I'm facing the same situation here, but it feels kinda more desperate.
She dumped me after everything seemed to go the right way for 3 years and half, she was very careful, very loveful, the only exception was: in the last six months she didn't want to have sex with me. Just the actual act, she had no problems with mutual masturbation, she just avoided sex itself. Then very suddenly she broke up with me, and she told me she had some arguing with her female cohabitants (she lives with three engaged girls) who seem have told her that I wasn't the right one for her. She was told her reasons for not having sex with me were she wasn't in love. She bought that, adding to the fact that she lives 100km away from me and I had a lot of work to do so I had plenty of difficulties in reaching her in the last times, and those girls didn't see me often and told her that she deserved more than one who can't get you out often and you're not having sex with.
I now know that maybe I could have pushed it harder to reach her even the days I was tired from work, but in those days I recall I just were so tired I just wanted to go home and sleep. She really seemed to understand that and told me a lot of times she completely understood my feelings and that it was no problem if I staied home. But now I know she was lieing and just trying to be nice to me.
Now she told me she doesn't love me any more and she even can't find me handsome or attractive. With this words, I totally gave up and disappeared from her life, though she cried a lot asking me to stay but not as her boyfriend. I didn't bow, I removed her from MSN, Facebook, everything, and went alone on my road, I felt insulted for having being dumped by a girl after the trial of six months without sex.
I had no problems in the very beginning, I accepted that and I told myself that I had to move on very quickly, so I put myself on working hard and thinking about the fact that I lost a person who wasn't really perfect.
After two weeks I am totally puzzled and confused. Sometimes I want her back, telling her that I'm changed, I see that I had to care much of her, that I relaxed too much... but sometimes instead I feel like it's really too humiliating to come back at her after so short time and that I would surely being rejected and look needy and lose every chance I can still have... or simply that out there there are girls better than her, and that if I came back with her I would have the same problems soon or later. But these thoughts are cycling through my head and what I really want to avoid is to call her back and look needy. I really don't want that.
Help out there?
