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Author:  Jambi [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 12:09 am ]
Post subject:  Freezout over her birthday?
I've been ignoring my ex for 2 months now since I really want her back and I doubt she wants me. she's text me twice asking how are you? added me on facebook which I blocked her and has poked me on there last week. Problem is I really would like her back just don't have a clue to re-initiate things. Her birthday is coming up soon. should I ignore her during this?

My thinking is that it could completely piss her off that I 'forgot' her birthday and kill off attraction or on the other hand show her that I don't think about her any more which will make her attracted to me?

Anyone have any idea on how to re-initiate contact? should I just keep ignoring her?
Author:  NYCguy [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 1:04 am ]
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Am in the same boat, but in my case it's only been three weeks. Seems like your ex is trying. What signal are you looking for before you start talking to her? The birthday one could be quite Damaging especially if you want her back. I'd wait till the day of, and then send a quick message that acknowledges it but teases her a bit also with a little cocky/funny line.

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Author:  harkachu [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 1:23 am ]
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Ignoring her birthday in my oppinion makes you look like a jerk. Acknowledge it, but don't celebrate it. I'm also in a similar situation. It's been a month since we split and it's her birthday next month. I already have a present for her, but I'm not gonna give it to her unless we get back together. I will send her a birthday card though because I know she really apreciates that kind of thing. But that's it.
Author:  TheSeagull [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 1:26 am ]
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At 11.30pm on that day send a text Happy birthday!

leave it at that.
Author:  Furiox [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 8:16 am ]
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I did this last week with my ex who i didn't spoke for 6 weeks. She is a bitch so i said something funny:

"Hey Devils little helper, Happy Birthday :)"

She replied with who are you? ( so she must deleted my number lol )

But she did say thanks after telling her who i was. I would say don't ignore her but use it as an opportunity, on her birthday she is in super happy state so there isn't much you can do wrong.
Author:  Crypto [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 12:50 pm ]
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How long did you guys date before the break-up? If it was a longer relationship and you know her likes/dislikes then you can use that to your advantage!
Author:  Jambi [ Thu Jun 14, 2012 6:33 am ]
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What signal are you looking for before you start talking to her?
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"I'm sorry I made the biggest mistake of my life will you please forgive me" That would have got me thinking but it's not going to happen being realistic. Her text, facebook message and poke seems like a pretty feeble attempt to me. [quote]How long did you guys date before the break-up?[/quote] 2 months with a mini breakup in between which she initiated but she also re-initiated things and I gave her a chance but she did a repeat the month after. She also had a rebound during the freezout which pissed me off so I'm not sure If I want to punish her or forgive her but she is the only girl I want to be with. [quote]At 11.30pm on that day send a text Happy birthday! leave it at that.[/quote][/quote] So far this seems like the best advice but I thought I'd hear some more opinions ready for tomorrow night which is her birthday.
Author:  Wolfwoodd [ Thu Jun 14, 2012 5:14 pm ]
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What signal are you looking for before you start talking to her?
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"I'm sorry I made the biggest mistake of my life will you please forgive me" That would have got me thinking but it's not going to happen being realistic. Her text, facebook message and poke seems like a pretty feeble attempt to me. [quote]How long did you guys date before the break-up?[/quote] 2 months with a mini breakup in between which she initiated but she also re-initiated things and I gave her a chance but she did a repeat the month after. She also had a rebound during the freezout which pissed me off so I'm not sure If I want to punish her or forgive her but she is the only girl I want to be with. [quote]At 11.30pm on that day send a text Happy birthday! leave it at that.[/quote] So far this seems like the best advice but I thought I'd hear some more opinions ready for tomorrow night which is her birthday.[/quote][/quote] Your mindset for all this.. well, it's just all wrong. You just sound bitter and jaded. You are ignoring her because you are punishing her, not because you are an awesome guy with a busy social life. You also sound like you haven't messed around with any other girls since this one broke up with you. Well, I guess you got to fake it 'till you make it, so I will give you some practical advice. The right way to re-initiate contact is to invite her out to a really fun place / event where you have a lot of social proof. If she can't go, then act like it's not a big deal. Try again in two weeks. The place/event you pick should be someplace you are planning to go whether or not she agrees to come with. You need to display high value and show her that you are a cool guy who likes to do fun things with cool people. You also need to display how much you are over her and over the break-up, so she feels the need to work to get you back. Don't text her for her birthday. Just my 2 cents -Wolf
Author:  allwhite [ Thu Jun 14, 2012 7:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Freezout over her birthday?
[quote="Jambi"]I've been ignoring my ex for 2 months now since I really want her back and I doubt she wants me. she's text me twice asking how are you? added me on facebook which I blocked her and has poked me on there last week. Problem is I really would like her back just don't have a clue to re-initiate things. Her birthday is coming up soon. should I ignore her during this? [/quote]

Ignoring her because you want her back.... hahah who would want to get back with a dick? She knows you still like her and are playing games. She owns you.you ignoring her and her knowing you like her is fueling her ego. Shes tried to contact you. dont play the head games.

If you're not gonna talk to her, have it be because she is a bitch you don't want to talk to.
Author:  mrwzrd [ Sun Oct 28, 2012 3:23 pm ]
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I'm in a similar situation we broke up a couple of days ago and I'm trying to get her back last week she didn't wanna talk to me (said she had a lot on her mind and she doesn't know if she wants me as a partner anymore but still needs me in her life) we officially broke up then and she said she wants to remain friends so I have ignored her and she has called me and messaged me heaps mainly about Uni work but we talk for ages after I help her out. Her bday is in nov 19th. Have a present for her and my mates reckon give it to her belated when she deserves it (you don't reward bad behaviour) what do you guys think?? I want her back and need advice on how to not fall into the friend zone

Cheers guys
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