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Author:  The Dice [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 9:50 am ]
Post subject:  How to end a relationship, without hurting her feelings.
I've been pondering quite a lot on this latley. I don't have a girlfriend as of now, but those relationships I've had ended terribly, with her in tears.

Even though you might not be in love with her when you break it off, you probably still care about her, and don't want to hurt her. So I'm trying to come up with a method on how to end relationships as clean as possible.

The only way I've come up with so far is to basically AFC-game her. Start giving in to her every request and demand, be beta as fuck and basically make her lose interest in you. Do this long enough and she will probably get bored and break up with you!

Any feedback or thoughts/ideas of your own?


- The Dice
Author:  Thedutchone [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 11:31 am ]
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Be honest (if you can actually state you don't fit)
Don't keep lying and than putting a sudden bomb up ...
Don't keep people hanging when you doubt (especially when the relationship is still frehs) - if you arn't madly in love after a bit, just move on...
Author:  The Dice [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 11:45 am ]
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In a lot of these cases, she will end up getting hurt though.

I'm trying to figure out a way to end a relationship with no one getting hurt. Probably not possible, but I enjoy pondering on these things :lol:
Author:  Snake Doctor [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 11:57 am ]
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She at least has the right to hear the truth from your mouth.

Be a man, and tell her that you wish to breakup, instead of using that tricks.
Author:  The Dice [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 12:02 pm ]
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I think you're misunderstanding my post here.. This is not a situation I'm currently in, and in the past I've done just that.

What I was trying to do is to pretty much start a discussion of theories/experiences on how to end a relationship without anyone getting hurt.

As poitned out, this may or may not be possible, but I'm sure that I'm not the only one who's thought of this before, and I'd like to hear your theories on how this may be achieved.
Author:  Chinopants [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 1:44 pm ]
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I find if you sleep with their sister or best friend that makes it easy to end a relationship.
Author:  Phoenix_ [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 8:29 pm ]
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Breaking up without hurting someone's feelings is like stapling water to a tree..... not possible
Author:  Rough Operator [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 9:28 pm ]
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You cannot possibly break up with a girl who is into you without hurting her feelings. Just accept that it is going to hurt her, but that stringing her along would ultimately be a far crueler thing to do and could escalate the pain.
Author:  vhou812 [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 10:00 pm ]
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Classic lines from a song back in my hey day:

Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to.
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly.
Don't make up elaborate stories, this will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene.
If you want to date other people, say so. Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected.
Even if you've only gone together for a short time, and haven't been to serious, there's still a feeling of rejection when someone says she prefers the company of others to your exclusive company. But if you're honest and direct, and avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you break the news, the boy will respect you for your kindness, and honestly, he'll appreciate the kind, straightforward manner in which you've told him your decision. Unless he's a real jerk or crybaby, you'll be friends.
Author:  richardnelson937 [ Fri Sep 21, 2012 1:15 am ]
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Honesty is the best policy when talking to someone you care about.
Author:  walkertxrg [ Wed Sep 26, 2012 3:59 pm ]
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it's not possible. Shit, if I wanted to dump a girl, and she dumped me first, it'd hurt ME. Rejection always hurts, no matter what. Honesty isn't always the best policy imo though. You could hate her sense of humor, but the next guy might love it, so whats the point?
Author:  mia04 [ Mon Oct 01, 2012 11:16 am ]
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Marriage counseling is one way in making your married life a strong one for you to overcome any problem that you will encounter.
Author:  Vinicius [ Mon Oct 01, 2012 1:48 pm ]
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I just broke up with my girlfriend of almost three years (we knew each other for 6 years) last night and I'm still feeling really bad about it. I feel depressed and all that, but I didn't want to stay in the relationship, despite how awesome things could be, because I want to experience dating other people (I'm only 20). We did fight a lot as well and I was getting tired of some of the things she did, but I can't help but feel this way.

The way our relationship was going and how she was seeing it and commenting on it, was that it would end up in marriage. Although, when we were talking about the break-up and everything, she told me that I should have waited to break-up with her after she graduates from uni this year. Apparently, she was planning on moving out of the city after she got her diploma but she didn't tell me this.

I know that last bit about her wanting me to wait until it was convenient for her should make me feel better and help me get over the whole thing but I still feel awful.

What advice do people have about moving on from a serious relationship? I know the obvious answer is go out and get rid of my one-itis by going crazy with other girls, but I don't even feel willing to talk to anyone or even leave my house (even though I know I have to to go to uni).

Please someone help me start getting back to normal!
Author:  The Dice [ Tue Oct 02, 2012 6:26 am ]
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Quote:
I just broke up with my girlfriend of almost three years (we knew each other for 6 years) last night and I'm still feeling really bad about it. I feel depressed and all that, but I didn't want to stay in the relationship, despite how awesome things could be, because I want to experience dating other people (I'm only 20). We did fight a lot as well and I was getting tired of some of the things she did, but I can't help but feel this way.

The way our relationship was going and how she was seeing it and commenting on it, was that it would end up in marriage. Although, when we were talking about the break-up and everything, she told me that I should have waited to break-up with her after she graduates from uni this year. Apparently, she was planning on moving out of the city after she got her diploma but she didn't tell me this.

I know that last bit about her wanting me to wait until it was convenient for her should make me feel better and help me get over the whole thing but I still feel awful.

What advice do people have about moving on from a serious relationship? I know the obvious answer is go out and get rid of my one-itis by going crazy with other girls, but I don't even feel willing to talk to anyone or even leave my house (even though I know I have to to go to uni).

Please someone help me start getting back to normal!
I know it doesn't seem too tempting to get back in the game SPAM, but if you want to get back to normal, my best reccomendation is rebound-sex. Basically just sleep with someone (not your ex ofcourse), and you will feel much better!
Author:  meetkaur142 [ Fri Oct 05, 2012 7:49 am ]
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Sorry i don't know.
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