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| Author: | Furiox [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 11:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Girlfriend texts me everyday | Driving me nuts!!!! |
Hey guys, I started dating this girl who is fairly young just like me, i am 21, shes a bit younger. After texting everyday for 3 weeks we arranged a movie date at my place and we had a great time so next day she asked me to become exclusive, i really like her and for a long term girlfriend she seems perfect. I am used to the freak type, drama,issues and what not so finally having a good girl is nice. Now the problem i got is she keeps asking me what i am doing and literally needs to whats app with me every minute she is online. I don't mind chatting for a little bit but she just keeps it going and when i don't respond she says, why are you ignoring me. Baby? Helloooooo????? ????/? really childish and very annoying but besides that i think it kills attraction too if she knows what iam doing every fucking minute of the day. So my options would be either: To tell her she annoys me by sending so many texts and being impatience when i don't respond. This will hurt her feelings and i don't want that. Tell her i am busy so i cant respond, this is usually the route i take but i am getting tired of finding excuses which convey at least a little value. ( sometimes i am playing Xbox or just listening to some music ) but telling her this could change my frame of the cool guy. What would you do if you were in my situation? |
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| Author: | P1nkstar [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 1:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend texts me everyday | Driving me nuts!!!! |
Quote: Hey guys,
It's simple...I started dating this girl who is fairly young just like me, i am 21, shes a bit younger. After texting everyday for 3 weeks we arranged a movie date at my place and we had a great time so next day she asked me to become exclusive, i really like her and for a long term girlfriend she seems perfect. I am used to the freak type, drama,issues and what not so finally having a good girl is nice. Now the problem i got is she keeps asking me what i am doing and literally needs to whats app with me every minute she is online. I don't mind chatting for a little bit but she just keeps it going and when i don't respond she says, why are you ignoring me. Baby? Helloooooo????? ????/? really childish and very annoying but besides that i think it kills attraction too if she knows what iam doing every fucking minute of the day. So my options would be either: To tell her she annoys me by sending so many texts and being impatience when i don't respond. This will hurt her feelings and i don't want that. Tell her i am busy so i cant respond, this is usually the route i take but i am getting tired of finding excuses which convey at least a little value. ( sometimes i am playing Xbox or just listening to some music ) but telling her this could change my frame of the cool guy. What would you do if you were in my situation? If it annoys you, you must tell her. It's a) she is upset, and you don't lose attraction for her. b) she annoys you, you lose attraction, and you will dump her It's the best for you and her that you tell her. |
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| Author: | Furiox [ Tue Jul 03, 2012 10:16 am ] |
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Thanks p1nkstar, i will try to jokely tell her it annoys me so it wont hurt as much. When were both in good mood i will just say something like, i love how you stalk me everyday with a big smile... |
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| Author: | pumpington [ Tue Jul 03, 2012 10:58 am ] |
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Quote: Thanks p1nkstar, i will try to jokely tell her it annoys me so it wont hurt as much.
she might not stop texting you if you just crack a jokeWhen were both in good mood i will just say something like, i love how you stalk me everyday with a big smile... why not just tell her that you don't like texting?, afraid she will leave you for not being an avid texter?? |
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| Author: | Furiox [ Tue Jul 03, 2012 2:17 pm ] |
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Quote: Quote: Thanks p1nkstar, i will try to jokely tell her it annoys me so it wont hurt as much.
she might not stop texting you if you just crack a jokeWhen were both in good mood i will just say something like, i love how you stalk me everyday with a big smile... why not just tell her that you don't like texting?, afraid she will leave you for not being an avid texter?? She is the very sweet type of girl who wouldn't hurt a fly so i want to be as kind as possible with her that's why i thought about saying it in a joking manner and hoping she catches the real message. |
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| Author: | Mig [ Tue Jul 03, 2012 2:45 pm ] |
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That's tough...mainly because she's your girlfriend, and not just a girl you're seeing. Be honest and be nice. OR...everytime she texts...immediately call her. |
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| Author: | pumpington [ Tue Jul 03, 2012 2:49 pm ] |
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If i tell her straight up it will hurt her feelings, i am her first boyfriend so i understand she is excited and likes to talk to me every minute of the day. I don't think she has a clue it annoys the shit out of me so maybe its best to just tell her but what would be the best way to say this.
consider your own feelings, this is bothering you, you are seeking her approval at the cost of your own quality of life, in essence you are in full reaction to this girlShe is the very sweet type of girl who wouldn't hurt a fly so i want to be as kind as possible with her that's why i thought about saying it in a joking manner and hoping she catches the real message. I know it is hard to not stay nice to the girls you like, but in this case there is no vindictive intent to your actions or anything, you are not trying to hurt her, but you are censoring yourself she will get over it, if you remain so passive towards things that bother you, you will end up dealing with alot more things that bother you, stop it before it becomes a real problem for you a few extra text messages is no big deal, but this sort of behavior can be made into a habit, what is to stop a girl from walking all over you if you don't stand up for what you want in a relationship? manage your expectations bro by any chance has this sort of thing ever happened to you in the past?, do you tend to fall in with girls who tend to abuse you or something then let it go? do you find sometimes in relationships you are with someone who you know you shouldn't be with and possibly try to distance yourself from, but continue to return to them even though you are well aware of this? do you even have any boundaries that you uphold in your relationships? ^ if you find you were saying yes to alot of those questions, then you gotta start standing up for what you want, this girl is texting you often and she is getting needy, if you cut this shit out and man up and just tell her, then it will dis-continue, maybe she is irritated for what? 2 minutes?, no need to be rude to her about it, just be honest, stop censoring yourself to hold approval, or eventually you will lose that approval as well as her respect it is as simple as, hey I really like talking to you and hanging out with you, but I can't be texting all the time, I don't really even like texting, how about you just call me now when im off work and we can talk ^ this will not offend her, if it does then you should seriously consider if this girl is right for you, if you can't just be yourself and express yourself while you are in a relationship, wtf kind of relationship have you gotten yourself into? |
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| Author: | Lodewijkp [ Thu Jul 05, 2012 8:10 pm ] |
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talk in context... tell her about a so called friend who text you too much and you don't like texting much. OR....another context tell her you don't like texting that much.. you like her but you don't like your phone. |
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| Author: | Crypto [ Fri Jul 06, 2012 5:27 pm ] |
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The problem is that you DID text her 24/7 when you were trying to get into her pants, and now you have "changed" in her eyes! This is actually your fault not hers...You did not remain congruent with your initial couring period. Peace... |
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| Author: | tom3208 [ Mon Jul 09, 2012 9:35 am ] |
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I agree with p1nkpanther. I think openness is very important in a relationship. Think about it: if you don't tell her she's annoying you do you think her habits will ever change? And like the "sandwich"-method or whatever, tell her you like talking to her BUT she's texting you too often and it annoys you. Make her understand your feelings. Then it's her move so to speak. If she keeps on annoying you for a prolonged time you should once again be open about it. If you really think she has some problems and just can't change her habits then I think it's up to you if you want to stay in a relationship with her or not. Try to get into the root of the problem: why is she texting you so often? Maybe she's insecure about herself or something like that? Just my 2c |
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