PUA Forum :: Ex GF keeps asking after break up?

I can't possibly know how to answer that as I don't know the reason for the break-up, but if you want her back then initiate contact and start moving in that direction! If she was doing stuff that caused you to break-up with her, then address it "I don't like how you do X, if you can't stop doing X then I am not going to stick around". If she stops then you are good, if she does not, then drop her ass again.

Peace...

Dude, I think maybe you are gaming your "girlfriend"...Once you get into a relationship you need to stop gaming the girl! It is ok to spend some money on her and do stuff, especially if your income is much greater than hers. It is not good if you are always doing for her, but she never does for you. Some examples are: She can make plans and do stuff that is not expensive, she can cook you a meal, give you a massage, etc...It is more about her effort than it is about her monitary cost (Do not suggest these things, she needs to take the inititave).

You cannot undo what you did when you yelled at them, so tell her that! "I can't undo how I acted that night, it was not my best moment".

Step 1: Talk to her
Step 2: See what happens

Is this all texting? You could cut to the chase a lot quicker if you call.

Author:	Johndigwood120 [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 5:28 pm ]
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Author:	Crypto [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 7:06 pm ]
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She wants you to work at getting her back, Period! Girls go through a cycle when they do not feel like the ones who initiated a break-up. She is feeling you out to see if you will take her bait. If you go back right now you will be in the same place you were in that caused the break-up in the first place. You have to figure out what "YOU" want and move in that direction! Peace...

Author:	Johndigwood120 [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 7:10 pm ]
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Author:	Crypto [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 7:14 pm ]
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I can't possibly know how to answer that as I don't know the reason for the break-up, but if you want her back then initiate contact and start moving in that direction! If she was doing stuff that caused you to break-up with her, then address it "I don't like how you do X, if you can't stop doing X then I am not going to stick around". If she stops then you are good, if she does not, then drop her ass again. Peace...

Author:	Johndigwood120 [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 7:19 pm ]
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Quote: I can't possibly know how to answer that as I don't know the reason for the break-up, but if you want her back then initiate contact and start moving in that direction! If she was doing stuff that caused you to break-up with her, then address it "I don't like how you do X, if you can't stop doing X then I am not going to stick around". If she stops then you are good, if she does not, then drop her ass again. Peace... The reason for her to break up with me was because some reasons -She thinks i see her more as just a "buddy" and not as a girlfriend and thinks im only with her for the sex -She says i show too little interest in her and around that path -We had a huge fight a couple months ago and i got really drunk and screamed at her and her friend, she said she's still not over this and always has it in the back of her mind. So most of the part its really my fault but i don't see her as a girlfriend just to have sex with, the reason she thinks this is because everytime we hang out we're watching a movie and have sex afterwards, yes it gets repetitive but she has no money to do other stuff and i don't want to pay for her always unless im rewarding good behaviour (wich the last couple of days/weeks wasn't really there)

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Author:	Crypto [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 7:32 pm ]
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Dude, I think maybe you are gaming your "girlfriend"...Once you get into a relationship you need to stop gaming the girl! It is ok to spend some money on her and do stuff, especially if your income is much greater than hers. It is not good if you are always doing for her, but she never does for you. Some examples are: She can make plans and do stuff that is not expensive, she can cook you a meal, give you a massage, etc...It is more about her effort than it is about her monitary cost (Do not suggest these things, she needs to take the inititave). You cannot undo what you did when you yelled at them, so tell her that! "I can't undo how I acted that night, it was not my best moment". Step 1: Talk to her Step 2: See what happens

Author:	Johndigwood120 [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 10:37 pm ]
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I just talked to her Me: no i told you you can keep the ring of you like it, but it would be a waste if u didn't wear it Ex: no i like it Me: ok then you can keep it! Ex: okay Me: so how are you doing? Ex: i'm fine, you? Me: me too, i still think it sucks what happened between us, but Other than that im good Ex: yeah me too but yeah Ex: ok good Haven't responded yet, i feel an opening here but not quiet sure about how to respond

Author:	Dr. Jones [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 12:21 am ]
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Is this all texting? You could cut to the chase a lot quicker if you call.

Author:	Johndigwood120 [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 12:26 am ]
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Quote: Is this all texting? You could cut to the chase a lot quicker if you call. Yes this is texting, i felt like i needed to respond after the last text so i did a couple hours later ( was at a friend's house) "Btw i saw and read that card you gave me for valentine haha, made me think about all the nice things we did" don't really like the reply but had to say something because it would be awkward if i just ignored her . But when you say "cut to the chase" what do you exactly mean by this? Should i tell her i want to get back together and fight for her or something?

Author:	Mack 2.0 [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 1:08 am ]
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extended conversations via text of that sort send a needy vibe, simply because the time and effort that it takes to have a "conversation" via text is massive. what would be a thirty second conversation turns into hours of back-and-forth via text. i never "converse" via text. texting is for sending a quick message.

Author:	Dr. Jones [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 1:11 am ]
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Talking face-to-face, or even over the phone, you obviously hear the person and pick up on pauses, sighs, laughs, tones. When you ask someone a question, they take seconds to answer it. Whereas with text, they can take minutes or hours or days and give you some yearbook answer that doesn't necessarily give you a heads-up on how someone feels. For all you know, she could just be bored and milking compliments and nostalgia out of you to boost her own mood. I'm not advocating something as outright as saying, "I want to get back with you", but you're talking to this girl with your thumbs. Call her up.

Author:	P1nkstar [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 3:45 pm ]
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Corsten. You are doing the same fucking i-love-the-card-you-gave-me-for-valentine crap that caused you to lose her. Wake up dude. If you want her back, something has to change. What you want to achieve, she must feel things when she thinks of you. Not, "i don't want my ring back", that makes her feel nothing. Ignore her -> that makes her feel she lost you. Flirt with other girls that she can see -> that makes her feel jealousy. do fun things -> that makes her feel missing out. As long as she's not feeling it, she's not coming back, stop fucking txting that crap Succes jongen, komt goed!

Author:	Thedutchone [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 4:21 pm ]
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Quit that crap texting Or you date her and try to get back together. (Hey, want to go to that party/bar and go from there) Or you quit doing that shit, doesn't make you happy if you are honest with yourself.

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