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| Author: | Freesh [ Fri Oct 26, 2012 10:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | DUMPED. Could use some good advice. |
So I dated this year for two years. I really love her. I have the chance to pick up lots of girls right now being the social chairman of my fraternity, BUT I've got a bad case of one-it-is with this girl. Ive been out of the game for a while. But heres the situation: She broke up with me because she felt like I didnt try enough. Felt that it was all too late when I started trying again. We started fooling around when we were not together and going on dates, and we were going to get back together but then one day she makes out with a guy and tells me that she doesnt want to be with me anymore. Realized that she doesnt want to date me ever again and that I make her unhappy, and that I tried really hard for her and she appreciates it but its too late. What can I do to get this girl back? Shes not seeing anyone. Some guys are talking to her but she doesnt want a relationship. Can anyone give me some good advice to get her back? I showed up at her place and set up flowers on a walk, and each one had a note on it saying what I could do to make her happy again. She said that its too late and its only harder on myself. Just going a bit nuts. Help help help. |
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| Author: | tru3demon [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 2:19 am ] |
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The only way to get her back is to forget about her. Stop talking to her. Stop seeing her. Erase her from your life. That is the ONLY way. Never talk to her again |
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| Author: | league [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 7:54 am ] |
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i speak from experience when i say that pretty much begging a girl to get back with you after she's dumped you WILL NOT WORK!!!!!!! The only times i've been successful in women wanting to come back to me is when they think i've moved on and am with someone else, but by then i've lost interest Before i got with my current gf she LJBF'd me about six times, it was only when i literally told her that i was bored of chasing her and to not bother texting me anymore did i get anywhere, she wouldn't leave me alone after that. When i was being a pussy she had me dancing to her tune |
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| Author: | T.Sterling [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 2:00 pm ] |
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I second tru3demon. Best way is to start over from scratch, maybe start a new hobby and get with some other women. You don't have to f-close if you're not ready, but at least kclose a few. After a while, once you can think about her and not feel angry/sad, you can try to re-connect. Until then, delete her from Facebook, delete her old texts and pics, and get rid of anything that she gave you. You have to start fresh if you want a fresh start. |
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| Author: | vhou812 [ Fri Nov 02, 2012 10:52 pm ] |
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League is right. The harder to try, the worse off you'll be. She has indicated that she feels her value trumps yours, and despite this SPAM, you still want her, which indicates she was right. Your best bet to get her back is to move on, and for her to see that you are. The better off you are doing without her, the more she will wonder if her assessment of your value was correct. But as long as you pander to her despite being dumped, the less likely you are to convince her that you're value is higher than she thought, high enough for her to want to be with you. |
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| Author: | AFC Stevie J. [ Fri Nov 02, 2012 11:06 pm ] |
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Yeah bro just move on you look super needy right now and your value is dropping fast..like its been said just ignore her if she wants you back then she'll come back and if not then you have your answer..in the mean time just start talking to new girls. |
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| Author: | mikeartee [ Sat Nov 03, 2012 4:14 am ] |
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You don't have to do anything apart from get over it. Right now, all you got is hope. she was looking for an exit-strategy when she kissed that guy, and that is not conducive to getting back together with her. So, go dateless for a bit. Play some games on PS3, get to find yourself a little better. Be a slob for a bit, cry about it in the shower, get over it as best you can. Because you are denying OTHER grateful ladies the contents of your pants. That's a fragging travesty. |
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| Author: | Thedutchone [ Sat Nov 03, 2012 12:47 pm ] |
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Freeze out for a bit. There are two possibilities imo You A) Didn't do enough effort (which she might find another guy doing for her) B) Did enough effort but she didn't value it enough. If it was option B you can also walk into her in like a month- chat up a bit, flirt again. If it was option A it isn't hopeless, but you have to again - wait a bit. Pressuring her now gives the wrong effect (begging is even worse- kills your own value). |
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| Author: | 8thouse [ Mon Nov 12, 2012 10:50 am ] |
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Quote: Yeah bro just move on you look super needy right now and your value is dropping fast..like its been said just ignore her if she wants you back then she'll come back and if not then you have your answer..in the mean time just start talking to new girls.
And do not forget to take care of yourself. Start a new activity, buy new clothes, do some sport.. At the end it's not about her, but about you enjoying your life and making things good for yourself.
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| Author: | Snake Doctor [ Mon Nov 12, 2012 5:59 pm ] |
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What can you do? Its move the fuck on... trust me is the best you can do at this point. and improve yourself by using PUA, improve your style and go to the gym Go out and have some fun, dont text her, dont call her while drunk, stop with the romantic gestures ,just stop already. Because in her mind SPAM you are losing your value(being a wuss man) and showing that she can do whatever she wants , because you will be waiting for her like a lost puppy, so she can meet with new guys, if things dont workout, she has you for rebound,to make her feel good , for validation, untill one day , she will find another guy, its like you are giving her the aprovall for her dating other guys in resume she DOESNT HAVE TIME TO MISS YOU, she never has this feeling, that perhaps YOU will find someone and if she wants to comeback she cant because there a hotter girl already in your lap. So my advice: - Hobby - Try and improve, meet new people. - If you see her be neutral, dont spend time chatting, like you are in a hurry. - if she txt dont be too eager and be neutral. She has to feel, you are not a part of her life anymore, and perhaps she will think twice and wonder if she didnt broke up with a really cool guy. But your behavior now , will only show her that perhaps, she has a lot more guys to meet, and what she feels for you now will transform in pity. |
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