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Author:  CluelessAFC [ Mon Nov 26, 2012 8:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Mindset on women and true relationships feels negative to me
TLDR:

-Love doesnt exist, it's just an illusion from girls that lack independence that feel the need to fight to keep the attention of their man. If a man were to believe in love, I feel it'd turn me into too much of a pussy, and the game to keep the woman would disappear.

-Good girls don't really exist: Being nice doesn't make you a good person, lots of girls seem nice but they're pretty sneaky lol. Although my friend seems to have luck which I need to ask him about, he met one girl from church though, which I don't attend anymore

-You gotta constantly do the rotation of gaming bs to keep your woman, or else you'll become boring and you'll be the guy that finds out your girl is fucking around. As they say, you don't own the pussy, you're just renting it


If you guys could read the bottom that'd be cool cause it goes my into my mindset and why I'm struggling to accept these facts that I don't want to believe



My thoughts on things lately

This last year after finally getting closer to understanding the nature of women,and I'm getting more and more unhappy the more I see.

I've always grown up believing in love, legit good girls, etc. but I'm not sure if that's true anymore. I grew up with Christian values, never super restricted or anything, but I have strong morals, such as not trying to fuck up anyone else's relationships (a very frustrating thing now that girls with boyfriends seem to flirt with me, which makes me a little angry seeing how they'd behave if they were my girlfriend, go fuck other guys after some other guy has better game), and staying faithful etc.

Is my mindset skewed? After all this I still try to believe that I could one day find a relationship like what my parents had. I've learned the mistakes I was making that were getting me friend zoned (and in the process learning that I get a kick out of being not as nice as I thought myself to be, but I still stick to my values, and would rather be my idea of a good, emotionally/morally solid man than a player), but I really don't want to get involved in the rat race that hooking up, dating seems to be and it's bothering me seeing guys get laid because they lack this mindset (partly because I can't do it because it feels wrong to me, I've accepted that guys will always hit on a girlfriend of mine regardless, that's just life, but I can't be that guy. I could've been at this party recently, and lo and behold, she ended up hooking up with her ex boyfriend, even the boyfriend at the time got screwed over)

It feels like the mindset I SHOULD feel nowadays (because it's been surfacing), is to not give a shit, just fuck girls and never really get close to a girl in the way I feel a relationship should be. Judge girls on their looks and not whats inside, because even the nice girl next door can be a hoe that'll fuck around if the conditions are right (which I've seen, it baffles me how someone so "down to earth" cant realize she's making the same mistakes over and over again).
I've always done better with girls I know I'd never trust to date, because I don't give a shit about them, as soon as I feel they have a bit of a brain that are girlfriend potential it gets harder to keep that "just want to bang you mindset" and I usually get friend zoned due to too much conversation, too often etc before I get a chance to take them out

Bar game etc. I don't have much problems accepting, everyone is there to get laid, everyone is there to game, each party accepts what they're there for, but I'm talking about the shit outside of that, with couples which is making me think so darkly of girls nowadays.

Any people like me out there that have figured out how to feel on things? Are women just to be used for sex, or have you found a more positive way to think? Any kind of thoughts are really appreciated to help me get a solid view on things



Thanks
Author:  officialpoypoy [ Tue Nov 27, 2012 1:23 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Mindset on women and true relationships feels negative t
so your saying cuz the world is bad that theres no point in trying to be good and just be bad like the world?

nooo but do keep the moral values and do pickup not for the sex but do it for the friendships and connections and fun you get meeting new people and challenging yourself.

theres plenty of girls that look hot but are so fake on the inside.
but you shudnt be as low as them.

your an alpha male :) you do the right things and you do it good.
Author:  ash7th [ Tue Nov 27, 2012 3:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Mindset on women and true relationships feels negative t
Quote:
so your saying cuz the world is bad that theres no point in trying to be good and just be bad like the world?

nooo but do keep the moral values and do pickup not for the sex but do it for the friendships and connections and fun you get meeting new people and challenging yourself.

theres plenty of girls that look hot but are so fake on the inside.
but you shudnt be as low as them.

your an alpha male :) you do the right things and you do it good.
This exactly^

I've been having this problem myself with why can't people just commit and be who they say they are. I loved a girl for 2 years who is now getting married. I saw her last week and wanted to test her to see how far she's go when she's so committed and I got to second base almost instantly. but she stopped me from actually having sex with a really firm No it's wrong.

My body gets anxiety about her, misses her body, and wants to be back together. I do not. I can tell she feels the same way because she told me she still loves me.

Point is, I think it is possible. Your going to go through a lot of hell before you get emotionally strong enough to simply 'not mind' because you can handle it. You see people for who they really are, and you see sex for what it is.

You need the tools and expertise to see how a relationship works.

Right now I'm seeing signs with my GF that somethings wrong and there may be someone else involved with her. it hurts like hell, but I can't stop trying to be who I want to be. She's most likely not 'the one' so I cant count on that.

For me I spend a great deal of time trying to build relationships with other people I'm not trying to sleep with.

Building my inner game, being the man I want to be.
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