than her, she complains about how she got so much from me, but i'm like - we were together for 5 years? and i let her know what we have is stronger than that. Lately shes been going out with her friends, and I try to not let it get to me, cuz I know her friends are all single and party types. Before I would honestly complain about them very AFC and she actually stayed home - but I understand thats maybe where the resentment comes from so now I tell her to have fun and enjoy herself, and she has gone out a lot lately, but when i'm okay about her going out she calls and texts that she misses me. if i'm a bitch and tell her i dont want her to go she wont even talk to me the whole night. In conclusion, we are LDR - and we want to close that distance - next month I have a job interview/offers at my old hometown and i don't mind moving back while she finishes her college. I feel that she doesn't believe it will happen that we will finally be together. She was very committed and just lately she just seems angry all the time and it pushes me away from her. I've done the distancing myself so i dont get affected to much and she calls me everyday, I've also done better trying not to be so AFC because before I would ask her what shes up to 24/7 and whine and etc. but now that im not doing that she feels that I don't love her? but when i do it, she tells me i need to chill out and stop nagging? She also says i'm always trying to be better than her every time i say i want to resolve what ever is happening. I'm just trying to hold the frame of i'm here for you but if you're going to get angry for no reason, let's not talk because shes going to say something stupid. and I myself don't want to react like I have before. thanks guys sorry for the lengthy post. |
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| Author: | no2unenolife [ Sun Dec 09, 2012 7:50 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF always thinks I'm against her. |
Also to add, I just recently found this forum and the whole PUA thing when it started happening. I've read books such as how to train your gf, and way of the superior man, and david d's seminars. I know my inner game was not all there especially in the beginning, and maybe shes feeling pressure that I'm not being the same as I was before. |
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| Author: | league [ Sun Dec 09, 2012 10:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF always thinks I'm against her. |
What would you do if she wasn't a 9 but was a 3? Theres your answer |
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