Holy shit. Do you all have a term for a guy who can get laid all the time but never find a fucking relationship? Like AFPUA?

Story: Like this chick, everything about us clicks. The fights are even fun for the most part. Last night I was talking to her about, you guessed it again, her fucking ex. I was strait forward with it, "Look, I want you to do the right thing here. This is not a dude that you dated that is your friend. He disrespected what we have going on by trying to step on toes and that shit doesnt fly with me. You need to check him and make sure he understands the line." She gets this smile on her face, pulls down her shirt, rubs her tits and tells me she really wants to have sex, "You turn me on. I love how forceful you are." I say, "Good, fix this shit."

Then, she tells me she she hates this, and leaves. I try to call her. No answer. Blah blah blah.

Honestly, I really want a relationship that works. . .

Tired

Do you know what you want in a girl? In life?

Heres the secret......

Have the idea of what you want instead of focusing on what you dont have.... your attracting these girls based on your inner reality....... shes out there but your just giving off the wrong vibe

Seeing is not believing, Believing is seeing.

do you think waiting for the right is aprreciatable>

I like my women bitey, with a little bit of sass. I find it entertaining and fun. It keeps me on my toes. What I dont want is the disrespect and the bullshit, playful banter is fine. This girl does the bitey thing right, she is feisty and erotic, sexy and playful, but sometimes our play crosses a line that neither one of us knew was there and explodes into something. She then slams the door shut, push and pull.

So I have long admitted this to myself, but its not the drama, its the feelings that get hurt. For example, when she told me she hated this and left I was truly hurt. I felt our of sorts and off center till I talked to her again.

This isn't a lay kind of thing, I really love this girl. I've been in situations like this before, twice. Where no matter what you do or how many girls you are with you still think about that person for years and years and years. This one comes with the same feeling, she will always be there. That adds a lot of stress, sometimes it wears me down.

Love is something I honestly don't know what to do with. I don't know how to keep myself together in it. It frightens the shit out of me. When I leave, I wonder if it will stay while I'm gone or if I am going to get the dear Jon letter in hell. A lot of fear that I dont know how to get rid of. Sleeping with other women does not help, just makes it worse.

Did you ever think that part of the problem is you? You say love scares the shit out of you. What's the odds that perhaps subconsciously when you feel it start creeping in you destroy the feeling because it scares the shit out of you?

When I read your story, in a relationship, I thought you were spot on, right up until she showed you her tits and wanted to fuck and you rejected her. You got your point across, why not fuck the shit out of her to cement it in her head that you are all she wants and needs and the ex is easily something she can do without?

The other approach you can take is to be real with her, and I mean deep. I'm not telling you not to stick within your frame, but help her dive into why she can't drop this guy? If you can lead her to a place where she's convinced she doesn't need him, the problem is solved.