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| Author: | mattyman [ Fri Feb 24, 2012 5:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Shit tests in relationships |
Hey all, Been seeing this girl for a month or so now. Not sure on the status of us but I assume we're getting more and more "official". Anyway. A couple of questions: 1) PUA is a lot about grooming oneself for initial impressions. After that it really doesn't help you too much in relationships. BUT, passing shit tests is really important. So the question is...how does one go about doing this constantly day in day out? You can prepare and be really alert for them if it's just a few times, but if she's constantly doing this, how do you program yourself to react? For example, she'd say stuff like: "That joke wasn't funny" "I'm really inexperienced" (about sex) "I have a fat ass" (she doesn't) "I need someone to take care of me, i'm tired of taking care of others" To be honest, I can't be bothered thinking of witty/smart remarks all the time. I have better things to do with my brain, which brings me to... 2) Doesn't not giving a shit actually make you more alpha? I don't need to pass these shit tests by being funny all the time, coz I can just go see other girls if she doesn't like my shit. Thanks guys. |
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| Author: | goodnamesaretaken [ Fri Feb 24, 2012 6:35 am ] |
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To handle shit tests you can either take the cocky/funny approach or you can just choose to not say anything. Not responding at all works just fine. |
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| Author: | pumpington [ Fri Feb 24, 2012 12:08 pm ] |
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really with shit tests, being super attentive and aware of them, might actually slow you down, the best way to pass a shit test is just not give a fuck about her frame, passively dismiss it and don't have a reaction that is not congruent to your frame just stay congruent and show absolutely no sign of an emotion shift at all, what you say to handle the test is not as important as if you keep your cool or not, just don't buy into what she wants to hear, if she demands compliance, just don't comply, if she wants you to qualify to some arbitrary bullshit that corners you and gives her a means to judge you negatively for no reason, don't qualify to it, if she insults you or seeks a reaction, don't give her one, just remain indifferent to her frame and don't let it emotionally phase you, just stay in control |
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