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Author:  Decessum [ Tue Feb 28, 2012 5:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Girlfriend raped long time ago
Hello, this is a very serious topic for me, so I would appreciate your seriousness as well.
My girlfriend told me two days ago, a story only her really really close friend knows, and that she felt confident to tell me.
She was raped, a long time ago, when she was 14, by someone from her family. She managed to send the guy to jail, but got out with the help of someone then they both raped her again.
This was almost 8 years ago, she is fine about it, she isn't traumatized or anything. Her family didn't believed her when she told them, because the guy was the "perfect guy" ...
I was really shocked by this, I wanted to kill the guy, I told to myself that I hope I never see this person.
I didn't want to type this out here, because I didn't want to have to think about it again.
This is one of those things I wish I hadn't known. I wanted to cry but I didn't, the other guy that did something to her was an ex boyfriend of her that was obsessed with her.
What can I do to calm my mind? I keep repeating in my head a scenario of tearing this guys apart if I ever see them, I don't want it in my head.
Author:  "The Gift" [ Tue Feb 28, 2012 5:48 pm ]
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You know how to treat a girl. You obviously care for this girl. So you be the boyfriend she deserves. No, you don't have to be overly "let me know if you want to chat etc" all the time. She just needs to know you're there. She probably doesn't really like talking about it that much.

You're her boyfriend. You're her man. That guy who did that to her is f*cking disgusting, and a weak individual. Don't worry, that kind of sh*t will stay on his record for a long time.
Author:  Decessum [ Tue Feb 28, 2012 6:07 pm ]
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Thank you!
As a matter of fact, she didn't want to tell me because she didn't want to live it again, I didn't forced her to tell me, she wanted to tell me because she trusts me.
She says I have been the best boyfriend she's ever had, and I am glad that she is fine about it, that it didn't leave her traumatized.
I will always be there for her, by the looks of it, she is over it, it didn't affect her to talk about it. And I am slowly leaving it behind, I don't want to have this toughts of literally killing the guy, I see myself doing it.
I promised no one will ever harm her, and even though it was almost 8 years ago, I felt it so close.
Thanks for your reply, I appreciate it :)
Author:  PurpleTurtle [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 2:46 am ]
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Hey Decessum my gf was also raped when she was younger and I had the same reaction as you. She told me the story about how this kid became obsessed with her and one day he came through the back door of her house and raped her. She was able to fight him off eventually. I've never felt so angry in my life before. I couldn't even imagine the horror of something like that. I wanted to punch, scream, cry and pillage, I had to walk my feelings off. Your feelings of anger will subside with time and the fact she brought something like this up with you means she trusts you. There's no need to bring it up again ever. I took my gf to see the girl with the dragon tattoo and I didn't know there was a rape scene in it. I felt terrible about that because it made her relive that night again. Try to avoid situations like that if you can.
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