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| Author: | Dros [ Sat Jun 02, 2012 6:57 am ] |
| Post subject: | Break-up Ethics |
So we've been together 4 months. It has been the first serious relationships for both of us. Problem is, I'm not satisfacted with the relationship anymore. She's simply not the person I would like her to be: she does not have a lot of interests outside of school, she's clingy and gets mads if I don't answer her text for some hours, she's jealous of my female friends, and honestly she's not that hot, a bit fat actually. (Plus I don't see me getting laid anytime soon). This relationship is kinda bringing me down a bit. Not that I dislike her, but it just doesn't feel right, being in something which doesn't totally satisfy me. In spite of that, I don't know if breaking up is the right thing to do. I feel guilty for making out with her in the first place. As a matter of fact, I've been the one who gained her trust and persuaded her into putting her heart in this relationship, if you know what I mean. My point is, I realize I have been too superficial in starting this thing I didn't really want, plus I was the first to say "I love you", only two months ago (!), and I would feel like a dick taking back my promise this fast. Not that I ever promised her an amazing future together, but nonetheless I kinda feel I owe her something... perhaps some more happiness . And after all I'm sure I would break her heart in pieces if I effectively broke out with her "out of nowhere". Right as I am writing she sent me a text telling me how I am her world and I'm the best in the world and so on. Thanks for your help, I really need it. |
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| Author: | Furiox [ Sat Jun 02, 2012 8:08 am ] |
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Woman do it all the time! Love has 2 sides, happiness and pain. In your first relationship usually you give your 100% and since its her first to she does the same. After you get heartbroken your mentality changes and won't make the same mistake anymore off giving your 100% to soon. Breaking-up when she has invested so much love and time into you will hurt her no matter how you putt it but there is nothing wrong with this! That's life, both of you learned a lot and it was most likely a good experience. But whatever you do don't lie to her, just be honest about how you feel and tell her its not working out anymore or take the lame road and stop texting and showing much interest, she will pick up on this and ask you about it. Tough spot your in but whatever you do, do not stay with her! Life is to short to stay in a unhappy relationship. |
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| Author: | MNF [ Sat Jun 02, 2012 1:55 pm ] |
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You have to break up with her. I understand why you are somewhat hesitant to do so, but it's for best both of you that she knows the truth. It'll hurt her, but not as much as it'd hurt her if you went deeper into an unwanted relationship with her and bailed (which you are clearly going to do eventually, so just get it done with) after 8 months or so. Be honest with her, but be kind about it. Good luck mate. |
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| Author: | Dros [ Sat Jun 02, 2012 10:23 pm ] |
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Ok, I will let you know how it goes. Thank you. edit: there have been a lot of tears, but I got it over with. I didn't think it would be that hard. Thanks for your encouragements. |
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