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So just got this text. Any saving it? If the girl wasnt so rad I wouldnt care, but she is rad, and we did click, and it could have been great.

"I guess its pretty obvious that I cant fit getting to know someone into my schedule right now. U r rad and im glad to have met u but its bad timing."

I know the writting is on the wall, but this is one I dont want to let go without a fight, or better yet a strategy.

Thanks all for advice.

I was thinking of something like sending a facebook message "look girl, I think you might have gotten the wrong impression. Im not trying to be your boyfriend or anything, thats the last thing I need. But I was thinking you are rad too, and was willing to see if you really are. Lets get tea next week and catch up, I want to hear about your new job. no expectations."

Thoughts?

Author:	keps1 [ Fri Apr 13, 2012 4:27 pm ]
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Trying to figure out whats going on, and more importantly how to proceed. Met in the daytime, and then hungout that night doing a fun activity. Met up a few days later, ended up having great deep convo and making out. She said she was really excited we met. A few days later we go out for drinks, end up back at my place and have drunken, but pretty good sex (from what I can remember). Hang out for a few hours the next day, and she is being all cute holding my hand and rubbing my back and whatnot. It feels amazing to be around her, and I know she is into me from the things she is saying about me (I am awesome, hot, etc). I sent her a text later that day saying I was having a good day thinking about last night and getting excited to take her camping next week. No response. A few meaningless texts the next day or two. Then a few days later she breaks some plans we had to go camping. She had her parents in town, and was starting a new job, etc. so I know she was busy, but she did it over text instead of calling, saying she was too anxious to go away with what she has going on. I call her a few days later and say I want to see her, so we make plans for lunch a few days later. Then that day she says she has something she is working on before she starts her new job, and cannot hang out. I tell her no worries, Ive got things going on too. So now Im feeling like its slipping away, and not sure what to do. She is rad, and we definitely had a super strong connection, so Im not sure whats going on. It went from "okay this is what Ive been looking for" to "now I feel like a chump. I havent called or texted for a few days, havent heard anything from her, but need to know if shes still interested or if I should move on. If she wasnt so rad I would have already moved on, but I really want to win this one over. Should I call her to make plans? Just ask how her job is going? Freeze her out and do nothing? UGhh

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Apr 13, 2012 4:35 pm ]
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Just send text, I'm doing (some random cool shit somewhere) you are welcome to join me! If not send your cute friend!

Author:	keps1 [ Fri Apr 13, 2012 7:23 pm ]
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Thanks for the help heywood. Im worried that will just give her and easy way to deflect or blow it off I want to meet up with her again to show she doesnt need to be freaked out because it went too fast, or whatever it is thats going on.

Author:	Hakuna [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 12:01 am ]
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Don't text her, you should never be the one to END a freeze out, except in those rare circumstances where it actually helps you establish frame control (this is not one of those). Your situation is very simple, her interest level dropped because you made it too easy. The entire beginning of a relationship with a girl should be eclipsed with secksual tension. She sees that other girls want to fuck you, she sees that you're still HESITANT to commit to her, she sees that you're an ambitious guy who doesn't like to be tied down, etc. She always has to initiate texting convos, online convos, everything . YOU MUST BE A CHALLENGE TO HER. To many guys fuck this part up because they think "Ok, I got this girl. I can relax and stop talking to other girls." After you're ABOUT TO be exclusive with a girl, you should go out and not come home till you get 10 other numbers. Just KNOWING that you have other options will keep you away from giving off a desperate vibe. When a girl tells you "I feel like we're moving too fast," or suddenly retracts from a trip and says "I'm anxious of leaving everything now," it's a reflection of her INTERNAL ANXIETY that has suddenly told her "Shit...did you make the wrong decision?" It's her hamster asking her, "Are you SURE this is the BEST you can do? It seems like you're the prize right now, not him." Freeze out, talk to other girls. Make a blatantly obvious move on one of her friends. After she texts you, probably in a few days or so; send a glib response like "You're cute." And then ignore all her other texts that day. Trust me.

Author:	CaptainJackHarkness [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 8:42 am ]
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Agreed. Sounds like she backwards rationalized it and agreed she just did it with you for no reason.

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Author:	keps1 [ Mon Apr 16, 2012 4:15 pm ]
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So just got this text. Any saving it? If the girl wasnt so rad I wouldnt care, but she is rad, and we did click, and it could have been great. "I guess its pretty obvious that I cant fit getting to know someone into my schedule right now. U r rad and im glad to have met u but its bad timing." I know the writting is on the wall, but this is one I dont want to let go without a fight, or better yet a strategy. Thanks all for advice. I was thinking of something like sending a facebook message "look girl, I think you might have gotten the wrong impression. Im not trying to be your boyfriend or anything, thats the last thing I need. But I was thinking you are rad too, and was willing to see if you really are. Lets get tea next week and catch up, I want to hear about your new job. no expectations." Thoughts?

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Apr 17, 2012 1:17 am ]
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Quote: So just got this text. Any saving it? If the girl wasnt so rad I wouldnt care, but she is rad, and we did click, and it could have been great. "I guess its pretty obvious that I cant fit getting to know someone into my schedule right now. U r rad and im glad to have met u but its bad timing." I know the writting is on the wall, but this is one I dont want to let go without a fight, or better yet a strategy. Thanks all for advice. I was thinking of something like sending a facebook message "look girl, I think you might have gotten the wrong impression. Im not trying to be your boyfriend or anything, thats the last thing I need. But I was thinking you are rad too, and was willing to see if you really are. Lets get tea next week and catch up, I want to hear about your new job. no expectations." Thoughts? Close! Yes, leave out the asskiss part! End it with something like "you can make up for trying to take advantage of me"

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