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| Author: | givemethat [ Mon Sep 17, 2012 2:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | i cheated on her :( |
Hello, My GF found out that i cheated on her for 1 month ago. I miss her and i want her back. Now i haven't seen her for over a month now, but she keeps on messaging me daily. First i get an sms where she tells me she misses me and a few hours later i get an sms where she is saying that it doesn't work out anymore and she wants to quit the relation. and this continues every day.... till today. Today i have send her message to make up her mind and tell me YES or NO. She said NO. But... ik know she will message me soon again with something like 'do you have another girl allready ? ' Now... i wanna know... what the hell does she want from me and why is she so doubtfull ? Most important... how to respond IF she message me again ? She like into a psycholigic sms texting war with me and i only want her to tell me truth rather she wants me back or not. What's your opinion ? Thnx guys ! |
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| Author: | Gremsmith12 [ Mon Sep 17, 2012 4:12 pm ] |
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I don't know why they call it heartbreak. It feels like every other part of my body is broken too. |
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| Author: | Skish [ Mon Sep 17, 2012 4:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: i cheated on her :( |
Quote: Now... i wanna know... what the hell does she want from me and why is she so doubtfull ?
Well you cheated on her, who wouldn't be doubtful?How did she find out? If it was a bad situation you didn't really intend to happen and you came clean quickly, she's hurt but things could probably be fixed. If you hid it and she found out through some other means, or you tell her way after the fact, the trust is broken, and will probably always be an issue. If for some reason the relationship continues, it will most likely poison it. I think she just wants you to validate her till she finds someone new. She doesn't plan on coming back. |
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| Author: | 96Firebird [ Mon Sep 17, 2012 4:59 pm ] |
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Let her find someone who deserves her. |
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| Author: | Warped Mindless [ Mon Sep 17, 2012 10:34 pm ] |
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Go meet other women. |
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| Author: | Hammerofdawn [ Mon Sep 17, 2012 11:41 pm ] |
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Quote: I think she just wants you to validate her till she finds someone new.
Quote: If for some reason the relationship continues, it will most likely poison it.
Both these quotes sum it up. Basically you have made her feel like she wasn't good enough for you anymore, that's some long term and potentially irreparable damage you've caused to your relationship. Best piece of advice I can offer is go no contact, freeze her out for at least a month or two so you do not validate her feelings, let her grieve for the loss of the relationship on her own, as must you - do not be her emotional tampon, she will likely use you to get over you, whilst hindering your own healing process. Use this time to for self improvement and to understand your motives as to why you cheated on her in the first place, there is no quick fix to infidelity, you can't stick a Band-Aid on a leaking nuclear warhead After this freeze out, you might get things into a better perspective and understand what you really want out of all of this or you may have decided to move on. If you want to try again, try approaching her casually like you were are old friends and take it slowly from there, but I'm not gonna tell you that this will be easy. - Whatever happens avoid talking about the breakup, instead remind yourselves of the good times you spent together and build comfort and rapport. Might sound cheesy but: "If you love something let it free, if it comes back it was meant to be". |
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