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| Author: | MrMatt [ Thu Aug 30, 2012 11:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How to deal/break up with an overly emotional girlfriend |
Hello fellows, So I've been going out with my girlfriend for a while now but I have to encounter a major problem every time I see her. She is overly emotional, and way too much into me. The kind of girl that will call/text more than once everyday just to tell me how she keep thinking about me and shit... While some people may want that, I don't. When we're home alone, I don't mind being cute and cuddling and shit, but I tend to keep a certain distance with her when I am with other people. It's how I was raise, I don't want to make my friends or whoever I am with uncomfortable because I am making out with my girl in front of them. And I guess you saw it coming, she is always all over me when we are with other people... It hasn't been that much of a problem since yesterday when we were at the beach with a couple of friends. Pretty much everyone was laying on the sand, some cuddling or whatever, and I just took a seat alone to drink my beer. She found a way to make a big scene out of that, saying that if we don't have anything to say to each other, maybe we shouldn't be dating. Since I don't like getting into big drama, especially when I am with friends, I just didn't say anything. She left and started crying... We had a conversation afterwards and now it's all good. But it got me thinking that I don't think I can deal with that type of behavior repeatedly. Maybe we are not meant to be together... So guys, if any of you ever had a girlfriend overly emotional, how did you deal with it? And also, if I decide that we should break up. How do I do it without completely destroying her? I was thinking of just being distant until she bring the "if we don't have anything to say to each other, maybe we shouldn't be together" bla bla and just agree with her... Any advices? |
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| Author: | Mack 2.0 [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 1:49 am ] |
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um ... well ... you could be honest just tell her "we are not compatible, you are over-emotional and over-dramatic" but don't forget, the grass is always greener, you are about to dump a girl for being crazy about you are we going to see you back here in a few months or a year bitching about how your new girlfriend seems disinterested in you? |
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| Author: | TheSeagull [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 3:41 am ] |
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Quote: but don't forget, the grass is always greener, you are about to dump a girl for being crazy about you
Before breaking up why don't you try to lead and educate your girlfriend?If she is a drama queen/freak like my overly attached exGF, she won't get the hint. If she is a good girl who is sincerely in love with you, given the right amount of communication and leading, she should try and adjust herself to a different behavior. First of all, why is she so clingy? Is she insecure? Because of behaviors on your side or because of her past? You might want to do some reading on the different attachment styles. And maybe share that reading with her, and try to understand what leads her to behave the way she does. And then have an open honest chat where you tell her what you told us. |
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| Author: | Dr. Jones [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 6:40 am ] |
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Why don't you just tell her you're not into PDA? You don't feel comfortable with an audience. I'm sure you could get her to understand what you mean by talking to her about it privately, all the while conveying what she means to you and sealing the conversation with some secksy time. You can do whatever you like, but there are worse characteristics to be had. |
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| Author: | PUAzilla [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 12:52 pm ] |
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I would kill for my girl to be a little more like that! I know it's off topic, but what's your game like? Have you always been very independant in the relationship? |
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| Author: | tobiasschnell [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 4:07 pm ] |
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hey Mr Matt, i have not facing any problem like that. I have good girl friends. I agree that all person are not like same and some are more emotional than other. But you should learn to manage it. =========================== pornvito dot com |
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| Author: | MrMatt [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 5:57 pm ] |
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Yeah, I guess next time she bring that up, I'll tell her that I think we are not compatible... She is too emotional and I'm too independent and it just won't work. Quote: I know it's off topic, but what's your game like? Have you always been very independant in the relationship? |
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| Author: | Snarg [ Sat Sep 01, 2012 12:09 am ] |
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Quote: I've never given this kind of advice. Never thought I would. But wait for it, wait for it.
You are one of the few people on this forum that knows how to treat a relationship with the respect it deserves.
Quote: I was thinking of just being distant until she bring the "if we don't have anything to say to each other, maybe we shouldn't be together" bla bla and just agree with her...
Stop acting like a beta. Man up and be alpha.Okay, good that is over with. I feel relieved. But really, can you not see how silly that is above? Man, my GF is very emotional. So I"m going to provoke a fight so she can break up with me. Of course that is what you should do . . . I'd personally talk to her. Explain to her that I don't think we are good together. I wouldn't say, for example, "You are too emotional." I'd instead say something like we communicate and express ourselves differently and it doesn't seem to be working anymore. With an overly emotional GF, I'm trying to not have her blow up like a volcano. Maybe I'm too nice? Perhaps, but that's what I'd do. |
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