PUA Forum
https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/

so should i tell her or not
https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=128&t=146138		 Page 1 of 1
Author:  kingk12 [ Tue Sep 18, 2012 12:57 pm ]
Post subject:  so should i tell her or not
met a hb9. know for a month now and we get along well this is a text convo we had which i need help from u guys

me: did u manage to get home without getting wet?

her: its stopped raining as soon as u left D: but i was a tiny bit wet

me: rain didnt want us to be together.

her: not only the rain... LOL!!

me: what do u mean?

her: was a joke :-O

me: im being really dumb today. wait did u mean u didnt wana see me?

her: yes that's what i was insinuating!!

me:lol ok. took me long enough to understand. what happened i thought we had a good thing happening ? Very Happy

her:what's a good thing happening? :-S

me: ok i guess we're both having a dumb day today Smile

her: nahhh u still havent answered my question!!

me: i dont know i was just thinking we get along sooo well. why what did u think i meant?

her: what like "really really well Wink"?

me: i guess....
actually u would be right if u felt the same way otherwise i would be
living in a fantasy

her: what are u on about? D:
maybe u are living in a fantasy..

me: ahh nothing... i can finally do that thing u wanted me to


after this she didnt reply back for 10 days

her: oops...sooooooo forgot to text back :D

me: lol its ok i was busy anyways. so how come ur soo quiet? busy life?

her:lol yea mainly. i guess you were a bit wierd with that whole "living in a fantasy thing" :s

me: yea i figured you would misunderstand it. soz if i freaked you out :(

her: i dunno... it seems hard to believe that i would misunderstand the whole convo D:. straight up, do u like me as more than a friend?

so i do like her but do i tell her or not? and at no point in out time together has she showed she likes me. apart for the fact she came out with me and we went for walks together. i mean is a month too soon to tell her?

_________________
Author:  Skish [ Tue Sep 18, 2012 1:05 pm ]
Post subject: 
Say you are still getting to know her.
If you've known each other less than a month that seems like a reasonable excuse not to give a straight answer. And since she was being all weird about what you said, enough so that she isn't responding for several days I think she is on the verge of being scared away.
Leave her under the impression that since she will say things like "Not only the rain wants to keep us apart" insinuating she didn't want to spend time with you, maybe you don't like her after all...

She may just want you to validate her, and telling her will end the chase for her.
"Ok so you like me, I don't have to try anymore." And she will go back to not responding until she needs to feel like someone wants her again.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Sep 18, 2012 1:08 pm ]
Post subject: 
DODGE that bullet! DO not give a straight answer!

Say "Well I am in love with your ASS!" with a smiley
Author:  Jambi [ Tue Sep 18, 2012 4:00 pm ]
Post subject: 
Here's what happened,

She was feeling low and needed a confidence boost. She wanted you to signal that you find her desirable. You did - she shot you down to make herself feel empowered. She got what she wanted out of you then left.

In those ten days something has happened to knock her confidence so she has come back to you for a confidence boost.

She is completely into playing games, once you admit you like her it's game over. She wins you lose.
Quote:
straight up, do u like me as more than a friend?
If you say yes she gets her confidence boost and she will 'win' and you will 'lose'. You will not have a chance at getting her.

If you say no you will hurt her feelings and she will run to someone else to get a confidence boost, in time she may try to prove herself to you and start to chase you in order to get your approval. (This is a long term plan and is more powerful but so much harder to pull off and too many things can backfire).

I personally would play the game back and say something along the lines of "I'm not sure about you yet". You don't hurt her feelings yet allow her space to start working for you're approval
Author:  league [ Tue Sep 18, 2012 9:02 pm ]
Post subject: 
i hope you waited a good bit of time to reply to her if she's ignored you for ten days too
Page 1 of 1 All times are UTC
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group
http://www.phpbb.com/