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Author:  Hazze [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Damage Control: How to?
So I'm asking here about damage control. What does a guy do, after a really bad break-up, after acting like a total little bitch, to try and make amends to his life?

The girl I had a fallout with, we had a lot of mutual friends. Me acting like a total AFC is going to make me loose them if I don't do something about it. What can I do?

1) NO CONTACT? with the girl (especially after her friends tell me to leave her alone, even though the actual girl did not)
2) MAKE EXCUSES? Sorry I acted so overemotional, I'm going through some really bad shit, it's just bad timing etc. etc.
3) NOT APOLOGIZE because that would be admitting that I fucked up, and make that frame stick?
4) WAIT IT OUT for how long? NO CONTACT with all of our mutual friends until they forget about it, but then what?
5) MAKE FRIENDS WITH HER for the sake of keeping my own friends, agree yeah yeah we would have been good, what a shame etc. and move on?

None of this will be easy, I still think about her... but it's my fault I'm in this mess. I've never needed to carry out damage control before now, so I really no nothing about it. If anyone also knows any links to articles about it etc. I'd be interested ^^
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 7:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Damage Control: How to?
Quote:
So I'm asking here about damage control. What does a guy do, after a really bad break-up, after acting like a total little bitch, to try and make amends to his life?

The girl I had a fallout with, we had a lot of mutual friends. Me acting like a total AFC is going to make me loose them if I don't do something about it. What can I do?

1) NO CONTACT? with the girl (especially after her friends tell me to leave her alone, even though the actual girl did not)
2) MAKE EXCUSES? Sorry I acted so overemotional, I'm going through some really bad shit, it's just bad timing etc. etc.
3) NOT APOLOGIZE because that would be admitting that I fucked up, and make that frame stick?
4) WAIT IT OUT for how long? NO CONTACT with all of our mutual friends until they forget about it, but then what?
5) MAKE FRIENDS WITH HER for the sake of keeping my own friends, agree yeah yeah we would have been good, what a shame etc. and move on?

None of this will be easy, I still think about her... but it's my fault I'm in this mess. I've never needed to carry out damage control before now, so I really no nothing about it. If anyone also knows any links to articles about it etc. I'd be interested ^^

I know you don't want to hear this...give her the gift of missing YOU! She does not have a solid gold pussy!

Fix yourself 1st Bro, trust me I've been just where you are, invest in yourself most guys never take the time and invest in themselves... and they wind up going their whole lives WISHING...not DOING!
Author:  Wolfwoodd [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 9:01 pm ]
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Okay, the damage is done. You know you've screwed things up.. so I'm not going to harp on you about it. Now, man up and start living in the moment. Your ex-girlfriend is the past. It didn't work and there's no reason to dwell on it. Go on with your life as if you never dated. Don't talk about her or the break-up.. don't even acknowledge it. If anybody asks, then tell them you are awesome. Now go out and have some fun.. you're single, and that has some perks.

Fake it until you make it. If you do happen to interact with your girlfriend (i.e. you see her at a social gathering), then be friendly, but treat her like any other female acquaintance. Do NOT under any circumstances call her, text her, or seek her out. Let her come to you if she wants to do any talking.

-Wolf
Author:  Hazze [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 10:14 pm ]
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Oh wait no guys, I slightly over-reacted. Ever heard of a thing called tumblr?

It's some sort of shitty networking site i don't have the time for- anyway, someone posted some really snide, bitter remarks on her 'tumblr' and signed it off in my name.
Me being completely unaware under hurls of abuse from all her friends... until one of them metions it offhand and oooh... I should be angry for whoever did it, but it has raised some significant benefits; all of our mutual friends have apologised to ME for being stupid and snappy. I texted HER and explained i don't even have tumblr, and if she thought i would be that bitter then i didn't want to hear from here ever again

OOOOOH HAZZE HAS ALL THE POWER NOW BITCHES

she said of course she didn't, we had some gay talk and she asked me if i wanted to remain friends. i said 'duh :)' and she said 'of course i do :)'

Then BOOM 'But I think I should leave you alone for a while, your friends seem pretty set of that' and she says 'ohright ok'

and thus starts NO CONTACT, I'm so excited I already went out and bought 5 bars of galaxy. All of our mutual friends feel guilty for blaming me and what do you know, in their good books again.

I thought I acted like the Alpha-Male here, what about you guys? would you guys have anything you'd add or like to change?
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