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| Author: | 2:35 [ Sun Nov 04, 2012 11:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Juggling my/her friends and 'us'... |
I have came to the conclusion that I don't really enjoy the fact that me and my GF share similar friendship groups. Being brutally honest I would much rather go out drinking without her and let her do the same. My reasons for this basically are that A) We don't seem to get enough chances to just do our own thing; go to a concert, cinema, shopping, drinking etc. Someone or some people always want to come along; and B) I don't really like sharing her attention with large groups of people. That second point may sound childish? But I'm just learning to accept that this is how I feel. On balance, I don't have a problem with her going out to do things without me. I just feel that if I am there too I would rather have her attention. You may also ask why I don't have her full attention? We are both (without sounding like a jerk) pretty popular, but I think she is a more sociable person than I am. Further, 2 of her really close friends are both single and it gets tiresome having to share her with them! This is especially annoying when all the other people we are doing something with are fellow couples, I've seen these couples gradually 'pair off' and so it can get a bit annoying when we can't do the same. One final point on this - In the past my GF has bitched to me about couples we know who are 'stuck to each other' when were out. Although she is very caring and affectionate towards me, I get the feeling that on a scale of say... 10 being a couple 'stuck to each other' and 0 being a couple rarely together... she is probably a healthy 5 whilst I am a 7. So I am asking the forum, what steps can I take to alleviate this frustration currently? I love her to bits and have considered discussing this with her. |
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| Author: | Wal [ Mon Nov 05, 2012 4:30 pm ] |
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Get creative. When you were first asking this girl out, I'm guessing you took her on several fun dates for just the two of you - the normal course of things when you find a girl with whom you'd like to start a relationship. But even if you didn't do that, you can use that mindset to spark that sort of behavior change. In other words, you should try to woo this girl like you just met her. Come up with something fun and creative, if not also romantic, that you can enjoy together. Take a weekend get-a-way to a bed and breakfast. Go hiking/camping and enjoy the stars under your blanket in your tent. Go learn to salsa dance. Or swing dance. Whatever. Just treat it like you're dating a new girl. Keep the attraction and energy up. You guys will both have a blast, and you'll also have more fun when out with your group of friends because you'll have more to talk about and less need to monopolize her attention. |
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| Author: | Wolfwoodd [ Mon Nov 05, 2012 4:54 pm ] |
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Easy fix.. go on proper dates. Have "date nights".. plan things and don't tell her the details beforehand. Let it be a surprise. -Wolf |
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| Author: | 2:35 [ Wed Nov 07, 2012 12:56 pm ] |
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Quote: Easy fix.. go on proper dates. Have "date nights".. plan things and don't tell her the details beforehand. Let it be a surprise.
Wow I can't believe the answer was so obvious. I swear to God I would have known to do this 6 months ago. Scary how stale one's ideas can become!-Wolf Thank you to you both, obvious yet helpful answers. 
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