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| Author: | Amonx9 [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 8:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | My drinking gf... |
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| Author: | mattyman [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 3:08 pm ] |
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Dude it sounds like she's got a real problem with it. Also sounds like she's in denial about having this problem, like a proper, full bodied alcoholic. You should talk to her like if it was any other problem. Tell her how it's affecting you. Be supportive, be gentle, etc. If she reacts badly, give her some time and space to think it through. If she's downright defensive after you give it a real shot, or two, then obviously it'll be time to let her go. Drop her the ultimatum and move on. If you are worth the effort to change for, she'll change for you. Otherwise, she's not really that much into you anyway, right? |
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| Author: | RedHoTChilliPeppers [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 6:52 pm ] |
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Yeah I think you should really need to Talk to her. Explain your side, and ask her the things you wanted to ask, like if she has a problem or something. |
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| Author: | knight_justun [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 8:43 pm ] |
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do that. give her time and if she didn't make an effort then let go. |
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| Author: | PUA-Paris [ Fri Mar 02, 2012 7:36 am ] |
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^ it's not that easy to change just because you love someone so much. If I was you, I'd be careful with the ultimatum to leave her. You've been with her for 2 years, I'm sure you love and care about her a lot, try your best to change her |
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| Author: | Kazak [ Sat Mar 03, 2012 12:50 am ] |
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In a similar situation to yours actually, and I agree with Paris on the ultimatum. This sounds like a legitimate problem you want to talk to her about, dropping an ultimatum because she may be in rejection may not be the best way to go, especially after 2 years if you care about this girl. |
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| Author: | Centre [ Sat Mar 03, 2012 1:43 pm ] |
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Maybe get the advice of some professionals...is there an AA forum you could ask? With all due respect to my brothers I don't think we are qualified to give advice on addiction related issues here on a pick up forum. |
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