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| Author: | Johndigwood120 [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 12:57 am ] |
| Post subject: | Just found out GF met with other guy in a bad period... |
So we got into a fight recently and today we met up to talk things out and stuff like that, then she told me that 2 months ago while we were broken up she met with another dude and went for drinks. This was between 1 and 4 days after we broke up because after that we got back together. She told me he kept asking her to go out and she said no serveral times but then she finally gave in and went out with him, they wont for drinks and thats it, she said nothing happened, no kissing, no hand holding, no touching, just a kiss on the cheek. She said she didn't told me earlier because "there wasnt a right time for it and she didn't want to get into a fight because of it" She told me that after that date she told him that it couldn't ever work out because she was still in love with me and couldn't get over me, he kept asking her out for like 5 times after that but she said no (what she told me) Now i know that at that time we were broken up and she was free to do whatever she wanted, however, i still feel really shit about this and it kind of crushed me on the inside, especially because it was only 1-4 days since we broke up.. Not really asking for advice here i guess.. Just needed to tell someone about this cause i really feel shit about this and don't know :/ ... Am i acting like a baby and should i get over it and pretend it never happened? |
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| Author: | gtdave [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 2:14 am ] |
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I fully believe that a successful relationship is about communication! If this issue is really bothering you (and I don't blame you) then you need to tell her. Though make sure to tell her in the same way you told us. For example, mention that you know you where on a break and she could do as she wished but this is still eating you up on the inside. She may be being completely honest with you or she may be leaving out certain details that would hurt you. Explain to her how it makes you "feel"! Girls relate to that easier. There will be a couple of outcomes... 1. She will try to ease your fears. This will only happen if you approach the subject calmly and in a mature fashion. Then it's up to you to accept what she says and believe her words. 2. She will go defensive and try to blame your insecurities on you. This will happen if you accuse her of things instead of voicing how you feel. This reaction can also happen because of guilt or a lack of attraction. If this happens then I'd be tempted to cut the conversation short then leave (freeze out for a few days) to think through what you want to do. Either forget about the incident or break up. |
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| Author: | vhou812 [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 7:34 pm ] |
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GTDave is right. If it's a problem, then tell her about it. Don't do it in a whiny, bitchy way. Just explain confidently and competently how you feel, and tell her you just needed to let it out. Tell her if she has any good ideas how to deal with it, you're open to her suggestions. And then tell her the only one you can think of is a lot of really good fucking, and that until she has a better way, that's how you want to deal with it. Women seem to me to really enjoy fucking when they think they are taking care of their man in more ways than just physical. |
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| Author: | T.Sterling [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 2:09 pm ] |
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If you really believe that she didn't do more than just get a kiss on the cheek, I'd say forgive her...but be wary of her. No need to get all clingy or anything, but watch for the signs of her possibly cheating on you with someone else. |
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| Author: | anaconda1 [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 4:25 pm ] |
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good advice from gtdave, i would stick with that. |
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