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Author:  jaropennies [ Sat May 05, 2012 1:42 am ]
Post subject:  The girl that once shaped my life is moving away
I posted this before and I'll start out with the things I feel most important

-I am not a relationship guy...at all, this is the ultimate exception because she shaped my life.
-I am ALWAYS in a good mood, but this is so over powering, I can't help but feel a little strain on my emotions... I am really going to miss her.
-Met her when I was 12, I am 20 Now

Basically, I have know this girl since the 6th grade, and on and off up towards 11th she has had crushes on me and we dated on and off. As I've said before, I Am NOT the kind of guy that strives to go out with as many girls as he can, and count down the days and hours till he can see her next...but this girl I would honestly say I "love". I know its a term thrown around, but I consider my words powerful, because I think LONG and hard about everything I say and trust me, its always full of truth and emotion. I really do love this girl. She is moving away after she gets home from college to visit it.

The girl shaped my Child hood/ years of being a teenager. Its not the big things though like her asking me out (When I was younger lol), its the little stuff. The little miniscule texts, nick names, and places we went.

I guess I am having a hard time gripping that this chapter in my life is over. IT is so f***ing surreal thinking back to how much emotion we had for each other, and how I was once upon a time the "Ugly Duckling" that ended up dating the sexiest, cutest, girl in the school The kid that made everyone go "HOW DID HE GET HER?".

It shows she really liked me...I mean, I've come into my own now, but back then I was no attractive specimen and this girl, this gorgeous girl took me over ANY other Jock, wrestler, quarter back, in the entire school.

How do I cope with knowing that this time is over? Do I just have to let go? She's not moving like a mile a part either, its far away.

I need some help, I can almost ALWAYS talk myself through a problem, but this time I'm coming here.
Author:  1eye [ Sat May 05, 2012 2:31 am ]
Post subject:  Re: The girl that once shaped my life is moving away
I hate to burst your feel good bubble.As 60 years of challenge said,this is mental masterbation.All you had was a friendship not a relationship.Please read the post
I wrote in " guy orbiting my girl" in this section.I don't want to paste again.You think only this girl can push your buttons and feel loved.Maybe this is not meant to be so you have to let it go and move on,that's life.This is NOW not the past
you want to be in your comfort zone.If you really love her why have you not declared it to her. When things come to a head what are you willing to do?
Being a man means taking challenges and facing the music/reality.The sooner you connect to now, this moment's reality the faster you'll wake up to the real
situation and get on with your life.
Author:  jaropennies [ Sat May 05, 2012 3:16 am ]
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So, I am that asshole that orbits around her and annoys her boyfriends?

I guess I'm that guy that feels he was "The One" for her, no matter what.


So your advice, is fuck it and move on?
Author:  1eye [ Sun May 06, 2012 2:47 am ]
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So, I am that asshole that orbits around her and annoys her boyfriends?

I guess I'm that guy that feels he was "The One" for her, no matter what.


So your advice, is fuck it and move on?
Yes but don't be hard on yourself it's part of growing up.Just got to straighten
yourself,things will be better in future when you recognise you are no longer
dreaming and pining for that one girl. :)
Author:  jaropennies [ Sun May 06, 2012 3:10 am ]
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So, I am that asshole that orbits around her and annoys her boyfriends?

I guess I'm that guy that feels he was "The One" for her, no matter what.


So your advice, is fuck it and move on?
Yes but don't be hard on yourself it's part of growing up.Just got to straighten
yourself,things will be better in future when you recognise you are no longer
dreaming and pining for that one girl. :)
Moving on, yes. And trust me I can completely admit when I am in the wrong.

I've dated other girls, and none- NONE of the memories stick out in comparison to hers. I've seen the guys that Orbit, it may or may not be different. Who really know?

I'm a stage 5 clinger it seems!
Author:  1eye [ Sun May 06, 2012 3:54 am ]
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Moving on, yes. And trust me I can completely admit when I am in the wrong.

I've dated other girls, and none- NONE of the memories stick out in comparison to hers. I've seen the guys that Orbit, it may or may not be different. Who really know?

I'm a stage 5 clinger it seems!

You are only human and it's good you're honest with yourself.Self awareness
and willingness to change will motivate you to be what you want for yourself.
Take care.
Author:  1eye [ Sun May 06, 2012 3:57 am ]
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Moving on, yes. And trust me I can completely admit when I am in the wrong.

I've dated other girls, and none- NONE of the memories stick out in comparison to hers. I've seen the guys that Orbit, it may or may not be different. Who really know?

I'm a stage 5 clinger it seems!

You are only human and it's good you're honest with yourself.Self awareness
and willingness to change will motivate you to be what you want for yourself.
Take care.
Author:  djsavoy [ Mon May 07, 2012 12:03 am ]
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Let her.. Give her freedom,, you don`t own her.. Yea sure your sad she`s moving away but tell her if its good for her, you`ll understand and support her 100%.. She`ll be shocked by your self-reliability which comes off as being alpha
Author:  jaropennies [ Mon May 07, 2012 12:08 am ]
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Let her.. Give her freedom,, you don`t own her.. Yea sure your sad she`s moving away but tell her if its good for her, you`ll understand and support her 100%.. She`ll be shocked by your self-reliability which comes off as being alpha
Not to be stubborn hear but once she moves it doesn't matter how she feels about me, we will be in different states!

I hope she doesn't feel like I don't care after that LOL.

I imagine somebody on a floating piece of wood just being cast out into the ocean "Nah bro don't worry, you'll be fine",
Author:  djsavoy [ Mon May 07, 2012 12:12 am ]
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Let her.. Give her freedom,, you don`t own her.. Yea sure your sad she`s moving away but tell her if its good for her, you`ll understand and support her 100%.. She`ll be shocked by your self-reliability which comes off as being alpha
Not to be stubborn hear but once she moves it doesn't matter how she feels about me, we will be in different states!

I hope she doesn't feel like I don't care after that LOL.

I imagine somebody on a floating piece of wood just being cast out into the ocean "Nah bro don't worry, you'll be fine",
Trust me... Relationships are counter-intuitive... You sir, are a man... Let HER be the one whose worrying about this, not you.. as far as life goes.. your life goes on.. you can choose to live happy and find another woman who can shape your life for the next 10 .. 20 or even rest of your life.. ORRR you can choose to weep about her and call her 24/7 telling her to come back... ALL about your perception... Life is bullshit, but its who can bullshit the best.. wins
Author:  jaropennies [ Mon May 07, 2012 12:34 am ]
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Let her.. Give her freedom,, you don`t own her.. Yea sure your sad she`s moving away but tell her if its good for her, you`ll understand and support her 100%.. She`ll be shocked by your self-reliability which comes off as being alpha
Not to be stubborn hear but once she moves it doesn't matter how she feels about me, we will be in different states!

I hope she doesn't feel like I don't care after that LOL.

I imagine somebody on a floating piece of wood just being cast out into the ocean "Nah bro don't worry, you'll be fine",
Trust me... Relationships are counter-intuitive... You sir, are a man... Let HER be the one whose worrying about this, not you.. as far as life goes.. your life goes on.. you can choose to live happy and find another woman who can shape your life for the next 10 .. 20 or even rest of your life.. ORRR you can choose to weep about her and call her 24/7 telling her to come back... ALL about your perception... Life is bullshit, but its who can bullshit the best.. wins
Life's only bullshit if you think about things in the negative light all the time, I don't, can't, and won't. Its too short to be sad. Good advice man! bout time I manned up!
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