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Author:  league [ Sun Jul 01, 2012 6:36 pm ]
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How would you guys deal with your girlfriend going through the contacts list on your phone and deleting all females numbers I'm not related to?

For once I'm clueless
Author:  Sly_Wolf [ Sun Jul 01, 2012 8:03 pm ]
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holy shit, she actually deleted them? There are a lot of threads of girls going through phones but deleting numbers is a whole nother level. Aside from dumping her you should have a sit down and talk. Ask her why she did that and why she doesn't trust you. Figure out what the problem is and then act accordingly based on your judgement.
Author:  league [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 7:08 am ]
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Yep she deleted every female except my sister and cousin

Now she's going quiet on me
Author:  Furiox [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 7:55 am ]
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Yep she deleted every female except my sister and cousin

Now she's going quiet on me
Tell her if its OK to delete all the numbers from boys on her phone she is not related to.

This is crossing the line if you ask me, disrespect of privacy at its fullest.

You love the girl so breaking-up will be hard and i would not do it if she is a really good girl but you better tell this girl she crossed the line and give her a hard time for it because if you let it slide she will think its no big deal and she can pull shit like this to you.

TRUST should be respected by both girl and boyfriend in a relationship.
Author:  On A Rampage [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 8:16 am ]
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Do you know why she would do this? Have you given her any reason to look through your phone?

You need to ask her why, and more importantly tell her to grow up/
Author:  league [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 12:58 pm ]
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I had a go at her about it last night, basically saying don't ever delete anything of mine without my permission ever again

She went quiet at first then this morning sent me a long apologetic message, I believe everyone deserves a second chance so as long as there is no repeat I can let it slide

Thr next time she acts mental though she's going
Author:  Furiox [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 3:03 pm ]
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I had a go at her about it last night, basically saying don't ever delete anything of mine without my permission ever again

She went quiet at first then this morning sent me a long apologetic message, I believe everyone deserves a second chance so as long as there is no repeat I can let it slide

Thr next time she acts mental though she's going
Perfect.
Author:  league [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 3:57 pm ]
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I had a go at her about it last night, basically saying don't ever delete anything of mine without my permission ever again

She went quiet at first then this morning sent me a long apologetic message, I believe everyone deserves a second chance so as long as there is no repeat I can let it slide

Thr next time she acts mental though she's going
Instead of stopping here. Go a little further. Try to understand what made her go "mental." What upset her? What happened to cause that reaction? That's how you prevent this stuff moving forward -- by understanding and listening.
I've honestly no idea, up until now she's been the best gf I've had, banging eachothers brains out, she showed no signs of insecurities, her family loves me etc etc

That's why I didn't dump her, she just shocked me more then anything
Author:  RelentlessT [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 4:03 pm ]
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While it certainly doesn't sound logical to me, there is something in psychology that might have something to do with it.

Have you ever cheated on a woman, or felt guilty about flirting with another girl?

She may have done something similar and thus the insecurity.

There are also those who push away those who love them the most. She may feel things are going way too fast.

Whatever it is, good luck.
Author:  league [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 5:08 pm ]
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Exactly what I'm thinking, I'll have to just keep an eye on the situationm

Thanks guys :-)
Author:  gtdave [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 7:15 pm ]
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This thread actually made me delete some numbers from my own phone! Realised I'd 148 contacts in my phone with 121 of them girls. Most of which I can't remember lol!

On a serious note, that is a bit bad! I'm guessing she deleted a few close female friends numbers? That would piss me off! You gotta do some digging
Author:  league [ Tue Jul 03, 2012 1:32 pm ]
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While it certainly doesn't sound logical to me, there is something in psychology that might have something to do with it.

Have you ever cheated on a woman, or felt guilty about flirting with another girl?

She may have done something similar and thus the insecurity.

There are also those who push away those who love them the most. She may feel things are going way too fast.

Whatever it is, good luck.

You do have a few very good points there, I have no evidence she's done anything like that though, if I did she'd be gone in secondsm

I'm gonna just have to keep an eye on her and see if she does anything stupid again
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