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| Author: | TheSeagull [ Tue Aug 14, 2012 11:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | "Meet the parents" |
Hi all fellow PUAs. I am opening this thread to ask advice about meeting my GF's parents. Background and any relevant information follows. First of all, this is my first time meeting the parents after my teenage years. After puberty, I have only had 3 LTRs. In the first one, we broke up very very early, so there was no time to even think about meeting A's parents. With B, we were together for more than a year, but her family disliked me so they had a silent plot to keep me away, and I never even got to shake her father's hand. Now, J's sister is getting married this Friday, and her parents and two older brothers are all flying into SF for the event. I have met S, the sister/bride, a few times and she has always been very friendly and nice. My girlfriend also thinks of her as her best friend, and I know for a fact that J confided in her a lot of stuff about our relationship (including me banging other chicks before the exclusivity talk...) I have never met K and M (the brothers), but K checked out my LinkedIn profile a few weeks after I became exclusive with J. As for "Mr. & Mrs. R", I have only gone as far as telling J to say hi when she was on the phone with them. Mr. R has sent a few jokes my way through his daughter (saying hi to me in Spanish, whereas I am Italian, or telling J to enjoy her hotel stay, when it was very clear that she was sleeping in my house), and once I told J to forward her father a funny picture I found on the web after she mentioned it was his type of humor. Positives: - the focus will definitely be on S marrying D, so I do not expect a typical "meet the parents" where I get asked if I have honest intentions towards the little princess - Mr R. has paid a hotel room in downtown SF for J and me for the night of the weeding so that neither of us has to drive back home. It seems a very nice gesture Negatives (or potential negatives): - I am an Atheist born Catholic. J and her family are Jewish with a relatively strong sense of religious and cultural identity J had an ex-boyfriend, M, a Jewish guy who owned a relatively successful company. I have never bothered to ask if M met the family, and if so how things went. EDIT: J already met my parents twice and in both occasions has been lovable and sweet to them. They pretty much love her. Any advice on how to tackle the situation is more than welcome. This includes, but is not limited to: a) should I bring anything as present to them? Or would it be inappropriate since the dinner is already organized (it is a wedding reception)? b) does it make sense for me to ask how it worked between the ex-BF and the parents, so I know where I can improve? c) apart from the obvious rules that one can easily google for, any other wisdom from gentlemen who have already been in this situation? d) does it make sense for me to explicitly thank Mr. R for the hotel room thing? I told J to say thanks on my behalf, of course. should I reinforce that in person? |
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| Author: | Snake Doctor [ Wed Aug 15, 2012 1:43 am ] |
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Arent you stressing enough already man? Breath, and be yourself. They will like you trust me. |
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| Author: | TheSeagull [ Wed Aug 15, 2012 6:25 am ] |
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Quote: Arent you stressing enough already man?
quick and effective. thanks man. I will keep you guys posted
Breath, and be yourself. They will like you trust me. |
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| Author: | Bezy [ Wed Aug 22, 2012 10:38 pm ] |
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Seduce her parents like you seduced her, well not exactly like you seduced her, but you get my drift  Confidence, charm and social calibration will win anyone over. Parents, friends, and sibling have always liked me some more then the girl I was dating |
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| Author: | TheSeagull [ Thu Aug 23, 2012 5:26 am ] |
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I have been quite busy and forgot to give a closure to this thread. The meeting with the parents and siblings has happened, as scheduled. Apparently, I have seduced every member of the family, except for the father herself. What I did was being sociable, polite, conversing, mixing some teasing and lots of praising of J, and just showing that I was having fun and I was glad to be there. the weirdest was the behavior of Mr. R.. this random person walked up to me and said "Hi", and I replied "Hi, I am Seagull" to which he said "Yes I know. I had not recognized you without a beard." to which I laughed. a few minutes later, J introduced her father to me, and obviously it was that same person. We replied "Oh we already met each other." And that is pretty much all the guy told me all night long. The next day I spoke about it with J and half-jokingly I said "it looked like your father was sizing me up". "Yes he definitely was" she replied, and very seriously so. We'll see how the sizing up goes.. |
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