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Author:  Valdemar1 [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 12:36 am ]
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Very simple question, how to prevent her from cheating.
One of my biggest concerns when getting in a relationship is how to make sure she dosen't cheat. if i just were 100% sure that no matter what she would not cheat on me, i could stay home while her being out, without feeling anxious and nervous about what she is doing in this exact moment, is some guy having his luck with her or anything near?
Author:  Snake Doctor [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 12:56 am ]
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The biggest way to prevent her from cheating , is not thinking about that....

Work yourself....

Go to gym , eat healthy.

Do interesting hobby.

It doesnt matter if you worry she only needs a couple seconds, and is not in your hands, so breathe.

And be honest and hope she will be honest in you... oh and btw dont cheat.

And remember the problem is not her , is you with your insecurities!
Author:  Sidnne [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 3:45 am ]
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You can't prevent her from cheating. It's a waste of your time, energy, and sanity to even think about it.

Just be the best MAN that you can be. If she does happen to cheat, know that it is her loss, not your loss, and walk away. Move on to the next girl and don't look back.
Author:  Bodymixture [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 7:39 am ]
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agreed with the guys above.
the simple answer is be the best you can be. never come from a place of insecurities.
be around.
Author:  Valdemar1 [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 10:12 am ]
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wise words! thank you
Author:  vhou812 [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 6:32 pm ]
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Sidnne's answer is spot on here. I can speak from experience, not because I was cheated on, but because I cheated. After that, I took a hard look at myself. Turns out the problem was me, nobody else, and in restrospect, there probably was not a lot my wife ever could have done to stop me. Perhaps had she been a psychologist, maybe I'd have shown symptoms that she'd have picked up on, but in a nutshell, it was my fault I cheated, because of my problems, not my wife's. The same will be true if you are ever cheated on.

People who are in a healthy emotional state will not cheat. They will instead deal with feelings or desires they have in better ways. The best way you can lower the odds of it happening to you is to pick a good one, and there are tips here on what makes a keeper versus one to run from. Once you've picked a good one, keep good honest, open communication, and continue to keep yourself well. Do those things, and it's unlikely to happen to you, and if it does, you can walk away not even feeling bad for the reasons Sidnne mentions.
Author:  Valdemar1 [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 6:37 pm ]
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Sidnne's answer is spot on here. I can speak from experience, not because I was cheated on, but because I cheated. After that, I took a hard look at myself. Turns out the problem was me, nobody else, and in restrospect, there probably was not a lot my wife ever could have done to stop me. Perhaps had she been a psychologist, maybe I'd have shown symptoms that she'd have picked up on, but in a nutshell, it was my fault I cheated, because of my problems, not my wife's. The same will be true if you are ever cheated on.

People who are in a healthy emotional state will not cheat. They will instead deal with feelings or desires they have in better ways. The best way you can lower the odds of it happening to you is to pick a good one, and there are tips here on what makes a keeper versus one to run from. Once you've picked a good one, keep good honest, open communication, and continue to keep yourself well. Do those things, and it's unlikely to happen to you, and if it does, you can walk away not even feeling bad for the reasons Sidnne mentions.
Thank you for enlightening the situation a bit more, and including some of your own experience as well! In conclusion of what you have said, the only way i can prevent one from cheating is to pick a girl who is most unlikely to cheat? right? and then just be the best man possibly. At least that is what i have taken from what you have said, which have giving me a positive look at my own situation! once again - thank you :)
Author:  Sleeky*Smooth [ Sat Oct 20, 2012 6:54 am ]
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There is something you could use....its very powerful and not alot of guys in the community knows it.. Its basicly something you would use on your wife to ensure that shes yours and that no one else even stands a chance ...ever
Author:  Sleeky*Smooth [ Sat Oct 20, 2012 6:55 am ]
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There is something you could use....its very powerful and not alot of guys in the community knows it.. Its basicly something you would use on your wife to ensure that shes yours and that no one else even stands a chance ...ever
Author:  vhou812 [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 3:26 pm ]
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Sidnne's answer is spot on here. I can speak from experience, not because I was cheated on, but because I cheated. After that, I took a hard look at myself. Turns out the problem was me, nobody else, and in restrospect, there probably was not a lot my wife ever could have done to stop me. Perhaps had she been a psychologist, maybe I'd have shown symptoms that she'd have picked up on, but in a nutshell, it was my fault I cheated, because of my problems, not my wife's. The same will be true if you are ever cheated on.

People who are in a healthy emotional state will not cheat. They will instead deal with feelings or desires they have in better ways. The best way you can lower the odds of it happening to you is to pick a good one, and there are tips here on what makes a keeper versus one to run from. Once you've picked a good one, keep good honest, open communication, and continue to keep yourself well. Do those things, and it's unlikely to happen to you, and if it does, you can walk away not even feeling bad for the reasons Sidnne mentions.
Thank you for enlightening the situation a bit more, and including some of your own experience as well! In conclusion of what you have said, the only way i can prevent one from cheating is to pick a girl who is most unlikely to cheat? right? and then just be the best man possibly. At least that is what i have taken from what you have said, which have giving me a positive look at my own situation! once again - thank you :)
Yes, you took my message correctly. A good girl who is emotionally healthy, no red flags, etc. will likely deal with the issues that often go along with cheating in a lot better ways. Chances are women won't cheat unless there are other issues at play, so if you have issues in a relationship, this is also a good reason to communicate and hash them out. If she's a good girl, and you're the man, you have little to worry about.

If you're worried about this, it likely means you're not the man yet. But you are here, which shows you have the desire to improve. Work on yourself, pick a good woman, and life will be good.

In my situation, I picked a good one in terms of her own health, but we had a lopsided relationship. She never criticized me, ever. Even if there were valid criticisms that I should have heard. I basically found out about them after the fact. Inner game is a tough nut to crack, but well worth the effort.
Author:  Valdemar1 [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 5:26 pm ]
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Sidnne's answer is spot on here. I can speak from experience, not because I was cheated on, but because I cheated. After that, I took a hard look at myself. Turns out the problem was me, nobody else, and in restrospect, there probably was not a lot my wife ever could have done to stop me. Perhaps had she been a psychologist, maybe I'd have shown symptoms that she'd have picked up on, but in a nutshell, it was my fault I cheated, because of my problems, not my wife's. The same will be true if you are ever cheated on.

People who are in a healthy emotional state will not cheat. They will instead deal with feelings or desires they have in better ways. The best way you can lower the odds of it happening to you is to pick a good one, and there are tips here on what makes a keeper versus one to run from. Once you've picked a good one, keep good honest, open communication, and continue to keep yourself well. Do those things, and it's unlikely to happen to you, and if it does, you can walk away not even feeling bad for the reasons Sidnne mentions.
Thank you for enlightening the situation a bit more, and including some of your own experience as well! In conclusion of what you have said, the only way i can prevent one from cheating is to pick a girl who is most unlikely to cheat? right? and then just be the best man possibly. At least that is what i have taken from what you have said, which have giving me a positive look at my own situation! once again - thank you :)
Yes, you took my message correctly. A good girl who is emotionally healthy, no red flags, etc. will likely deal with the issues that often go along with cheating in a lot better ways. Chances are women won't cheat unless there are other issues at play, so if you have issues in a relationship, this is also a good reason to communicate and hash them out. If she's a good girl, and you're the man, you have little to worry about.

If you're worried about this, it likely means you're not the man yet. But you are here, which shows you have the desire to improve. Work on yourself, pick a good woman, and life will be good.

In my situation, I picked a good one in terms of her own health, but we had a lopsided relationship. She never criticized me, ever. Even if there were valid criticisms that I should have heard. I basically found out about them after the fact. Inner game is a tough nut to crack, but well worth the effort.
Well i still get jaloux from time to time, however, when i do i ask my self the question, would she choose that guy over me, and then i stop being jaloux cause i think that of couse she would not! so thanks again it have helped me already! :)
Author:  Melodical [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 5:33 pm ]
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Your putting your GF's value as above yours and unconsciously thinking she's to good for you and thus she will stray. The problem with this is she will sense this and assume the higher value in the relationship causing her to become more likely to stray. Assume the higher value by being confident in yourself and trusting her. Some girls DO however have psychological issues which causes them to cheat but if this is the case then you're better off without her.
Author:  Decessum [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 9:03 am ]
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Girls in happy, fulfilling relationships don´t cheat, well, except if they´re anywhere from 15 to 20, I´ve found out, thats kind of the average ¨slut age¨ for girls.
Men cheat based on physical appearence, girls cheat on emotional vulnerability. If she has doubts about the relationships, she is vulnerable, if you mistreat her, if you forget her, if you don´t attend her.
I´ve had friends that have cheated on their boyfriends, even sometimes I was the one they cheated with. My current GF had a past of cheating on her boyfriends. But truly, when you ask them what was happening at that time of the relationship, there is ALWAYS a problem. Unless the girl is a freak, or a complete slut, she will not cheat if the relationship is going well.
The boyfriend either does behavior that dissapoints her, or he doesn´t treat her the way you should treat a girl, so that´s the best advice, just treat her like a queen, then if she does cheat, at least you know it wasn´t your fault. Ask your girl friends why they cheated, if they have ever done it. I don´t believe in PUA stuff when it comes to relationships, nor do I believe that a girl ¨succumbed to a PUA´s boyfriend destroyer¨... if a girl is genuinely in love and interested in her boyfriend, she will not cheat, period. NOTE: She may flirt, this will never stop, she may go out with guys (not doing anything wrong) to eat, or etc.. but as I said again, a girl in a fulfilling relationship won´t cheat.
So just be the best you can be, and don´t worry about it, don´t check her messages, don´t stalk her. Give her the freedom she wants, but don´t abandon her either, there is a fine line between giving her enough freedom and forgetting about her... girls will appreciate that and PROOVE that they can be faithful, in reward to your trust.
Author:  Valdemar1 [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 1:53 pm ]
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Wow thank you all for such great answers!
i have also learned that the girl i am with at this moment would be a great girlfriend, though she is 18, which is a age where a lot of girls doubt in themselves this one dosen't, she is the most mentally secure girl i know, and she stuck with her boyfriend for 3 years, being faithfull every day, even though she didn't like him that much
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