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| Author: | psykotikz [ Thu Nov 15, 2012 3:22 am ] |
| Post subject: | Going out with her friends..confidence not there |
I have a feeling this one is stemming from my own insecurities...but This weekend I'm going to a really exclusive club with a lot of my girls friends in which I've only met a few. We've been dating for 6 months and I've met a lot of her close friends but not the people who don't come around often. I feel it's always been an issue with me meeting her friends. Just this past weekend she came out with me and my friends and had an amazing night. I always made her feel comfortable and did my job to introduce her to the people close to me and they got along great. I did this from the beginning. Her friends seem to dress in fancy clothes, come from these rich neighborhoods and go out to pop bottles all the time. I don't have that kind of life and she knows that. 3 weekends ago I went to the city with her for the first time and it was horrible. I don't want to go into it but her and I fought a lot and it definitely wasn't the impression I wanted to give. I must have looked like a complete d-bag. The point is that I'm not really that close with any of her friends and I don't have a ton of money like these other kids. There are going to be a bunch of people there that I don't know (and most of my friends don't have the money or desire to go to the city so there's really no one to ask). I know deep down she feels the same way because before we went out to the city she bought me a Burberry shirt to wear...maybe to fit in with her friends? Her actions are ruining my confidence and I'm actually scared going into this situation. I hate feeling like this and haven't done pick-up/self help/self improvement in a while. Please help.. |
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| Author: | gtdave [ Sat Nov 17, 2012 3:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Going out with her friends..confidence not there |
Her actions are not ruining your confidence, your limiting beliefs are the problem! Plus she's not stupid, she bought you the shirt because she can see that YOU have an issue with going out with her friends! Reverse the situation...She's confident and she had a great time with your friends when she could of easily done the "your friends will just think I'm a snobby rich kid". Plus I know you'll think but I introduced her and held her hand to guide her through meeting my friends and she didn't do that for me... Well it's not her role in the relationship to do that! You need to grab your big hairy alpha testicles and lead your own interactions with her friends! This will impress them and it will really impress your lady! I come from a wealthy background and so do a lot of my friends and we absolutely hate it when people think that we are snobs just because of how we dress and what we drink! I've friends from all backgrounds and we all respect each other. With your attitude currently her friends could easily turn round to her and say "this guy has a chip on his shoulder and thinks we are all snobs! What a dick!!" If her friends really are snobby and are dicks to you then you need to not let that break your frame or confidence! |
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| Author: | The Joker S [ Sun Nov 18, 2012 2:36 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Going out with her friends..confidence not there |
Quote: I have a feeling this one is stemming from my own insecurities...but
If shes with you, she obvs doesn't care about how rich you are or not.This weekend I'm going to a really exclusive club with a lot of my girls friends in which I've only met a few. We've been dating for 6 months and I've met a lot of her close friends but not the people who don't come around often. I feel it's always been an issue with me meeting her friends. Just this past weekend she came out with me and my friends and had an amazing night. I always made her feel comfortable and did my job to introduce her to the people close to me and they got along great. I did this from the beginning. Her friends seem to dress in fancy clothes, come from these rich neighborhoods and go out to pop bottles all the time. I don't have that kind of life and she knows that. 3 weekends ago I went to the city with her for the first time and it was horrible. I don't want to go into it but her and I fought a lot and it definitely wasn't the impression I wanted to give. I must have looked like a complete d-bag. The point is that I'm not really that close with any of her friends and I don't have a ton of money like these other kids. There are going to be a bunch of people there that I don't know (and most of my friends don't have the money or desire to go to the city so there's really no one to ask). I know deep down she feels the same way because before we went out to the city she bought me a Burberry shirt to wear...maybe to fit in with her friends? Her actions are ruining my confidence and I'm actually scared going into this situation. I hate feeling like this and haven't done pick-up/self help/self improvement in a while. Please help.. Grow up, dw about what her friends think of you , long as you treat your gf right they will eventually love you for it. Odds are they will be nice to you, coz your with their friend. It's never as bad as you think it is. Relax. |
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| Author: | vhou812 [ Tue Nov 20, 2012 5:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Going out with her friends..confidence not there |
GTDave hit the nail on the head. Do yourself a favor, go out, and give the night a chance to actually be fun. If her friends are hung up that you don't have as much money, that is their problem. Chances are there will be a few of them who are not hung up on that, if any are at all, and you can actually go enjoy your night with your woman. GTDave's comment about her worrying that your friends will think she's a high class snobby bitch was spot on. She was confident enough to not go that route. Do the same for her and you'll be fine. |
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