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| Author: | LEF2226 [ Thu Jul 19, 2012 9:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Dealing with her ex-boyfriend |
What's the best way to handle her ex-boyfriend. Seems like he might be interested in getting back with her. For example, what should I say and how should I act if her ex-bf is brought up? IDK never had this problem. |
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| Author: | vhou812 [ Thu Jul 19, 2012 10:26 pm ] |
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I'm by no means an expert on this one, but if she brings her ex up, I'd try to ask questions or steer the conversation such that the focus is on why she dumped him, or how she felt when he dumped her. Try and get her to remember the negative associated with him rather than the positive. For instance, if she brings him up, maybe ask why they broke up and use what info she gives you. The LAST thing I'd do is insult him though and put her in a position to defend him. After all, she used to date him. An insult to him is thereby an insult to her indirectly. |
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| Author: | LEF2226 [ Thu Jul 19, 2012 10:37 pm ] |
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I mean come on. You can talk about your past relationships. Obviously, if she still seems attached or keeps bringing him up, that's a problem. But, if, for example, she sees him at a party and later that night brings him up and complains about how he treated her like shit that's another issue. |
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| Author: | TheSeagull [ Thu Jul 19, 2012 11:05 pm ] |
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I think it all depends on the point at which you are and the way the ex BF is brought up. I know about my girlfriend's ex. Not know him personally. But I know stuff about him. And I know she dumped him, and why. Same, she knows about my ex, and why I dumped her. It's not like she talks about her ex every day, and not like "oh I wish I had M here with me tonight". that would be grounds for immediate dismissal. Of course, it's not like on our first date she started talking about the ex. We only exchanged that kind of information after the whole BF/GF talk. before, it was pointless. |
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| Author: | Clive55 [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 4:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with her ex-boyfriend |
So I get to my ex girlfriend's home today to spend the day with her and congratulate her mother on her day care thriving. When her mom leaves we chill together and after 6 hours of quality time she recieves a message and tells me her ex told her he's coming. So he rocks up and they speak for about less than a minute and then he drives away and we get back to our chilling session. I haven't really been a very secure guy and the fact that he has a good job and has a car while I'm the same age as her and just finished school last year kinda got to me in the past but I think I handled today's incident pretty well. I chilled showed no anger, showed no jealousy and when he left after less than a minute of talking I was the one who had her in my arms. I could've freaked out and gave him value but I didn't. She kept looking into my eyes looking for a hint of anger and she got none. I survived a practical shit test. I finally felt like a winner, the best fight you can put up is putting down your jealousy and realising that you are the shit and that's why he get's a 40 second convo while you get a 12 minute blowjob with no effort at all. |
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 9:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with her ex-boyfriend |
I try to find out how recently she broke up with him. If it's very recent then brace yourself for a mindfuck. If its very recent and he dumped her, then whatever you do don't fall in love with her. When you're the rebound guy and you fall for her it can really kick you in the nuts. Happened to me about a year and a half ago, she was acting insanely into me and saying she couldn't believe she had met someone like me etc. Then within the space of about twenty minutes she wants to get back with her ex once she's used you to make him sufficiently jealous. If only I knew the warning signs back then... |
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| Author: | ROCTAC [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 9:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with her ex-boyfriend |
Quote: I try to find out how recently she broke up with him.
This x1000If it's very recent then brace yourself for a mindfuck. If its very recent and he dumped her, then whatever you do don't fall in love with her. When you're the rebound guy and you fall for her it can really kick you in the nuts. Happened to me about a year and a half ago, she was acting insanely into me and saying she couldn't believe she had met someone like me etc. Then within the space of about twenty minutes she wants to get back with her ex once she's used you to make him sufficiently jealous. If only I knew the warning signs back then... Just went through the same thing as described above. Really, really blew. I thought it was odd how fast things were moving with her. I should have seen the signs. |
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 9:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with her ex-boyfriend |
Quote: Quote: I try to find out how recently she broke up with him.
This x1000If it's very recent then brace yourself for a mindfuck. If its very recent and he dumped her, then whatever you do don't fall in love with her. When you're the rebound guy and you fall for her it can really kick you in the nuts. Happened to me about a year and a half ago, she was acting insanely into me and saying she couldn't believe she had met someone like me etc. Then within the space of about twenty minutes she wants to get back with her ex once she's used you to make him sufficiently jealous. If only I knew the warning signs back then... Just went through the same thing as described above. Really, really blew. I thought it was odd how fast things were moving with her. I should have seen the signs. I'm a very sensitive person and (was) prone to falling for a girl I like rather easily. But fucking hell, having your heart torn out does wonders for toughening you up haha. |
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| Author: | chucknorris9 [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 9:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with her ex-boyfriend |
same situation bra. if the ex is still in the picture i say next her its just going to cause problems |
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| Author: | ROCTAC [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 9:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with her ex-boyfriend |
Quote: Quote: Quote: I try to find out how recently she broke up with him.
This x1000If it's very recent then brace yourself for a mindfuck. If its very recent and he dumped her, then whatever you do don't fall in love with her. When you're the rebound guy and you fall for her it can really kick you in the nuts. Happened to me about a year and a half ago, she was acting insanely into me and saying she couldn't believe she had met someone like me etc. Then within the space of about twenty minutes she wants to get back with her ex once she's used you to make him sufficiently jealous. If only I knew the warning signs back then... Just went through the same thing as described above. Really, really blew. I thought it was odd how fast things were moving with her. I should have seen the signs. I'm a very sensitive person and (was) prone to falling for a girl I like rather easily. But fucking hell, having your heart torn out does wonders for toughening you up haha. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 11:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with her ex-boyfriend |
Didn't read any response to this , so sorry if I repeat myself. Anyway , Ex's. Listen to what she says about him. Basically , if she brings the Ex up into a discussion , she still misses him. SO, you got 2 options. Divide and Conquer. Bail. If you're not up to it, just bail. Then and there. If you really like her ,chose option 1. Divide and conquer basically means you should listen to what she says about the guy. Divide them by being subtle. If she says something good about him , undermine his effort by hinting that you COULD , not WILL , do it better or that anyone could do what he did. (example: Her: He used to bring me flowers for no reason at all.I liked that. You: Yeah, thats how any decent boyfriend should be like.) Again,be subtle , dont pass on the impresion that you are trying to make him look bad and dont diss the EX.You dont wanna diss the ex. If she still feels for him , dissing him might not be a good idea. In any case ,after you divide (everytime she brings him up) , you can conquer. Anyway,you need to be a good actor to pull this off. You need to show her that you are aware that she still cares for the EX , but that you are not impressed / intimidated by him. That will make her take interest in you. Long story short, make her think you can be more than he was , but in your own way. |
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Thu Jan 17, 2013 1:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with her ex-boyfriend |
I was constantly reassured by my most recent girl that she was "completely over her ex" and today I found out she was back with him. Trust your gut instinct, I always sensed she wasn't being truthful and wasn't over her ex and now I know. If there is an ex in the picture, abort. |
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