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Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Thu Mar 22, 2012 1:14 am ]
Post subject:  Does initiating relationship giver her frame control?
I initiated being her boyfriend. Will this be a problem in the future? She was hinting that our relationship was not normal and that we did not act like fuck buddies a week earlier, so I decided to initiate one night. Now I probably gave in too fast and she did not chase long enough because this all happened in a span of 3 weeks. Funny thing is that she admitted to creeping on my facebook profile because I met her before but did not really initiate much contact because I was gaming other girls at the time and wasn't interested at the time.

Anyway, yesterday we were playfully teasing one another and she said something that I was lucky that she was shy one time and not socializing with other men(trying to fuck with my frame)and that once she is comfortable around people she will not be so shy, so I said ''Well I have no problem being friends with benefits again'' and I meant it. She responded with hugs and kisses, lol.


But I feel that she is trying to use jealousy as a method to control me. There have been one or two instances where she plays up other guys at being of higher value, usually the athletes at my school, so it is safe to assume she does. Does this stem from initiating the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship? She caught me being jealous once in public, but I don't want her to expect this all the time to control my behavior. When I said friends with benefits I think she heard the sincerity in my voice. I don't like games.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Thu Mar 22, 2012 3:00 am ]
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Let's get this right:yall only been together about 3 weeks now,or did I read that wrong?

BTW,it's general sense in the community that the girl should be the one to initiate emotions and relationships.That's true.Thing is though,why are you leaning towards getting serious with this chic?Why not just keep it on a fling basis until you get more notches/lays under your belt?
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Thu Mar 22, 2012 3:13 am ]
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Let's get this right:yall only been together about 3 weeks now,or did I read that wrong?

BTW,it's general sense in the community that the girl should be the one to initiate emotions and relationships.That's true.Thing is though,why are you leaning towards getting serious with this chic?Why not just keep it on a fling basis until you get more notches/lays under your belt?
Yeah, 3 weeks.
She hinted the relationship, I don't know if this counts though but I guess I violated some rule. I never showed emotion first, she did. I still don't show all my emotions any way, because I don't like giving all my cards away.

Interesting. I haven't considered the serious long term with the chick at all. She mentions the future a few times. '3 months' from now blah blah blah. I think this will be a fling, I am still talking other women and getting a few options opening up if anything were to happen and we suddenly break up. I am not naive.

But the problem is I can't just take back what I said can I? I feel the girl is getting herself attached to me and it's been escalating emotionally more for her than it is for me.
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